Do women really want”nice guys” or “bad boys”?

[sigmund]

In my opinion animal instinct prevails, and although some of us don’t like to admit it - when it comes to sexual attraction we’re no different to other mammals. Females want to mate with the alpha male (bad boy – i.e. the leader of the pack who characteristically doesn’t take shit from any other “challenger” and displays power / vigor) and all males want to mate with… well any female that will allow it.

There’s a load of social expectancy / boundary crap that’s piled on top of these instincts for us humans and in some cases it prevents people from seeing their underlying desires / drivers. If you try and strip it all away you realise that things like marriage and long-term relationships aren’t really what we’re designed for in our youthful sexual prime. Perhaps later in life we progress on to the “relationship phase” as they become useful in terms of mutual support / companionship but the non-sexual connection that they highlight is very different to that of youthful lust that is dominant in the majority of young to middle aged people.

Seeing as that most males who fit the bad-boy description are struggling alpha’s trying to establish themselves, it makes sense that females are more attracted to them where as the nice guys are usually subservient / submissive types.

 

[TruBalla4Real]

^^ nice

 

[TruBalla4Real]

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They dont fuckign know.. they go based purely on instinct.. The ones that do finally figure out that they want a "bad boy" who is one step short of prison and a lifetime membership in the Hells Angels.. would fuck their sister, best friend and her.. preferably at the same time will NEVER admit it.. because they are too embarrased.

That's exactly the type of woman that no decent guy will touch haha (aka good and bad boy at same time). There are some good ones out there!

 

[mordy]

Sigmund touched on part of the truth

Biologically speaking the more aggressive and assertive males are desired by the females because they subconciously desire those traits in their offspring. Women want to raise children who are strong and more likely to survive, or in this day and age, get ahead.

Of course modern society has thrown the importance of such stuff out the window but the instincts and biology still exist.

Also, women want orgasms, and aggressive men are more likely to have the experience sexually to fulfill that need.

 

[sigmund]

Sigmund touched on part of the truth

Biologically speaking the more aggressive and assertive males are desired by the females because they subconciously desire those traits in their offspring. Women want to raise children who are strong and more likely to survive, or in this day and age, get ahead.

Of course modern society has thrown the importance of such stuff out the window but the instincts and biology still exist.

Also, women want orgasms, and aggressive men are more likely to have the experience sexually to fulfill that need.

Good post.

Who knows how evolution will change us long term - as physical strength / aggression and other traits associated with the "animal" alpha become less relevant in modern society and irrelevant in terms of securing the success of our off-spring.

 

[BIGCANNONS]

I appreciate all the brutally honest replies, but if 90% of women want “bad boys” why do they always say shit like “I wish I could just find a nice, honest guy”? I have to admit though after writing this tread I realize that I’m attracted to kinda baddish women. I guess I’m just as fucked up as the people I date o well WTF!

Anyway, I just starter seeing another baddish women and I think, I could fall for her, she’s sweet, hot and we actually have many things in common, she’s even into bodybuilding. I haven’t figured her out yet but two of her ex’s where “bad boys” she says though this is why she dumped them. I think she’s looking for a long term relationship, so am I, but is she done looking for bad boys? I don’t know. I’m not like a total quire boy or anything, I just reformed all my partying and substance abusing ways and I’m just learning how to live my new lifestyle.

Help with my new girlfriend appreciated

Want to be her Mr. Right in Mr. Wrong’s body

Ps Karma’s to most of ya

ok bro im let you in on a very important playa guidline rule number 1 above all else never ever let a girl think it would bother you for them not to call or hang out always make them think you could care less ( take em or leave em ) etither way just like you dont give a shit.. its hard sometimes to do but take my word for it if you do they will be hanging on every word you say. i know for experence you can have them eating out of your hand;. ( im not trying to sound conseted but its the truth.)

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Women crave adventure and fun. "Bad boys" give them this. They are free spirits, as are the women they attract. Most of the time, it is up to a man to provide them with these things. Don't ask why, it's just how nature intended.

Nice guy/bad boy- these are loose terms.

Here's a more definitive translation:

Nice guy= a spineless shell of a man who lets people walk all over him, follows all the rules, never does anything exciting or steps out of line. Just going through the motions of life......almost like he's walking his own metaphorical Trail of Tears, but he's too clueless to realize it for himself. Can also easily get pussywhipped; that is if he's fortunate enough to even have sex. He will never get beyond a mediocre status in life if he stays this way, and women sense this.

Bad boy (the ideal kind)= Confident, does things his own way, doesn't give a fuck what people think, knows how to fuck (and make love, and also knows the difference). Knows how to treat a woman with class and be a gentleman, but while simultaneously giving her the impression that he doesn't need her, because he knows, and lets her know, that there's plenty of other girls he could be with besides her. Other women respond to this, which creates a sort of continuous loop of attraction.

Being a bad boy doesn't necessarily mean being the typical biker guy, the junkie, or the asshole who makes women feel like shit, fights cops and goes to jail. This is just an image, and only the immature and inexperienced women fall for this type. They will also never get far in life, (and even if they do they'll probably feel like shit inside). Once they realize that there are "bad boys" out there who actually have their shit together, and they know how to attract them, then well, I say they've made it into womanhood.