I guess I'm no longer a parent

[biteme]

WERD


I have a lot of trouble with some of my daughters on occasion and I have learned. My oldest used me and my family to the nth degree for a year.

That shit got old real fast.

Let her be where she wants to be but dont stop calling and extending yourself. Keep telling her that you love her, even though she wont say it back.

That is our job as parents.

I am not saying that you should EVER take abuse, but YOU must be the one to continue to offer love first.... I mean you are the one that brought her here... arent you?

Of course, whoever got the idea that I dont constantly call her and tell her that I love her? People need to read more carefully. God is good. He is exceedingly good and I know that everything will be taken care of in time. I just found out that my Sunday school teacher (my church is 30 minutes away, read my post on Body, Mind and Spirit to find out why) lives 3 houses down from my ex-wife. Only the believers know how the Lord works because our eyes our opened and we take notice. How are you doing E?

 

[Sub-Zero]

Biteme, I quit getting my daughter on weekends when she was around that age, I live in an apartment and don't really have anything for a teenage girl to do. Instead, since I only live 5 min from her, I started doing things like picking her up from school, taking her to lunch or dinner, driving her and her friends to the movies or to the waterpark and talk to her online everynight. I make it a point to say I love you and goodnight everynight online. She is 16 now and I think we are very close. Good Luck to you bro.


Dave

i can immagine u looking at ur daughters webshots and picking out which one of her friends are hot

thats what i do with people on my buddy list at least

 

[Bikini Mod]

Of course, whoever got the idea that I dont constantly call her and tell her that I love her? People need to read more carefully. God is good. He is exceedingly good and I know that everything will be taken care of in time. I just found out that my Sunday school teacher (my church is 30 minutes away, read my post on Body, Mind and Spirit to find out why) lives 3 houses down from my ex-wife. Only the believers know how the Lord works because our eyes our opened and we take notice. How are you doing E?

I know you do, just reinforcing it is all. I know there are many times when I have difficulty saying it to my oldest. It takes a tremendous degree of selfcontrol to not go off. Just a few minutes ago she said that the food I had in the house wasnt good enough.

NONE OF MY CHILDREN HAD EVER SAID THAT WHAT I HAD WAS NOT ENOUGH - whether it was food or shelter or toys, whatever.

This hurts a lot, but I have to keep reminding myself that she is only parroting her father's hatred and that she is a selfish teenager stuck in her own world...

Things are coming to some sort of resolution soon and MABYE we can start to have a life. My exbf has used up all of his get out of jail free cards with me (read my bipolar thread). Work is shamelessly abusing me (as they do every employee) but I cant just make a switch yet. Now all my ex and I have to fight over is money. He nearly had a hearattack when his lawyer informed him that he will have to pay for nearly 80% (if not more as I earn so little there is NO WAY that I can even pay 20% of the costs) of childcare expenses while I work. It is sad but I have accepted it. Our kids will now be raised like every other American kid - treated like a dog - while both their parents work like dogs in order to be able to afford SOMEONE ELSE to watch their kids while they work.

Makes sense.... dont it?

Chin up darlin'... it gets better eventually (or so I am told).

 

[biteme]

I know you do, just reinforcing it is all. I know there are many times when I have difficulty saying it to my oldest. It takes a tremendous degree of selfcontrol to not go off. Just a few minutes ago she said that the food I had in the house wasnt good enough.

NONE OF MY CHILDREN HAD EVER SAID THAT WHAT I HAD WAS NOT ENOUGH - whether it was food or shelter or toys, whatever.

This hurts a lot, but I have to keep reminding myself that she is only parroting her father's hatred and that she is a selfish teenager stuck in her own world...

Things are coming to some sort of resolution soon and MABYE we can start to have a life. My exbf has used up all of his get out of jail free cards with me (read my bipolar thread). Work is shamelessly abusing me (as they do every employee) but I cant just make a switch yet. Now all my ex and I have to fight over is money. He nearly had a hearattack when his lawyer informed him that he will have to pay for nearly 80% (if not more as I earn so little there is NO WAY that I can even pay 20% of the costs) of childcare expenses while I work. It is sad but I have accepted it. Our kids will now be raised like every other American kid - treated like a dog - while both their parents work like dogs in order to be able to afford SOMEONE ELSE to watch their kids while they work.

Makes sense.... dont it?

Chin up darlin'... it gets better eventually (or so I am told).

Just don't give up. I know you won't.

 

[dahamn]

i can immagine u looking at ur daughters webshots and picking out which one of her friends are hot

thats what i do with people on my buddy list at least

If you are really 17 then I can understand your comments......with that said, yes, she has some cute friends, and no, I won't introduce you.


Dave

 

[Sub-Zero]

If you are really 17 then I can understand your comments......with that said, yes, she has some cute friends, and no, I won't introduce you.


Dave

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