Let me get this straight right now about my wife and I

[big_bad_buff]

why would you want to make somone who doesnt love you anymore stay with you? let it go bro

 

[chesty]

We/counselor are not forcing her to love me or drop the guy. She has had it explained to her about why she should do this and it is up to her to follow the advice or not. Yes, hard to explain, but at one point or another we all have not loved the one we are with for life.

 

[Robert Jan]

Have we?
Is there someone we should be with for life?
Is this her?

 

[WODIN]

Time for a massive dump my friend.

 

[Smurfy]

I find it hard to believe that a counselor would straight out tell you what to do/not to do. And how the counselor can predict whether or not the relationship will rekindle. I thought a counselor was supposed to facilitate not instruct. Maybe Im wrong.
What kind of counselor is this? Qualifications? Licensed? Im curious is all.

And i wish you the best of luck in this.

 

[chesty]

Licensed many, many years. She has strongly suggested that we do certain things based on experience in helping people. She has never put a gaurantee on any rekindling of feelings. She has always said that when both parties are 100% committed to bettering themselves that the feelings will return. This is of course assuming no outside influences such as boyfriends/girlfriends, etc. Plus you must honestly be 100% commited. If not you will not have anything. And she has always maintained there is no gaurantee.

She has maintained in fact that I let her go as that is the only way she would ever return. The counselor is supposed to make you feel very uncomfortable and when you are making wrong choices she will point them out and not mince words.

We both like her and feel she is qualified completely to help us whatever the final outcome.

Again, I have the line in the sand drawn. Once crossed it is borrowed time.

 

[IhateOsama]

Time for a massive dump my friend.

And he is not talking about a lincoln log. Chesty this is getting to a point where Wodin, The Ranger, Corn and I may have to kidnap you and take you to a titty bar for some BJ's. It's over done more than burt toast! Get your viagra ready and show the world you are Mr super stud on the rebound and you are the tuna hunter because your last tuna turned out to be a seabass carp.

 

[chesty]

That may very well be. I will honor my end of the bargain. I want my conscience clear. Like I said I have already cut her lose and by Friday in the am she will be completely free to bone this guy to her hears content if she so chooses to.

 

[spongebob]

i cant keep up with all these wifey threads. this is crazy. can we get a summarization on the subject at hand.

 

[rpol]

That may very well be. I will honor my end of the bargain. I want my conscience clear. Like I said I have already cut her lose and by Friday in the am she will be completely free to bone this guy to her hears content if she so chooses to.

If she chooses him let her go at that point" for we are called to peace" 1 Corinthians 7 you have the grounds under God's word, let your conscience be clear on that bro and God will eventually lead you to a person who will appreciate you and truly love you.It is very hard once somebody has committed adultry to get them to change,trust me I have been there. Often the first relationship problem and they are right back there again thinking"the grass is greener".. Still praying for you Bro. Be well and God Bless