Stress over report cards?

[b_light]

lucky for me i finally got honor roll my last year or school on the first term and colleges dont look at the rest so smooth sailing for me. (never got honor roll since primary school )

 

[digimon7068]

with very young kids you walk a fine line between not doing enough and complete overload for the kid. . .be careful. . .maybe the kid's friggin bored. . .happens more often than you might think. . .

 

[Y_lifter]

Awesome news Smurf..
Good job, both of you.

Now as a reward, get the boy some clothes..

 

[dognutz]

I was just about to say that the school is going to say he has add or adhd because they say any kid that is not a piece of mold in class has it, they tried to say my kid had it but all the tests said nope which killed his teacher and the shrink. One of the biggest factors is hereditary though and nobody on either side of our family ever had it but sounds like yours does. I do know the meds work well for kids that actually need it.

 

[habitualhealth]

Any other parents here find themselves getting overly stressed out about your young childs report card? Im talking Kindergarten here. Im wondering if my son will always have a hard time in school if he cant get a Satisfactory grade in just Kindergarten? Im all stressed and worried. I never had a problem in school in my life. School was always easy. Im not sure if over reacting will make things worse for him but also if i dont make a big deal about it, how will he get the picture that he really needs to work harder?

OMG! Yesssssss. Kindergarten too....however, mini me gets color cards at school for behavior. Not so much academics. She's extremely advanced in her academics...reading, writing, adding, subtracting some stuff....BUUUUUTTTT lord have mercy if I get one more bad behavior report I'm going to lock her in her room with me for the next 10 years. It's sooooo disheartening when she comes home with yet another bad behavior report.

I actually had to do THE hardest thing I've done yet as a mother a week ago and did not take her trick or treating because her report was so bad at school. OH....MAH....GAH. Talk about a tantrum. But for she and I.....we don't watch alot of television at home...never have...so for me to take away TV or the radio....or her toys....just wasn't significant enough in her lil 5 year old brain. I tell you what....it was by far the best thing I could've done in her eyes. (Though she probably plotted my death that night) Her little butt has straightened up alot at school. Last night her school hosted a skate night (go 80's!)...I told her she was NOT going unless she came home with a purple card (best behavior report). Needless to say, I pulled my pony tail to the side, teased up my bangs a bit and strapped on my fanny pack....I was sooooooooooooo proud of her for getting purple. (not to mention we had a friggin' blast skating!) YAY FOR GOOD BEHAVIOR!

Wow...I just typed alot. Dang.

 

[ksharp01]

I stress out myself but the difference with me is mine is older. He always did well in school up until last year...middle school. But I have been using this system that works for me anyway and since your son is younger you may have to make some small changes but for every good grade my son gets he earns tickets. You set the scale like 3 for A's, 2 for B's and 1 for C's. Bad grades I deduct. So many tickets he earns things. In may case 5 tickets for hour of playstation, 10 tickets go to movies...something like that. They seem to find satisfaction in earning these tickets. One of my son't teachers gave me this suggestion.
Good luck to you because I know how tuff this is. I think I dread report cards more than my son does.

 

[CO B-man]

Report cards are not a true measure of a childs intelligence. Most Cee students turn out to be more successful than 4.0 A+++ students in life. Why because people skills are equally as important and while they are not constantly building their book knowledge they are more than not expanding their people skills. A report card just measures how well they did their homework (And tests) some of us (C students) know the material but would rather hang with friends than spend an extra hour making sure the homework was right. Double checking comes over time eventually when someone starts paying you to do something right.

 

[Raptorex]

I got straight F's, now look at me.

 

[jestro]

I actually had to do THE hardest thing I've done yet as a mother a week ago and did not take her trick or treating because her report was so bad at school.

Honestly, I think there's got to be better punishments than that. My daughter would have to rob a bank or something for me to not let her go trick or treating at 5 years old. There's a real limited number of years that they can enjoy kid stuff. My daughter is 12 and feels like shes too old to go trick or treating, and it is god damn sad for me.
Everyone give HH red.

 

[Smurfy]

I was just about to say that the school is going to say he has add or adhd because they say any kid that is not a piece of mold in class has it, they tried to say my kid had it but all the tests said nope which killed his teacher and the shrink. One of the biggest factors is hereditary though and nobody on either side of our family ever had it but sounds like yours does. I do know the meds work well for kids that actually need it.

It's been my experience that schools are careful about "saying" a kid has ADHD because this is not something that can really be diagnosed by a teacher. It requires evaluation by a mental health professional (ie therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist, etc). Mostly, it is diagnosed by behavioral observation and teacher/parent report or surveys. Very little in the way of actual psychological tests can be used to arrive at a diagnosis for ADHD. The school teachers will often report what they see behaviorally or functionally in the school setting, but beyond that, they are careful with how they report things to the parents. And if they arent careful, they certainly should be. Its one thing to suggest that a child may have a problem with inattention or focus or impulse control, its a whole other thing to suggest a diagnosis of ADHD when a child has not been properly evaluated.