I guess I'm no longer a parent

[StickFigure]

Yes. It just leaves a void because I was so use to taking care of her and doing things for her. I didn't think she really meant it, but it appears she's fine without me. I've heard that they do this and then come around again when they turn 18 or so. Life and relationships are always changing.

Hey brother, I'm real sorry to hear this. As alot of peeps have said so far, this is the norm for that age but whatever you do, don't stop making contact with her, don't stop trying to spend time with her, use sound wisdom when it comes time to make the decisions that are "strict" in her mind. She is in a sense, testing you, if only on a subconsious level, to see if you really love her. All kids at all times need to know that their parents love them, especially idf they are seperated or divorced.
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Don't give up on her brohiem, I'll pray for you two.

 

[biteme]

Yeah, for sure. Whenever I complain to my mom or get frustrated with her for her worrying she's like, 'When you are a mother and you have your own daughter you will understand.' Maybe she does miss you but doesn't want to be the one to call you...stubbornness/pride/whatever. I'd call her and say hello.

I've tried. I called her yesterday and left a message that I love her and wanted to do something for her this weekend. No return call. I hate to say it, but they could be erasing the message over at her mother's before she gets it. I told the stepfather what I thought of his behavior and he's not use to being talked to like that I'm told. Anyway, I'll call again. If she doesn't want anything to do with me right now, I can handle it. Just have to fill the void.

 

[redguru]

Send her a greeting card if her stepdad is erasing the messages.

 

[jaded]

I've tried. I called her yesterday and left a message that I love her and wanted to do something for her this weekend. No return call. I hate to say it, but they could be erasing the message over at her mother's before she gets it. I told the stepfather what I thought of his behavior and he's not use to being talked to like that I'm told. Anyway, I'll call again. If she doesn't want anything to do with me right now, I can handle it. Just have to fill the void.

Ugh, I really hope they aren't erasing the messages. That would be petulant and unfair to her. Kids can be stubborn, especially 13 year old ones. No teenager likes to admit to Dad that they're wrong and they really DO need their parents even if it's true. Good for you for trying...your daughter is lucky to have such a great Daddy. She will appreciate your love and all that you have done for her more when she's older, I'm sure of it.

 

[jaded]

Send her a greeting card if her stepdad is erasing the messages.

Good idea...

 

[biteme]

Ugh, I really hope they aren't erasing the messages. That would be petulant and unfair to her. Kids can be stubborn, especially 13 year old ones. No teenager likes to admit to Dad that they're wrong and they really DO need their parents even if it's true. Good for you for trying...your daughter is lucky to have such a great Daddy. She will appreciate your love and all that you have done for her more when she's older, I'm sure of it.

So many memories. I'll never regret it. I did everything with her when she was little. We went to Discovery Zone about twice a week sometimes more. I was everything to her when she was little, but relationships change and you just have to adjust. One day, I'm confident that we'll be close again. But she turned into Satan's daughter overnight. The hormones maybe.

 

[jaded]

So many memories. I'll never regret it. I did everything with her when she was little. We went to Discovery Zone about twice a week sometimes more. I was everything to her when she was little, but relationships change and you just have to adjust. One day, I'm confident that we'll be close again. But she turned into Satan's daughter overnight. The hormones maybe.

I think my parents thought the same thing about me and I really wasn't that bad...I was never into drugs/violence/drinking constantly/etc., we mostly fought about rules and school... I recall my mom saying to one of my girl friends after I got my tongue pierced for the second time (the first time she made me take it out), 'I hope you don't put your mom through what C. has put us through' LOL. Since then I've gotten my dad to admit that I really wasn't that bad and it could've been so much worse

 

[SoreArms]

I understand the cursing thing but what's your deal with the music.

 

[jenscats5]

My daughter has rarely been over here in over 2 months since she has turned 13. She says that I'm too strict. All I ask is that she doesn't curse and doesn't play her music where I can hear it. If that's asking too much, too bad. I have to admit, it hurts a little though. I guess she's reached that age. Doesn't need me anymore unless she needs money or a car.

I hate to say it, B, but it only gets worse as they get older.....

We hardly see J anymore & she's 18!! The times she comes over to spend with us is minimal at best & when she is here, she's always on the computer or text messaging or planning to go out -- so she's not really "here" anyway.

 

[Cutiebaby]

So many memories. I'll never regret it. I did everything with her when she was little. We went to Discovery Zone about twice a week sometimes more. I was everything to her when she was little, but relationships change and you just have to adjust. One day, I'm confident that we'll be close again. But she turned into Satan's daughter overnight. The hormones maybe.

maybe she has the wrong impressions from her step father and mother....she'll come back around once she matures and she will see you were making these rules to help her....