I'm not getting enough sex in my current relationship...

[all the whey]

Forge, I have dated a lot of single moms.

First. I guarantee she was serving it up more frequently in the begining to land you.

Second. If she was really into you she would make more of an effort for teh sekzen.

Third. Atleast, you will probably get a lot of sex when she is ovulating like the last sucker did.

 

[Forge]

Well all joking aside. I am dating a guy with 2 kids. I was adamant about never dating a man with kids.
It's not been easy to deal with his kids, but there are sacrifices in every relationship.
As hard as it is for me to deal with two kids that are not mine, it's as hard for him to deal with a woman that never wanted kids.
It's not easy, but when you love someone, you try to adjust.

So Blueta, do you live with him or just see him now and then? How is your sex life, or rather how often do you two find time to make it happen? Sorry for being forward like this but I'm really curious.

I’ve been helping her in many ways with the kid, family reunions, babysitting for her, etc, hoping to make things easier for her so that she will have some energy left for us time. I guess I feel like my efforts aren’t being reciprocated, like I’m putting forth a lot of effort to meet her needs but I’m not getting my needs met. Or put another way, I feel like I'm putting more work and sacrifice into the relationship than she is.

 

[Forge]

SOUNDS kinda needy. I mean he wants to sleep over EVERY night??? She want her alone time whats wrong w/ that???

WOAH, hold on there, I'm not saying every night, not by a long shot. We are only two months into this, but I would like sex with her more than once a week. I've adapted my life quite a bit to incorporate her into it, I'd just like for her to do the same for me.

 

[rnch]

hell, who IS getting enough? seems like it's one extreme or the other.........

 

[all the whey]

So Blueta, do you live with him or just see him now and then? How is your sex life, or rather how often do you two find time to make it happen? Sorry for being forward like this but I'm really curious.

I’ve been helping her in many ways with the kid, family reunions, babysitting for her, etc, hoping to make things easier for her so that she will have some energy left for us time. I guess I feel like my efforts aren’t being reciprocated, like I’m putting forth a lot of effort to meet her needs but I’m not getting my needs met. Or put another way, I feel like I'm putting more work and sacrifice into the relationship than she is.

That was my next question.

If you have been "helping" her. She will not appreciate it, and think of you as a punk.

I don't know why???? It has happened to me, and a lot of people I know. If you don't believe me, then ask around!

Cut back on the "helping". I bet she will step up the sex again, or guilt you into it.

BTW. I am on your side about this!

 

[heatherrae]

I used to have this rule: never date single mothers. They have a lot going on in their lives, they have a higher priority than you, they get tired by the end of the day due to fussing with the kid all the time. Not to mention that the child can be a great cock block at the absolute worst times.

Then I met my current GF, and she is just a terrific girl. We’ve fallen in love, things are going incredibly well. Except she has a young daughter in pre-school. And some nights she wants her alone time after the kid goes to sleep, so I’m only sleeping over one or two nights a week. Which means we are only having sex one or two nights a week, three at the most. And I don’t think it’s enough for me.

We’ve talked about it, she is aware of how I feel, but right now with how busy she is she just can’t give any more than this. And she has always been one of those girls who can be completely happy with two or three times a week, where I’ve always preferred it every day, even more than once a day if I could get it.

It would be incredibly selfish of me to leave her over something as stupid as not enough sex given the circumstances, and given how great the relationship is going otherwise. But I can’t get it out of my thoughts, it bothers me, and I wonder if I can truly be OK with only a couple times a week. I wonder if I can truly sleep with her and not fool around at all, if I can keep my urges in check. Do I even want to?

Fuck, I never should have broken one of my rules….

Meh. Do whatever floats your boat. Just decide what is most important to you and either move on or suck it up. Regardless, quit bitching at her about it.

 

[Forge]

Forge, I have dated a lot of single moms.

First. I guarantee she was serving it up more frequently in the begining to land you.

Second. If she was really into you she would make more of an effort for teh sekzen.

Third. Atleast, you will probably get a lot of sex when she is ovulating like the last sucker did.

FIRST: Yes, it’s slowed down recently. You are correct.

SECOND: That’s how I feel too, I believe actions speak louder than words.

THIRD: dunno, she was married before and her daughter was an accident.

 

[blueta2]

So Blueta, do you live with him or just see him now and then? How is your sex life, or rather how often do you two find time to make it happen? Sorry for being forward like this but I'm really curious.

I’ve been helping her in many ways with the kid, family reunions, babysitting for her, etc, hoping to make things easier for her so that she will have some energy left for us time. I guess I feel like my efforts aren’t being reciprocated, like I’m putting forth a lot of effort to meet her needs but I’m not getting my needs met. Or put another way, I feel like I'm putting more work and sacrifice into the relationship than she is.

I live alone and he lives alone and has his kids every other weekend.
I rarely see his kids actually b/c on the weekends he has them, I don't always have time to hang with them.
So my situation is a lot different than yours seeing that she prob has her kid all the time and you're going to her place.
My b/f is NEVER EVER too tired for sex.....but since I have been battling health issues, it's not as frequent as he would like ;-)

I think it's AWESOME that you help her that much, and trust me, she does appreciate it all.
My guess on the sex thing, when men are needy and want it too much, women tend to back down. Play a little hard to get.

 

[vixensghost]

Hire a babysitter twice a week. If I counted correct, this will give you fours days of sex.

IF that is not enough, hire a nanny.

 

[blueta2]

That was my next question.

If you have been "helping" her. She will not appreciate it, and think of you as a punk.

I don't know why???? It has happened to me, and a lot of people I know. If you don't believe me, then ask around!

Cut back on the "helping". I bet she will step up the sex again, or guilt you into it.

BTW. I am on your side about this!

what? worst advice ever!!!!

I need to find a cat doing the "tsk tsk" move