Stress over report cards?

[Cutiebaby]

Oh god. Smurf I know exacty what you are talking about here. My son is now is 2nd grade but I was a reck when he was in kindergarden. His work was not what I believed it should have been. He has made great progress since K-garden. But In answer to your ?, yes I was stressed and worried and went to plenty of meetings.

 

[redguru]

Florida has voluntary public preschool for four year olds. I think it introduces children to a structured teaching environment at an earlier age and they're much better equipped when the child steps into kindergarten.

 

[habitualhealth]

Honestly, I think there's got to be better punishments than that. My daughter would have to rob a bank or something for me to not let her go trick or treating at 5 years old. There's a real limited number of years that they can enjoy kid stuff. My daughter is 12 and feels like shes too old to go trick or treating, and it is god damn sad for me.
Everyone give HH red.

As a parent you do what you know will work for your child. Each punishment for each child is different. And as a mother, it's my sole responsibility to identify with what will impact her even at 5 years old, to go in the direction she needs to be. If I tell her, if you do this, then this will happen....If I do NOT abide by that then trust, respect, security, love, and honor is NOT instilled in her. Regardless of what YOU do for your child as punishment, you're in no place to instruct or dictate how I should punish mine.

Clearly you don't understand the severity of instilling at a VERY EARLY age, respect and principals. If I allowed her to go trick or treating after 7 weeks of misbehaving at school in the worst way and specifically telling her if your behavior does NOT improve, you will not do this........I would have failed her as a mother.

Your close minded approach speaks volumes for you. Don't think for two seconds I didn't cry my eyes out that night. Even through her 2-3 hour tantrum, I held strong to my word. I could've easily caved. All that would instill in her is that "you know what honey, it's ok to continue acting that way...all you have to do is cry and pitch a fit and you'll get what you want". It's a shame there aren't more parents out there like me who are able to make a decision like that for their child. Trust that, at five years old, she is WELL aware of what is going on. It's her job to push the envelope and test the limits as much as possible. It's my job to teach her where that line of limit falls and to make sure she understands that regardless of her age and actions, she too is responsible.

Clearly that consequence made an impact. Her behavior has significantly improved since. Her teacher has since contacted me saying she was extremely impressed as well as other parties involved.

Too many parents take the easy road these days. It's a shame.

 

[gonelifting]

My daughter is in Trans K. That's the year in between prek and kendergarten. lol So anyway, the teacher says "She knows her stuff because she verbaslly tells me all the answers easily, but when we sit down to put them on paper, she gets distracted. When I ask her to draw the difference between 2 ducks and 12 ducks, she doesn't draw just 10 ducks, she keeps going up to 20 or more. She knows better than that."


ummm wtf? Did we do subtraction and math like that in PRE- K? This is the teacher's first year out of college. She really should be supervised when teaching these kids.


This week the teacher told us "I think I've been pushing the kids too hard."

lol I'll break her!

 

[jestro]

Clearly you don't understand the severity of instilling at a VERY EARLY age, respect and principals. If I allowed her to go trick or treating after 7 weeks of misbehaving at school in the worst way and specifically telling her if your behavior does NOT improve, you will not do this........I would have failed her as a mother.

Your close minded approach speaks volumes for you.

Too many parents take the easy road these days. It's a shame.

I understand plenty. I'm trying to tell you that there are better punishments than the one you used.
Also, a kid that age can't look 7 weeks into the future. You cant say in September anything about halloween. Thats another world to them. If she has problems on September 4th, you need to dole out the punishment that day.
Of course, once you say something you need to follow through, you just may want to think alittle bit about what you say.

 

[PICK3]

I got straight F's, now look at me.

now that's a surprise

 

[Cutiebaby]

I was just about to say that the school is going to say he has add or adhd because they say any kid that is not a piece of mold in class has it, they tried to say my kid had it but all the tests said nope which killed his teacher and the shrink. One of the biggest factors is hereditary though and nobody on either side of our family ever had it but sounds like yours does. I do know the meds work well for kids that actually need it.

That is exactly how the city I am living in is..Every child who misbehaves had Adhd and needs to be put on meds. I had my son diagnosed at a young age with Adhd, it does not help that he has a disapline problem as well.For 3 years now I have been batteling with "medicate,medicate,medicate". The school gets all pissy with me because I refuse to put him on meds. Been there done that. I am sorry but I am not about to make my child dependent on meds that i feel are not needed. Sure he has adhd, but it is not a severe case. The older he gets the better he seems to get. Now the school is just focused on me putting him on meds, nothing more.
See the problem is that they get paid to teach my child. No more, no less.
I just found out from my friend who had her teacher/parent conference that they are now starting the same bullshit with her about her son. It is sad the lengths that the schools will go to.

 

[habitualhealth]

I understand plenty. I'm trying to tell you that there are better punishments than the one you used.
Also, a kid that age can't look 7 weeks into the future. You cant say in September anything about halloween. Thats another world to them. If she has problems on September 4th, you need to dole out the punishment that day.
Of course, once you say something you need to follow through, you just may want to think alittle bit about what you say.

I never suggested I said "7 weeks from now you're not going trick or treating unless your behavior improves". What better punishment would you suggest dad?

I'm dying to know what you think I should've done that I hadn't tried already.

In addition, color codes...purple is the best, blue, yellow, green, and red is the worst. This tells me she has AT LEAST 5 opportunities at school to straighten up her act before she gets put in time out and ultimately to the principals office. In addition, she faces consequences at home with each color. The few days prior she had received green. I pick her up after school ON HALLOWEEN and she says "guess what mommy, I've got a surprise for you!" Excited I say, "really? what is it?".......She puts her hand on her hip and says "I got RED today!" Astonished and in TOTAL shock....the decision I made at that point was in fact the best for her than evening.

 

[CO B-man]

When I ask her to draw the difference between 2 ducks and 12 ducks, she doesn't draw just 10 ducks, she keeps going up to 20 or more. She knows better than that."

You should have taken away all her toys and told her she can not go trick or treating for the rest of her life. j/k!

 

[Smurfy]

Unfortunately, instruction is not centered around each child's needs, rather it is standardized for the entire population. Not everyone learns the same way. Not everyone's brain takes in and retains information the same way. I read an interesting book by Dr. Mel Levine called A Mind at a Time and it is very relevant to this topic. Also another book I read about a couple of Ivy League college students who suffered with Learning Disabilities and ADHD growing up, called Learning Outside the Lines. I'd suggest these books for anyone interested or anyone who is experiencing these types of things with their own children.