I guess I'm no longer a parent

[biteme]

bingo!

I'm 28 and I still recent my father for acting in similar ways to how you are acting now. The only reason I still even talk to him is because I like seeing my mother, otherwise I could go the rest of my lifetime without missing him.

Swallow your pride a little now, you'll be thankful for it later.

It's not about pride. I will not bend and if she feels the way you do in the future, so be it.

 

[jaded]

Swallow your pride a little now, you'll be thankful for it later.

Eh, I don't think biteme is acting condescending towards her or failing to swallow his pride... He is making a concerted effort to reach out to her. Asking her not to swear isn't too great an expectation...

 

[SoreArms]

They sure did. They made sure that they couldn't hear it. THey let me do things that I wouldn't let my daughter do though. Such as bring my girlfriend over and go into my room and close the door. They had to have known what was going on. I think they were afraid I'd run away if they did anything. Being a parent is hard. Difficult decisions.

I'm sure they felt about your music the same you feel about her music, except they loathed the "satanic" messages while you loath the cursing and violence. Nontheless, don't forget how you felt about it, I'm sure you felt your parents were silly for it.

 

[SoreArms]

Eh, I don't think biteme is acting condescending towards her or failing to swallow his pride... He is making a concerted effort to reach out to her. Asking her not to swear isn't too great an expectation...

I totally agree about the cursing thing

 

[nycgirl]

Biteme, she will come around. She is a 13 year old girl. My dad was beyond over-protective and strict. I can probably count how many times he and I had a conversation when I was 13-21. Which sounds horrible considering my parents are still married and we lived in the same house.
Despite the fact that I was a spoiled brat, I know my Dad knew I loved him.

I came around when I was 22. I appreciate everything he has ever done for me and now understand why he was so tough on me.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

It's not about pride. I will not bend and if she feels the way you do in the future, so be it.

I implore you not to be hard headed. You lose her, you'll know pain.
You take things for granted - we all do When I lost my niece, I was fucking crushed. It's been years and I still stare at pictures...

 

[jaded]

It's not about pride. I will not bend and if she feels the way you do in the future, so be it.

When you say you won't bend, you're referring to your expectations about the music and the cursing right?

The cursing I understand... how anal are you being about the music? I don't know how open concept your house is but if she's playing the music at a decent volume level and it's just that sounds travels in your house than maybe you need to be a bit more tolerant about that..

 

[SoreArms]

I will not bend and if she feels the way you do in the future, so be it.

Isn't that pride? Isn't pride a sin?

 

[biteme]

I'm sure they felt about your music the same you feel about her music, except they loathed the "satanic" messages while you loath the cursing and violence. Nontheless, don't forget how you felt about it, I'm sure you felt your parents were silly for it.

I did but I realize now that they were looking out for my best interests and I hold no grudge for that. Wait until you are a parent.

 

[jaded]

Wait until you are a parent.

you sound like my Mom