Do women really want”nice guys” or “bad boys”?

[dugie65]

Is it just me, or do women always say they just want a nice guy but end up going back to the “bad boy” who treats them like shit ?

This is the 2nd time I’ve dated someone who had a “bad boy” ex and complains to me about how bad they where treated all the time and how much of a cheating asshole there ex was. I’m caring, spend time on a relationship, don’t forget birthdays or valentines day, I have a good build and make good money legitimately. They seem to go back to the biker, drug dealer type. I’m not perfect but at least I don’t sell death to high school kids. Maybe I just date the wrong type of women.

so be the 'bad boy'. simple as that.

after enough breakups every man learns to stop caring.

It will pay off to gaurd yourself until you meet that one girl. The one who has enough respect for you and herself.

 

[outset2]

I appreciate all the brutally honest replies, but if 90% of women want “bad boys” why do they always say shit like “I wish I could just find a nice, honest guy”? I have to admit though after writing this tread I realize that I’m attracted to kinda baddish women. I guess I’m just as fucked up as the people I date o well WTF!

Anyway, I just starter seeing another baddish women and I think, I could fall for her, she’s sweet, hot and we actually have many things in common, she’s even into bodybuilding. I haven’t figured her out yet but two of her ex’s where “bad boys” she says though this is why she dumped them. I think she’s looking for a long term relationship, so am I, but is she done looking for bad boys? I don’t know. I’m not like a total quire boy or anything, I just reformed all my partying and substance abusing ways and I’m just learning how to live my new lifestyle.

Help with my new girlfriend appreciated

Want to be her Mr. Right in Mr. Wrong’s body

Ps Karma’s to most of ya

 

[Gymgurl]

Just be yourself and if she doesn't like you ......go find another one!

 

[Swole_2112]

Gym Girl's right, Outset. Just be yourself. If she doesn't dig that then find another one. Watch out for the 'bad boy factor' playing a part in her decision making process. As much as some women may say they're done with bad boys, you never know when she might just up and return to bad habbits. Keep your wits about you. Good luck, bro.

 

[luciano]

Re: Do women really want”nice guys” or “bad boys”?

they r all bad , at least some of em have great bodies

 

[Gymgurl]

Does it seem like the good boys are the ones you can walk all over and the bad boys don't take the shit. They make you chase them...

 

[tbuz67]

The way I see it, nice guys go out of their way to treat a girl nice, with flowers, and being considerate and all that shit. Girls say they want a "nice guy", but once they have one, he does all of this "nice guy" shit and how does she see him? Not the way he wants her to. He wants her to develop all these romantic feelings for him, because he thinks he's being romantic by trying to open doors for her and stuff. But in reality she sees him as this: KISSING HER ASS. And no girl is going to respect any guy that kisses her ass.

And if she don't respect you, she's not going to take you home and passionately attack you with all the animalistic lust that she has brewing inside her most primitive part of her brain, like you want her to. Plus, by being so nice around her, unconsciously, she doesn't feel that she should show that side of her to you, since you obviously are looking for someone as polite and goody-goody as you. She'll save that wild side of her for a "bad boy" to bring out. Thats just the way it is.

 

[TruBalla4Real]

The way I see it, nice guys go out of their way to treat a girl nice, with flowers, and being considerate and all that shit. Girls say they want a "nice guy", but once they have one, he does all of this "nice guy" shit and how does she see him? Not the way he wants her to. He wants her to develop all these romantic feelings for him, because he thinks he's being romantic by trying to open doors for her and stuff. But in reality she sees him as this: KISSING HER ASS. And no girl is going to respect any guy that kisses her ass.

And if she don't respect you, she's not going to take you home and passionately attack you with all the animalistic lust that she has brewing inside her most primitive part of her brain, like you want her to. Plus, by being so nice around her, unconsciously, she doesn't feel that she should show that side of her to you, since you obviously are looking for someone as polite and goody-goody as you. She'll save that wild side of her for a "bad boy" to bring out. Thats just the way it is.

I believe that is true, but after a certain point many women get sick of it and want you to transform more into a respectful guy that does nice things for you. Once you establish that you can play both parts, then they will really fall for ya! This is when they start trying to turn you into their dream guy completely. Can't blame em, guys try to turn women into their dream women by making them be wild in bed, etc. hah

 

[Dirk Howat]

I believe that is true, but after a certain point many women get sick of it and want you to transform more into a respectful guy that does nice things for you. Once you establish that you can play both parts, then they will really fall for ya! This is when they start trying to turn you into their dream guy completely. Can't blame em, guys try to turn women into their dream women by making them be wild in bed, etc. hah

Basically, what you are saying is that she is trying to MAKE you into her husband.

 

[TruBalla4Real]

I guess you could say that.... isn't it nice to just be nice and show a woman u care though? I'm not neccesarily talkin about marryin her.