Help....i think....

[omega529]

Ok, Heres the story. I havent dated in about 3 years....im 22, live with my paternts, own a business, edruggy, go out maybee 1 time every 2 months, and dont stay out that long....i used to be morbidly obese....5'5 245lbs......well i started workingout and am down to 172 lbs @ about 10%bf....but i still have a negative complex.....all my friends are getting married, having children, or have been with their girls for years....although my self esteem has raised, i cant even look at a girl im interested in...i start thinking "shes got somone" or "she would laugh at me"......but lately ive been talking to an old friend from high school, who is single, we have alot in calmon, and i think i kinda like her, witch scares me.....im tarrified of rejection.....we dont hang out alot, but i stop at her work alot (tanning salon), and she stops at my business alot......We always say "lets hang out" and we dont, because of our work scheduals......so my question, is......what is something thata girl would like to do, something different and more in terms of "getting together (non sexually at first)rather then just go out and do something as a friendship.

Thanks

 

[bigred133]

im 22, live with my paternts

1. Move out of your parents house and get a place on your own. YOU'RE TWENTY-TWO.

2. read this:
http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html

 

[omega529]

WOW......aswome artice.....its, not that i dont have a place to move.....its just that, im affraid ill do something stupid if i had my pwn place (like start a methlab, and blow up the neighborhood)....not that i do meth, i just like chemicals....not to get high....well maybe..

Anyway, thatnks bro

 

[bigred133]

Getting over the fear of doing something stupid is the first step to being an adult.

Being accountable for the stupid decisions we make is the rest.

Confidence, ie: not being afraid of doing something stupid, is very important in dealing with the opposite sex.

If you are not confident that you will not do something stupid, PRETEND you are

Now be a man, move out, and start talking to random women at the grocery store. Start by practicing with the larger an not so attractive ones, and work your way up as your confidence and experience increases

 

[needtogetaas]

just go out and have fun.stop looking at women like women,and just look at them like people.go out have fun and meet people bro.be your self and have a good time.I am marred now but when I used to be single I found I got more girls when I was not even looking for one then when I was.dont even think about it.

 

[omega529]

thanks guys

 

[NJL52]

First step is embarrising yourself. Just go to a mall where you won't know anybody. Introduce yourself to girls at whatever cost. If you look like an idiot, who cares.

You will find that when you get back home you will be 100x more confident with yourself.

 

[omega529]

makes sence, asked a girl to go out of town with me thise weekind, and were leaving tonight with her friend and her fieance.......offcoausre i know this girl though, for a while....but still, i didnt thnk i would have the nuts to ask.

 

[omega529]

ok, so we went out of town this weekind.....and i am pretty sure i screwed up....we got really really drunksaterday night.....passed out, and when we woke up the next morning their was a condum on the floor.....neither of us know what happened.....we were also on xanax......later on that day we went out to eat before going home, and i told her that i had feelings for her, i said i shouldnt, but the last couple weeks ive just been thinking we have got alot in common, and i think your an awsome chick....anyway i know that your ot looking for a "relationship" right now, but i still want to hang out with you.............................was that bad? should i have even told her i had feelings about her......she has a kid, but i dont care, i like her, but i never met her sun whos 1.........should i just stop talking to her and get ove the "crush" before my feelings become greater, or whould i persue, and just ask her out to a moviw or dinner every now and then?.....i want to play it right this time, im trieng not to fuck up, even though i may have already...what should i do?

Thanks

 

[omega529]

also, i dont think we had sex , because i have been having decca dick for the last week or so.