Am i the only one??????

[musclemom]

Ok maybe you women didnt understand......

I said how come when a man and a women get divorced the man has to pay alamony and child support.

When i said free ride... Its after the divorce not during when shes at home taking care of the kids(and i didnt say this wasnt a job i just said it was easy)

I didnt say I want my wife to go to work.... I didnt say I was going to get a divorce.

Just a simple question?????

I dont know about you Cindy but this isnt Muscle Moms first rodeo.

Muscle Mom when you got divorced the first time how much did your husband have to pay in child support and alamony????

Nothing. I was not a stay at home mother, I was employed full time when I divorced. I live in a state where alimony is usually only awarded to full time homemakers who have no job skills and absolutely no hopes of making useful income in the immediate future. The courts have been known to order them to get job training and get employment ASAP.

I received no child support from my ex. When he got the papers he called me first threatening, then begging me not to file for it, claiming that he couldn't afford the payments and the mortgage (at the time we still owned the house jointly and my mother was on the mortgage). Oh, and I had a loser lawyer, did I mention that? Anyway, since the payments are supposed to be for the kid, I told him to put the money away in a bank account and give it to the kid when he graduated high school. The amount would have been less than $50 a week, my son was nearly 14 when we divorced.

My ex gave my son a whole $500 when he graduated high school. Even if he had put a lousy $10 a week away he could have given the kid over $2,000.

Yeah, I was a fucking moron, mainly I feel like I fucked my son out of some money because I believed his father had scruples, at least where it came to his son. Honestly, I just wanted to be over with it, and there were mitigating circumstances that I don't feel like going into. Put it this way, the ex thought it was funny to drag his feet and keep running up my legal fees. Basically, it ain't only men who get shafted in divorce. What has always pissed me off the most though is the jewelery he stole from me, pieces I'd actually bought for myself and didn't discover missing until I was done moving, and the photographs. I have a grand total of about 30 photos left from a 10+ year marriage. He won't even loan them to me to copy.

 

[musclemom]

Ok maybe you women didnt understand......

I said how come when a man and a women get divorced the man has to pay alamony and child support.

When i said free ride... Its after the divorce not during when shes at home taking care of the kids(and i didnt say this wasnt a job i just said it was easy)

I didnt say I want my wife to go to work.... I didnt say I was going to get a divorce.

Just a simple question?????

I dont know about you Cindy but this isnt Muscle Moms first rodeo.

Muscle Mom when you got divorced the first time how much did your husband have to pay in child support and alamony????

Oh, one other thing. 99% of the time, in divorce, women's standard of living goes down while the man's goes up (though nowhere near the levels they once did), check this article:

Influential Study on Divorce's Impact Is Said to Be Flawed - New York Times

Dr. Peterson re-evaluated Dr. Weitzman's data and concluded that women have an average 27 percent decline in their standard of living and that men have an average 10 percent increase in their standard of living after divorce.

And about 9% of men experienced a decline in their standard of living. I don't know how that number compares against the overall numbers on the women.

 

[EXTREMEBOWHNTR]

No offence muscle but it sounds like the ex was a real winner. Glad to hear that you overcame that without cutting your wrists or blowing your head off..... Props to ya.

And for the record I would still spiol my kids the way i do now, there my babies and they get whatever they want. There fucking spoiled.

 

[the.gladiator1987]

OK i just wanna say musclemom that since you have been divorced u obviously dont know what it takes to keep a relationship. Which means you dont know the other persons needs, and that you are selfish. End of story. unless he cheated on you. only excuse

 

[heavy_duty]

Just curious heavy.......

seeing how you spend so much time at home and with the kids, while your wife is at work at least we know who the bread winner is (or you got a job like mine). My wife stays at home thats what she wants to do and i make enough money for her to do that. If she worked it would be different. Ive stayed at home with my kids I know how it is. I would trade working anyday to be a stay at home mom... So fucking easy...... But im not about to be a little bitch. My job is too bring home the money, and her job is too stay at home with the kids. Bottom line she needs to contribute as much as me.


LOL JUST STIRRING UP THE SHIT I want to make this the longest thread ever

Wife and I split the fun of raising the babies. We both have our strengths. I do fun stuff with them and teach them stuff and so does she. To say it is easy to be a stay at home is BS.
Tell me BRO about the arts and crafts and finger painting you do with your kids? The baking of cookies and cakes, reading and singing songs? Tea parties and dress up???

You see son, my wife and I both think the other does such awesome stuff with the girls that the other one does not do so we compliment each other.

BREAD WINNER??? lol My wife went to 3 different universities before she had children...she has a passion for what she does in her career, something she dreamt of doing all her life so I'm not going to take that away from her. Most weeks she works 4 days and still gross $85,000 a year. I set my own hours so when she has to be out of the house at 6:00 am, I feed, dress, fix hair and take kids to school---but she makes the lunches before she goes to work.

we work together as a team to raise the kids...


fuck off I'm already typing way to god damn much LOL
I'm going to go watch my kids sleep and kiss them on the cheek and pray they dont marry jerks.

 

[heavy_duty]

No offence muscle but it sounds like the ex was a real winner. Glad to hear that you overcame that without cutting your wrists or blowing your head off..... Props to ya.

And for the record I would still spiol my kids the way i do now, there my babies and they get whatever they want. There fucking spoiled.

I was over 35 when my first child was born so I was past the "selfish dick" years. Thank god!

BOYS should not be fathers, that is a mans job!

 

[musclemom]

No offence muscle but it sounds like the ex was a real winner. Glad to hear that you overcame that without cutting your wrists or blowing your head off..... Props to ya.

And for the record I would still spiol my kids the way i do now, there my babies and they get whatever they want. There fucking spoiled.

Kill myself over that piece of shit, no fucking way! I'd kill his ass first. I was actually contemplating murdering him. What was holding me back was the fact I'd go to jail and leave my kid an orphan.

As far as what kind of guy my ex is, well, does it tell you anything that one of my son's first goals after he graduated basic training was to kick his father's ass? (which he did, BTW) He still has a relationship with his old man but it's not a close, father/son thing, more like dudes who touch base with each other about every six months or so. My son tells me that the ex is still badmouthing me whenever they talk to each other, even though I haven't spoken/seen my ex in over four years.

After the divorce my ex never spent more than a weekend with his son, ever. Never took him on vacations, never spent a dime on medical, clothes or anything useful (my opinion, he was pissed at the kid for choosing to live with me over him). My current husband and I have a hefty child support payment, but we offered to take the kids for the entire summer, always took them on vacations (okay, so it was camping, it was all we could afford) we still buy them clothes, shoes, school supplies, etc. (my current husband's ex is another piece of work).

Whatever. Look, sorry for the threadjack. My point is, not all women are shallow, materialistic, gold digging users. I didn't want money, I just wanted freedom from a man who had issues.

 

[musclemom]

Wife and I split the fun of raising the babies. We both have our strengths. I do fun stuff with them and teach them stuff and so does she. To say it is easy to be a stay at home is BS.
Tell me BRO about the arts and crafts and finger painting you do with your kids? The baking of cookies and cakes, reading and singing songs? Tea parties and dress up???

You see son, my wife and I both think the other does such awesome stuff with the girls that the other one does not do so we compliment each other.

BREAD WINNER??? lol My wife went to 3 different universities before she had children...she has a passion for what she does in her career, something she dreamt of doing all her life so I'm not going to take that away from her. Most weeks she works 4 days and still gross $85,000 a year. I set my own hours so when she has to be out of the house at 6:00 am, I feed, dress, fix hair and take kids to school---but she makes the lunches before she goes to work.

we work together as a team to raise the kids...


fuck off I'm already typing way to god damn much LOL
I'm going to go watch my kids sleep and kiss them on the cheek and pray they dont marry jerks.

Why the fuck couldn't I have met a guy like you when I wanted to reproduce?!? Truth, you sound a lot like my current husband, a good man with a big heart. Unfortunately, he got a vas. after his second kid so I missed that train *sigh* Would have been nice to have kids with a guy who actually wanted to have kids, to enjoy them, to watch the wonder in their eyes and revel in their smiles instead of thinking they're annoying little pests invading his space and touching his stuff.

Heavy_Duty, you are what defines me as a good man and good father, one who is secure in who he is, one who loves and laughs freely. If more men were like you instead of the ones who feel the need to prove their masculinity at every turn, our children, and hence our world, would be a much better place

 

[musclemom]

OK i just wanna say musclemom that since you have been divorced u obviously dont know what it takes to keep a relationship. Which means you dont know the other persons needs, and that you are selfish. End of story. unless he cheated on you. only excuse

What the hell do you want, you putz? You've been jumping up and down in this thread like the annoying little kid in class dying for the teacher to call on them. Apparently you're under some impression I'm going to rip you up and down and you're going to get into an internet fight with me and turn around and tear me apart. Shit dude, I don't have to say word one to make you a fucking laughing stock, here's everything I know about you from these boards:

1. You are 21.

2. You're getting married in June.

3. Money is tight for you, you don't have a reliable job because you have a felony (in addition to 6 speeding tickets).

4. The main reason, I suspect, you're getting married is that your GF won't fuck you regularly because she's Christian.

5. You're a horny little bastard because you use AAS, whether you can afford it or not.

6. You're a homophobe.

Dude, you're a fucking stereotype and joke. You are trailer trash on the starting blocks. You're going to marry that girl, with no solid plans or prospects, and she's going to start pumping out babies and before you know it your balls will be as blue as Bowhunter’s. But you know something, at least he has a career, he can afford child support. He has a nice home and decent vehicles and realistic fucking goals. His wife may have depression, or hormone imbalance or opioid dependency issues. He can fix his fucking problem if he and his wife would just get on the same page and face it head on.

You, on the other hand, are a fucking dumbass being driving by immediate gratification and unrealistic and amorphous fantasies of greatness. You've pretty solidly fucked up your future already and between steroids and this dumbass idea of marriage you're driving the final nail in the coffin.

Me? Yes, my first marriage, a marriage which took place when I was just shy of turning 19 and my soon to be husband was 21 failed. He wasn't employed either. He didn't have a decent job or decent vehicles or realistic plans, either. He'd been in several run ins with the law and had a lot of dreams and no real way to achieve them (shit, he didn't even have a HS diploma). But I looovveeed him and he painted such a pretty picture of all the wonderful things he could do and we could do together. And you know what? Within one month of being married I got my stupid fucking self pregnant. And he wanted me to keep it and I was headed down the same fucking road you are, too. I stopped myself, and it took me 10 years to get my shit together and make a better life for myself. I fuckin refused to end up living la vida trailer trash. On the other hand, my ex is no better than when I left him (yes, I filed for the divorce, I left him, and he never fucked around on me).

I had two marriages, the first was a spectacular disaster the other, the current one, a glorious success. How many people on C&C have tried to tell you not to make the same fucking mistakes I just outlined above to you? You stupid little shit. Get your fucking life in order, achieve some financial stability, get solid one, five and ten year plans together and stop flouting the law, you dumb fuck. You wanna be married, get your shit together. You can't even take care of yourself and you want to harness your life to another person's?!? Open your fucking EYES and pull your head out of your ass.

As for giving sexual or marital advice, knowing where your dick is and what you can shove it into doesn't automatically grant you expert status. My 24 year old son is more qualified to give marital advice than you are, and HE'D fucking tell you not to get married considering he just got divorced two months ago, guess what, he got married for all the wrong fucking reasons, too (and against my advice, but at least he was in the service).

So sit the fuck down and shut up, Erkle, and while you're at it, go shoot more AAS into your body and keep telling yourself you're making intelligent, rational lifetime decisions, you putz.

 

[BBR100]

What the hell do you want, you putz? You've been jumping up and down in this thread like the annoying little kid in class dying for the teacher to call on them. Apparently you're under some impression I'm going to rip you up and down and you're going to get into an internet fight with me and turn around and tear me apart. Shit dude, I don't have to say word one to make you a fucking laughing stock, here's everything I know about you from these boards:

1. You are 21.

2. You're getting married in June.

3. Money is tight for you, you don't have a reliable job because you have a felony (in addition to 6 speeding tickets).

4. The main reason, I suspect, you're getting married is that your GF won't fuck you regularly because she's Christian.

5. You're a horny little bastard because you use AAS, whether you can afford it or not.

6. You're a homophobe.

Dude, you're a fucking stereotype and joke. You are trailer trash on the starting blocks. You're going to marry that girl, with no solid plans or prospects, and she's going to start pumping out babies and before you know it your balls will be as blue as Bowhunter’s. But you know something, at least he has a career, he can afford child support. He has a nice home and decent vehicles and realistic fucking goals. His wife may have depression, or hormone imbalance or opioid dependency issues. He can fix his fucking problem if he and his wife would just get on the same page and face it head on.

You, on the other hand, are a fucking dumbass being driving by immediate gratification and unrealistic and amorphous fantasies of greatness. You've pretty solidly fucked up your future already and between steroids and this dumbass idea of marriage you're driving the final nail in the coffin.

Me? Yes, my first marriage, a marriage which took place when I was just shy of turning 19 and my soon to be husband was 21 failed. He wasn't employed either. He didn't have a decent job or decent vehicles or realistic plans, either. He'd been in several run ins with the law and had a lot of dreams and no real way to achieve them (shit, he didn't even have a HS diploma). But I looovveeed him and he painted such a pretty picture of all the wonderful things he could do and we could do together. And you know what? Within one month of being married I got my stupid fucking self pregnant. And he wanted me to keep it and I was headed down the same fucking road you are, too. I stopped myself, and it took me 10 years to get my shit together and make a better life for myself. I fuckin refused to end up living la vida trailer trash. On the other hand, my ex is no better than when I left him (yes, I filed for the divorce, I left him, and he never fucked around on me).

I had two marriages, the first was a spectacular disaster the other, the current one, a glorious success. How many people on C&C have tried to tell you not to make the same fucking mistakes I just outlined above to you? You stupid little shit. Get your fucking life in order, achieve some financial stability, get solid one, five and ten year plans together and stop flouting the law, you dumb fuck. You wanna be married, get your shit together. You can't even take care of yourself and you want to harness your life to another person's?!? Open your fucking EYES and pull your head out of your ass.

As for giving sexual or marital advice, knowing where your dick is and what you can shove it into doesn't automatically grant you expert status. My 24 year old son is more qualified to give marital advice than you are, and HE'D fucking tell you not to get married considering he just got divorced two months ago, guess what, he got married for all the wrong fucking reasons, too (and against my advice, but at least he was in the service).

So sit the fuck down and shut up, Erkle, and while you're at it, go shoot more AAS into your body and keep telling yourself you're making intelligent, rational lifetime decisions, you putz.

solid, straight no bullshit advice that he may understand. Prolly won't listen but he'll know it's true.

Props to you and heavy duty