Love is definitely a good thing, however, it's awfully hard to find. I will say that a one night stand isn't my deal either, obviously, but, why couldn't you just date someone for a while and get to like her and then sleep with her? I can tell you from experience that it's better to have sex with them first. The first time I slept with my ex I was in love with her. Sure, that was great! A new experience for sure, but it was a bad idea. Maybe I place too much emphasis on sex, but I think the sex better be great otherwise the relationship can't be that good. With her I wanted so much more than she was willing to give me sexually, but I stayed with her anyway because I was in love. God, what if I would have married her? Shit, then I'd have been stuck with mediocre sex for the rest of my life, unless I cheated, which I WILL NOT do. So, I guess the moral of the story is to test drive the car before you buy it.