Night Fly said:
I have a question for you ladies. I have not once...ever....used a vibrator. I know you all are going to say that I am missing out...but...I just don't know. I mean...if my boyfriend can't please me...then I don't see how adding a vibrator into the relationship would be of any good.
BUT...on the other hand....I am sure that having one to use while I am with my man....could be nice and fun!
How often do you ladies actually use the vibrator when no one else is around? Do you find yourselves actually becoming...well...addicted to it? (hope that makes sense)
I thought that too. My first time using one I was pretty intimidated, but I was lucky in that I was with a woman who picked up on my nervousness and showed me how they worked on herself. When I saw how much she enjoyed it, I had to try. Eventually I bought my own and only used it "with company," lol. Finally, though, I just figured what the hell, and gave it a solo run. I did use it a lot for a while, but then I branched out to other toys, and then returned to the good ol' retro hands and fingers. With other things thrown in for spice now and then. So, no, I don't worry about addiction.
It's not about "if he can't please me." It's about: "sex is fun, but there's always room for improvement, as long as the neighbors aren't calling the police cause they think he's murdering you 'cos you're making too much noise when you..." ...well, you get the point.
I always figure it's time to try something new when I haven't found myself saying "that was the best ever" for a month or two. I'm not talking anything exotic necessarily, but a little spice is nice. My current BF is a little more conservative than I am, so I get the fun of trying a lot of thing all over again.
Wyst