I'm not getting enough sex in my current relationship...

[all the whey]

I suppose that all the single fathers on this board were losers too?

I didn't say "all".

Only the ones that truely are as bad as their ex's say.

I also didn't say "all" single mom's bad mouth baby's daddy. (but, I would say %90.) lollololo

 

[Forge]

Forge I didnt mean to say that there was something wrong with you babysitting per se. What I meant was that IMO it is too early for you to have ANY CONTACT with her child. I know you are a good guy that isn't into hurting anyone, especially NOT A CHILD. But when you start *playing daddy* - which you pretty much have been as to a child under the age of 18 (I know, I am VERY old fashioned when it comes to this viewpoint) only "mommy and daddy" sleep in the same bed.

I think that maybe the two of you rushed into combining her *adult female life* with her *mommy life* waaaaaaaaaaay too soon and there is no going back.

Either try to talk this out with her or just break it off clean and simple and don't make the same mistake again in the future. If any other single mom suggests that you have ANYTHING to do with her kids until the two of you are VERY COMMiTTED (I am talking nearly married) then I suggest you run like a mad man in the opposite direction.

My advice would be the same if you were female.

Parents should put more thought into separating these two lives before even THINKING about co-mingling the two.

You aren't a bad guy and she isn't a bad person. I just don't think that either of you saw this *issue*. You never having had kids, I dont fault so much. But her? How many other guys has she brought around her daughter and how many guys will be "next one in line"? As I said, my viewpoint is the same regardless of gender.

I respect your opinion BM, but on this I must strongly disagree.

I understand a mother’s desire to shield her children from strange men and her dating life, but your advice seems way excessive. I didn’t meet the child until four weeks in, so she did take her time to learn what kind of man I am first. She has full custody, which means her daughter is a huge part of her life. The only real way for us to progress the relationship was to include me into that part of her life. Barring that, we would be relegated to seeing each other once a week if that. She wanted more, I wanted more, so I met the daughter. And on that front it has gone extremely well for all three of us.

I agree we may have progressed too quickly with the sleeping over and whatnot, and she may need to scale back a bit to recollect herself, that may be what is happening now. But if she had completely kept the daughter from me up until the point we were almost married (theoretically), well what would that say about her trust in me? The relationship would never grow that way.

Personally I’m flattered she trusted me enough to share that part of her life with me. It means a lot.


Maybe the solution is really just to masturbate more and let things progress gradually. It just seems counterproductive for the sex life this early on to be so sparse, I guess I’m just not use to it or comfortable with it. Hopefully she starts inviting me over for more sleepovers and things pick up.

 

[Bikini Mod]

No easy answers here or in any situation that involves children.

I hope that you can all come to some sort of middleground or happy medium.

I know you are a good guy and want only good things.