Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below IF YOU LEAVE YOUR SCARED YOUR KIDS ARE GOING TO THINK THAT YOU DON'T LOVE THEM AND IF THEY ARE YOUNG THEN THEY MIGHT FOR A WHILE THAT IS WHY YOUR STILL WITH HER AND TRYING TO GET HER TO LEAVE SO SHE LOOKS BAD. THEY MIGHT NOT UNDERSTAND NOW BUT THEY WILL ITS BETTER TO LEAVE THEN TO HAVE THEM FIND OUT THAT THERE DAD WAS SLEEPING WITH SOMEONE OTHER THEN MOMMY.
Cheating on wife
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Doublewide
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WIDELAT said:
I thought this way for the first 7 years I was married. In time, you too will go to the dark side. At least you will think about it. And think about it alot. Especially if you have some young, hot looking girl who wants it.
Sometimes cheating on your wife will make you realize how much you actually care for your wife and will make your relationship stronger with her.
Bottom line, however, is it is best not to cheat on your wife. "The grass is always greener on the other side."
makedah
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I'm not trying to be hard on you -- we all come to crossroads in our lives. But it seems to me that you've really got to piss (stay committed) or get off the pot (get a divorce) here.
Based on what you've said here, your wife does sound emotionally immature. But guess what, so do you if you think sleeping around is the answer.
If you're looking at your wife and thinking "I hate her," then get a divorce. It's the grown-up thing to do. It doesn't take any guts to sneak around and continue to avoid the problem.
Based on what you've said here, your wife does sound emotionally immature. But guess what, so do you if you think sleeping around is the answer.
If you're looking at your wife and thinking "I hate her," then get a divorce. It's the grown-up thing to do. It doesn't take any guts to sneak around and continue to avoid the problem.
clusterfoxtrot
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Counseling. Therapy (couples and solo). More counseling and honesty. 3 months ago, my wife and I were talking about the mechanics of a separation...very similar situation.
One of the things we did on our own was each make a "priority" list of what we do/don't want in a spouse and a relationship. We are now working towards that goal and things are getting a lot better.
I have 2 kids and they are a pain in the butt sometimes. I wasn't ready for either of them when they came...but guess what, they're here, they're mine (as are yours), and they are the closest thing to "you," that you will ever have. TAKE CARE OF THEM.
Also, putting a mistress in the middle of the situation, especially one that is hotter than the old lady, maybe a little freakier or younger, makes a decision like this all that much harder. If there are emotions involved, it becomes impossible to separate fact from fiction. You will be freaking out and saying that the way your wife wipes her ass is annoying you. BTW, if you are on a cycle, it may exacerbate those moods/feeling/emotions all that much more.
Think about the kids, but do what's best for everyone.
CF
One of the things we did on our own was each make a "priority" list of what we do/don't want in a spouse and a relationship. We are now working towards that goal and things are getting a lot better.
I have 2 kids and they are a pain in the butt sometimes. I wasn't ready for either of them when they came...but guess what, they're here, they're mine (as are yours), and they are the closest thing to "you," that you will ever have. TAKE CARE OF THEM.
Also, putting a mistress in the middle of the situation, especially one that is hotter than the old lady, maybe a little freakier or younger, makes a decision like this all that much harder. If there are emotions involved, it becomes impossible to separate fact from fiction. You will be freaking out and saying that the way your wife wipes her ass is annoying you. BTW, if you are on a cycle, it may exacerbate those moods/feeling/emotions all that much more.
Think about the kids, but do what's best for everyone.
CF
THeMaCHinE
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http://www.divorcebusting.com/forthesakeofkids.html
For the Sake of the Kids_
_
As the author of the book, Divorce Busting, and someone who has a keen interest in the impact of divorce on families, I am eager to respond to your question, "Do you think a couple should stay in an unhappy marriage if they have children?"_
First of all, the question implies that once a marriage is unhappy, it will stay that way._ This is an unfortunate assumption. We have come a very long way in the last few years in deciphering the formula for making marriages successful and happy. Couples can now take valuable relationship skill-building classes where they can learn how to transform an empty, unhappy marriage into a more loving one. It isn’t magic. When you have children, you owe it to them to leave absolutely no stone unturned if you are considering dissolving your marriage. Once a marriage dissolves, so too, does the family…forever._
Research tells us that children benefit from divorce only in those situations where there is extreme abuse. It is estimated that only one third of the divorces in our country fit this criteria. In all other cases, lose out on many different dimensions when their parents split. Even when the adults feel happier as a result of divorce, research shows that there is no “trickle down effect” in terms of how the children fare._
With only minor exception, anyone in an unhappy marriage can do something about it. You don’t have to and shouldn’t live in misery. Once you choose to bring children into the
world, divorce isn’t a solution to an unhappy marriage. Fixing it is.
For the Sake of the Kids_
_
As the author of the book, Divorce Busting, and someone who has a keen interest in the impact of divorce on families, I am eager to respond to your question, "Do you think a couple should stay in an unhappy marriage if they have children?"_
First of all, the question implies that once a marriage is unhappy, it will stay that way._ This is an unfortunate assumption. We have come a very long way in the last few years in deciphering the formula for making marriages successful and happy. Couples can now take valuable relationship skill-building classes where they can learn how to transform an empty, unhappy marriage into a more loving one. It isn’t magic. When you have children, you owe it to them to leave absolutely no stone unturned if you are considering dissolving your marriage. Once a marriage dissolves, so too, does the family…forever._
Research tells us that children benefit from divorce only in those situations where there is extreme abuse. It is estimated that only one third of the divorces in our country fit this criteria. In all other cases, lose out on many different dimensions when their parents split. Even when the adults feel happier as a result of divorce, research shows that there is no “trickle down effect” in terms of how the children fare._
With only minor exception, anyone in an unhappy marriage can do something about it. You don’t have to and shouldn’t live in misery. Once you choose to bring children into the
world, divorce isn’t a solution to an unhappy marriage. Fixing it is.
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THeMaCHinE
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http://boards.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=147759
Please read my dialogue with Jim on this thread; pretty much same situation -- less kids.
I don't have the mental fortitude to ride this coaster right now; plus, in my experience it's a waste of time and emotion to try to talk to people already involved in affairs (who are really just looking for people to tell them it's OK to lie to their wife, sacrifice their marriage and reltionships with kids as a means to justify their own desires).
I feel sorry for you, your wife and kids though. I hope you find a way to rise above this. If not for your sake, for your kids. Being a father requires sacrifice.
Clicking on the link in my sig would be a bonus too.
Damn sorry to hear about this. Seriously.
Please read my dialogue with Jim on this thread; pretty much same situation -- less kids.
I don't have the mental fortitude to ride this coaster right now; plus, in my experience it's a waste of time and emotion to try to talk to people already involved in affairs (who are really just looking for people to tell them it's OK to lie to their wife, sacrifice their marriage and reltionships with kids as a means to justify their own desires).
I feel sorry for you, your wife and kids though. I hope you find a way to rise above this. If not for your sake, for your kids. Being a father requires sacrifice.
Clicking on the link in my sig would be a bonus too.
Damn sorry to hear about this. Seriously.
Don't cheat if you truely love someone!
....But I understand that you no longer love your wife and that you are more concerned for the wellbeing of your kids.....
Getting a divorce or finding out you have cheated will hurt them
So considering if your marriage can be saved throught counceling etc...would be the FIRST thing to consider....
However.....if you truely feel it's not gonna work.....
How old are your kids?
If they are like 14-15 years old, you might wanna continue your fake marriage for another 3 years until they are 18 and more emotianally developed and a divorce etc.. would have traumatizing and at least they finished their basic education before they get an emotional shock that could lead to bad results on school etc...
Now get your divorce after those 3 years
Meanwhile you could cheat a little to make life in prison more bearable, even better not only fuck around but find a new serious realtion ship as the divorce date gets closer.
well i guess i lost a lot of credit with them ladies here at the board saying all this, but remember : I DID IT FOR THE KIDS HONEY!!!
....But I understand that you no longer love your wife and that you are more concerned for the wellbeing of your kids.....
Getting a divorce or finding out you have cheated will hurt them
So considering if your marriage can be saved throught counceling etc...would be the FIRST thing to consider....
However.....if you truely feel it's not gonna work.....
How old are your kids?
If they are like 14-15 years old, you might wanna continue your fake marriage for another 3 years until they are 18 and more emotianally developed and a divorce etc.. would have traumatizing and at least they finished their basic education before they get an emotional shock that could lead to bad results on school etc...
Now get your divorce after those 3 years
Meanwhile you could cheat a little to make life in prison more bearable, even better not only fuck around but find a new serious realtion ship as the divorce date gets closer.
well i guess i lost a lot of credit with them ladies here at the board saying all this, but remember : I DID IT FOR THE KIDS HONEY!!!
Longhorn85
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Re: Re: Re: Cheating on wife
You're right Legs, I shouldn't have said that. BTW you're not the only one to get on me for saying it.
Listen guiLE: "Don't cheat on your wife!"
Legs1010 said:
I am shocked!!! Don't encourage him to cheat on his wife.
You're right Legs, I shouldn't have said that. BTW you're not the only one to get on me for saying it.
Listen guiLE: "Don't cheat on your wife!"
