I am having trouble dealing with the everyday pain and discomfort of life

[Lumberg]

ttlpckg I am down for a meetup but no beers. I found out alcohol seriously fucks with my brain chemistry. but I am down for some food, cigars, politics, and sports!

Nature Boy I have lived in 2 3rd world countries and seen the wretched poverty. when it is medium poverty it makes you feel good cos the people still have kindness left over. when it is cardboard box wretched it just breaks your heart. btw you better be coming to the next meetup wuss

 

[Lumberg]

Guess what, I've got a whole host of other problems that will end my life after many years of degeneration and suffering but I am thrilled to have just one more day so that I can finish the work that I've begun before my time is up. Do I get down about it sometimes. Yes, I do. Then I think about other people who truly have it bad, like that woman who had no past, no present and no shot at a future. I live daily with terrible pain. Have for many years. I was able to fight it for a long time, but now my body is breaking down and no matter what is done, won't matter any more. So I do the best I can with the time I've left. Before it was only the inside that was being torn down, but now it is becoming increasingly more difficult to hide the external sides, my hair, my teeth, my voice, my musculature....

Sounds like you want to corner the market on pity bro, maybe you feel bad that people are empathizing with me and my petty problems. Fine you can have it.

You have it much worse than I do and do more with what you have. You are the better person. Congratulations.

This is not about someone being "unhappy".

This is about someone who is feeling tortured over the pain of life.

Pain of life?

I don't know if whatever disorder you have has spread to your brain but feeling tortured over the pain of life and being unhappy are the same thing. Could you be happy while feeling tortured over the pain of life? Wait, dont' answer that you probably can and frankly I don't want to hear about it.

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I am angry that he doesn't think that what he has is good enough that he would make the statement that he is having trouble dealing with the tremendous pain of his life.

He has everything.... every opportunity and he thinks that it is nothing.

It makes me shake my head. And yet I still would never want to trade with him. I know what I have and had because it has all been or will be taken from me so I cherish every minute of every day.

You know it's funny on one hand you want to lay out your spiritual accomplishments in the face of terrible adversity, but at the same time you have no empathy for another person in pain. I ain't no Bodhisattva but I still feel sorry for people with problems. Funny it seems despite your great strides in the face of your problems that's the one thing you can't manage is to accknowledge that someone could possibly be as miserable as you because they said so.

 

[BO-DEN]

Hey Lumby it sounds like it's time we met at the SportsZone in Baltimore again for a few beers. If I were you, I'd call your friend with the nice ta-ta's and let her cheer you up a little.

MUTHER FUCKER!!!

if you come to baltimore i got to buy you a beer!!!

 

[Paulo]

Geez, y'all need to give Lummy a break. Its not like he is asking for donations or something. He's just posting how he feels at the present time. Whether or not he has a lot going for him is irrelevent. Hell, I have enourmous amounts of opportunity and things going for me and I still wake up most days wishing I had died in my sleep.

Sure, it could be worse for me, by far, but if it were, I would have probably killed myself already. Thus, I dwell in an emotional purgatory between promise and hopelessness.

I do consider other people and their trials and tribulations. How much 'better off' I am. But, it really is very subjective. Sure, the status quo's visualization of happiness is generally not one involving a dude in a wheelchair or an amputee but to them they may be living life to the fullest and enjoying it far more than a GQ model / CEO who seems to have it all.

Anyways, fuck it, let the man vent a little bit.

 

[from zero]

Hatorade? Feeling sorry for the people around me?

I belly-laugh on a regular basis. As a matter of fact the people around me who know a tiny bit about some of the difficulties I encounter daily can't figure out how I do it. Do you know how?

I think of a woman I saw once when I was going through a bit of a hard time a ways back (and no, it wasn't about getting laid or getting a life). She had no useful appendages.

Was a wake up call for me.

What will it take for you? ADD and a depresive disorder? Come on, that woman had no useful appendages. What is her life like compared to yours? And what did she do to deserve her lot in life?

I don't hate. You just have a hard time accepting the fact that you have nothing to really bitch about yet you are talking of "the pain of life"?

OK

No offense, but that's a copout. I overhear people say "Think about someone who is disabled, and how lucky you are." That's a crock of shit. So what if someone has it worse off than someone else. So the guy with less of a problem is supposed to automatically feel better? Why? Because someone else has it worse?

Fuck that. I don't give a fuck if someone is lying on their death bed with brain cancer. I'm not gonna cheer up because I don't have to worry about things like that.

 

[Moderate_THIS]

FZ keepin it real! We love you bro!

 

[Werd]

You totally missed the point of everything I was saying.

Whatever.

I truly feel bad for you. (No sarcasm at all.) You have a wonderful life but it isn't good enough.

I don't need nor did I ask for anyone's guidance, empathy or support. I hide a lot from those closest to me because they can't help me and I don't want them to feel badly that they can't. They don't know that I can't swallow my own saliva sometimes or that I often times near faint. I have been able to hide a lot for a long time.

You have depression. Sorry to hear it (no sarcasm at all, I mean that). But you did say that you have access and can afford excellent help.

Maybe I am just jealous that I have neither access nor can I afford it, just as many others in the world. I am no different or special. But you are because you have these things. Yet you say it is not good enough.

You have everything, yet it is no good.

How would you feel if you were starving and you were sitting in a room with someone who had a plate full of food that they sat there and turned their nose up at because "it is only hotdogs"? Would you say to that person, "There, there. Cheer up. tomorrow maybe you will have pudding!" ?!

It is kind of like the parent of a not-so-attractive child bitching about "Johnny's big ears" to the parent of a child that can't hear.

Sorry I came off harsh, but there are times when I find it hard to be Bhottisatva myself.

 

[Werd]

No offense, but that's a copout. I overhear people say "Think about someone who is disabled, and how lucky you are." That's a crock of shit. So what if someone has it worse off than someone else. So the guy with less of a problem is supposed to automatically feel better? Why? Because someone else has it worse?

Fuck that. I don't give a fuck if someone is lying on their death bed with brain cancer. I'm not gonna cheer up because I don't have to worry about things like that.

That makes sense.

 

[from zero]

That makes sense.

I'm uncertain as to the sincerity of that.

 

[Werd]

I'm uncertain as to the sincerity of that.

I was being sarcastic.

That is like when you were 10 and your mom put liver in front of you and you turned your nose up at it because it wasn't good enough and she said, "There are kids starving in China that would loooooooove to eat that liver!" Did it make you feel better when you were 10? Hell no.

Why not? Because you were

A - never truly hungry

B - a child of ten

But I bet if you were in your 20's (even if you were 10) and were homeless and hungry liver would all of the sudden seem waaaaaay good enough.