I am having trouble dealing with the everyday pain and discomfort of life

[jerkbox]

i think werd and bodybyfinaplix should hook up.

 

[out_at_sea]

SO wtf is wrong if someone is looking for some sympathy?

 

[from zero]

Werd, you are making each and every person on this thread seem like a complete dick with your callous responses. Perhaps there's nothing wrong with us, but perhaps there's something wrong with you ...

 

[glennds]

somtimes it is comforting to bitch and moan and have someone just say they see where you are coming from. who doesn't get down in the dumps once in a while? it is always temporary...cheer up lumberg.

 

[Werd]

Werd, you are making each and every person on this thread seem like a complete dick with your callous responses. Perhaps there's nothing wrong with us, but perhaps there's something wrong with you ...

I am hardly callous or cold. You can not hear the tone of my voice. They are only words on a screen. And there were a few times where I actually took the time to let you know when a statement was truthfully not sarcastic so there would be no misunderstanding.

Just because I am not sugar coating reality does not mean that I am not trying to open someone's eyes...

Did the thought ever occur to you that perhaps it would be far easier for me to post up "cheer up, it'll be better tomorrow" bro stuff than to expose stuff that is painfull to me?

I may have come off harsh, but if everyone who is bitching about getting liver for dinner would take a deep breath and realize what I am trying to say then you all wouldn't be coming off like dicks. (Your words, not mine).

I am passionate, not cold and callous.

I used to be one of those people like Lumberg when I was younger... What I would give to turn back the clock and not waste all the time I wasted wallowing in "why is my life so difficult"?... when it was the best! But I didn't realize it because I had everything - youth, health, a future - wasted because I always felt like it was sooooooo much better for everyone else and why am I so tortured. Then a little at a time, life broke me and now I am happy beyond words. Because I know what I had and I'll be damned if I am going to waste what time I have left bitching and moaning about a "little bit of pain and suffering" (no sarcasm - this is me minimizing so that I don't face up to the facts of my reality).

Perhaps you might think that I am assedbackwards in my approach but it seems that Lumberg was real quick to start listing all of the good things in his life the moment I challenged him.

You can think what you like of me. It doesn't change my life one bit. But if it got Lumberg to focus on just one positive thing in his life worth fighting for (if I read his post correctly - he listed several) then I will take whatever negative shit you all want to hurl at me and say. "Thank you ma'am may I have another" when you are done.

 

[Lao Tzu]

somtimes it is comforting to bitch and moan and have someone just say they see where you are coming from. who doesn't get down in the dumps once in a while? it is always temporary...cheer up lumberg.

Yeah, finding people who can understand your situation is always nice. you dont feel alone and sometimes they can give good advice.

 

[Lumberg]

How would you feel if you were starving and you were sitting in a room with someone who had a plate full of food that they sat there and turned their nose up at because "it is only hotdogs"? Would you say to that person, "There, there. Cheer up. tomorrow maybe you will have pudding!" ?!

It is kind of like the parent of a not-so-attractive child bitching about "Johnny's big ears" to the parent of a child that can't hear.

Here's the difference:

You're not in a room with me. You clicked on this thread voluntarily and and then posted voluntarily.

A better analogy would be, if you were starving and wandering around a city, and you heard someone complaining in a restaurant somewhere, damn I cant' stand this stupid food at this stupid restaurant, would you walk in and take a seat? And then start telling the person how little sympathy you have for them?

If you were the parent of a deaf child would you walk into a plastic surgeon's office who specialized in ear reduction surgery?

Don't act like you are trapped in this discussion. Feel free to take the high road at any time bor.

BTW to everyone except werd thanks for your words.

 

[Werd]

You're right by posting up on a public message board you do not open yourself up to the viewpoints of others.

My bad.

Glad I could help you see all that was not so painful in your life though. You can say whatever you like - your "HELL NO I AINT FUCKING GIVING UP" talk didn't start until I put you on the carpet.

Like it or not sometimes we all need a bit of a "pull yourself together" shake-up. It isn't always a pleasant experience, but whatever gets the job done.

 

[biteme]

Ever feel like life is just too hard? Getting up in the morning, fucking tired, doing a job that pretty much sucks, getting home after it is dark, day in and day out.....what will I be doing in 5 years? 10? My life damn well be better cos if it doesn't get any better it ain't worth it!

As Bill Clinton would say, "I feel your pain, I really do. " But fucking people are judgemental and when you post stuff like this, you're just askin' for it.

 

[Werd]

As Bill Clinton would say, "I feel your pain, I really do. " But fucking people are judgemental and when you post stuff like this, you're just askin' for it.

Biteme, none of these people have ever voluntarily and quite judgementally posted up on someone else's thread when they wrote about some pain that they were experiencing and jumped all over them, whether that person was looking for support, guidance or warning people "if this happened to me, it could happen to you"..... ever.