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rocky_road
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samoth said:So have you ever considered taking up archery?
(lol, sorry, I had to ask)
Not so sound braggy, but I'd probobly be fairly good at it. It seems like it would relase mental tension, but prolly create some tension in the upper back and shoulders, eh?
Stillskinny
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well i always see hot girls walk by me but usually all i do is go damnn and watch them go by. i want to actually spark up a convo rightthen and there asking for their name and what their up to atm. i wanna pick up some chicks but i have minimal skill right now
rocky_road said:
It's pretty good exercise for the upper back and left tricep. Some high schools and colleges offer archery, but none around me that I know of. There's a lot of form and hand-eye coordination involved... I think it's beneficial in a lot of ways (and offers a physical challange, unlike all these wusses who have hair-trigger guns, lol).
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P01NTBL4NK
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If you are shy around girls it is because you have some kind of self esteem issue man? I mean come on I bet you are a young good looking guy. Just realize you are good man. DO something to boost your confidence. You cannot just expect stuff to come to you. Do you understand? Nothing good in life comes to you. I am not shy around anyone. I prefer to be around women even to just talk because they are interesting and pretty to look at also.
The key to talking to women is less about the TALKING than about conversational openers and allowing THEM to talk to you, and to actually listen to what they have to say.Stillskinny said:
You look in their eyes, you smile, you genuinely listen and think about what they have to say.
You can look a woman in the eye and say, "I find you extremely interesting, but I'm a lousy conversationalist and I'm afraid of making a fool out of myself with a woman I find so attractive," and I swear to you, a DECENT girl will giggle, tell you you're silly, and start fantasizing about kissing you, I shit you not.
The appropriate amount of self-deprecation is incredibly sexy (too much is sickening and a major turn off). Macho guys are in your face sexy, but machismo wears off pretty fast. I shit you not, the one who really melts your heart is the one who knows how to laugh at himself.
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good advice musclemom you are really intelligent. When I go out and "relax and party" I will talk a lot.I will laugh at my self and it is true if you make a girl laugh they seem to like you more. That is with anyone. Man there is no secret. Be yourself. Don't worry you can do it. Just don't make it a sexual thing at first when you meet a girl make it as friends.
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P01NTBL4NK
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You type intelligent. Like I TOLD YOU before. I am NOT a moron. You figured I was one by the way I type. So the question to you is why say I am a moron I could be a genius?
CrazyRussian
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Good job fuckers...4 pages of replies to the thread and amongst those 4 pages there are what, 3 or 4 constructive answers? Can't you stay in your designated C&C threads?
Anyways in my limited experience, it's still all about confidence. This is actually something I'm working on myself but lately I've noticed that if you are confident, you can be an asshole or a sweetie pie or a whatever but girls will still like you. For example: one of my buddies recieved an instant message from some chick. Thinking to be funny and not knowing the girl, I started being an asshole, talking a lot and mouthing off. Lo and behold, she starts talking to me and laughing at my horribly lame and offensive jokes and asking for my name...20 minutes later we're talking about her sister, how I like school, etc.
When I met my ex girlfriend I was very even more shy...but she was so purdy I told myself I couldn't screw it up. I called her (even though thoughts kept popping up in my head that she may not wana talk to me), I went and visited her and took her onto dates (even though thoughts kept popping up in my head that she was bored), and I tried to be outgoing on dates (even though I kept thinking she thought I was a schlub). Nothing but good can come form it
Oh, your question was how. Well, we both know you can't just stop being shy. Do u think you have social anxiety? If so, might wanna get some therapy or meds. If you just think you're loveshy, hang around your friends that hang out with girls, go to parties, and maybe use some alcohol (the great social lubricant) to lower your inhibitions once in a while.
Anyways in my limited experience, it's still all about confidence. This is actually something I'm working on myself but lately I've noticed that if you are confident, you can be an asshole or a sweetie pie or a whatever but girls will still like you. For example: one of my buddies recieved an instant message from some chick. Thinking to be funny and not knowing the girl, I started being an asshole, talking a lot and mouthing off. Lo and behold, she starts talking to me and laughing at my horribly lame and offensive jokes and asking for my name...20 minutes later we're talking about her sister, how I like school, etc.
When I met my ex girlfriend I was very even more shy...but she was so purdy I told myself I couldn't screw it up. I called her (even though thoughts kept popping up in my head that she may not wana talk to me), I went and visited her and took her onto dates (even though thoughts kept popping up in my head that she was bored), and I tried to be outgoing on dates (even though I kept thinking she thought I was a schlub). Nothing but good can come form it
Oh, your question was how. Well, we both know you can't just stop being shy. Do u think you have social anxiety? If so, might wanna get some therapy or meds. If you just think you're loveshy, hang around your friends that hang out with girls, go to parties, and maybe use some alcohol (the great social lubricant) to lower your inhibitions once in a while.
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