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Why is it so hard to find a casual sex relationship?

Werd

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All I want is a guy that will rock my world, then not give me shit when I get up to leave when I am done.

Problem is: it takes a lot for me to find a man appealing enough to want to bother taking my clothing off.

He doesn't have to wine OR dine me - just not bore me to tears and no exactly how to treat me in and out of the bedroom. Don't want to be his girlfriend or heaven forbid: his wife. Don't care about his other commitments as long as when we get together it is about us (ie: ex or children, etc). Once p/week steady sex, that is all I want. Maybe occasionally fall asleep in his arms and not mind if we "hung" a bit if we didn't have other obligations, maybe.

Either the guy is soooooooo not my physical ideal or he bores me to tears or he doesn't know thing one about pleasing a woman sexually or mentally (not asking for any emotions here other than mutual respect)....

Am I too fucking picky, or what?



(And I am being dead serious here.)
 
LOL... You guys have got to be in the same state. Sorry, not into long distance relationships.

BigDawg - with you it would be waaaaaaaay more. You are too good a guy. Although, knowing what I know now about life, you might just be "the guy" :D

crak600 - I think you might be too young for me. I do not find men that are younger than really late 30's mid 40's to be appealing.

I like men that are buff, witty, kind, on the tall side and very smart. Not asking for a relationship so honestly, could care less what they do for a living. Not asking for "tomorrow"... just thinking about "tonite" and all the "tonite"s between now and the time that either of us doens't want to do this anymore.
 
So, if you meet this guy, and your with him for let's say 10 + weeks, your not gonna give a fuck if you see him with other women the rest of the week your not with him?
 
Werd said:
I like men that are buff, witty, kind, on the tall side and very smart. Not asking for a relationship so honestly, could care less what they do for a living. Not asking for "tomorrow"... just thinking about "tonite" and all the "tonite"s between now and the time that either of us doens't want to do this anymore.


I'm buff, witty in a fucked up way, kind to animals, 6'0" and I was kicked out of Mensa for not paying my dues.

And I'm East Coast....aight?

And like I said, I have 5 minutes.
 
westck said:
So, if you meet this guy, and your with him for let's say 10 + weeks, your not gonna give a fuck if you see him with other women the rest of the week your not with him?

I am not the typical American woman. I could care less about where he goes or what he does on his own time as long as he doesn't bring that to me. I do not have a jealous bone in my body and refuse to compete with other females.

As long as it is copacetic for both, it is all good.

Just remember, it goes both ways. I get to go where I want, when I want in my time off as well. But he will be afforded the same courtesy.

And Romo17 - just to clarify - 5 minutes? Doll, I ain't 17. I take shits longer than that.
 
Romo17 said:


Actually, that was earlier.

And you take longer shits? Interesting, wait 'til I tell the guys at the Scat Club about this.


She must have been a sailor or merchant marine.
 
There are women out there like this. My girl is one of them....problem is everything has gotten too good and I want more. I can see other people but I have next to zero desire to (unless Daisy_Girl or Seashell ring my doorbell butt nekkid). I have two standing offers for booty anytime in AZ & MD, I just don't want them.
 
See, this is the trouble w/American men. (And yes, I realize that you guys are poking fun to some extent.) But they all bitch and moan that this one or that one is a slut because she puts out then you all talk about how your lives are over because no woman wants to give you sex.

Dudes, wake the fuck up. There are many many women who have sexual urges that are just as strong as (if not stronger than yours) this doesn't mean that we are "defective" or undesirable in any way, just means that we love sex. However, you don't get to find that out because then you lable us as "whores".

NO DUH you ain't gettin' the poo-nanny.

All kidding aside, I think this thread speaks volumes as to my frustration. Here I am - what "all guys dream of" and yet within 10 minutes I have been degraded....

I just want some sex from basically one guy on a somewhat regular basis if it suits us both. What is so hard to believe about that?

Don't want to be a girlfriend or a wife. Ain't gonna bring ya home to meet the family and I sure the shit don't want to meet yours, but I am not into one night stands either.

Why is this so hard?
 
Werd said:
See, this is the trouble w/American men. (And yes, I realize that you guys are poking fun to some extent.) But they all bitch and moan that this one or that one is a slut because she puts out then you all talk about how your lives are over because no woman wants to give you sex.

Dudes, wake the fuck up. There are many many women who have sexual urges that are just as strong as (if not stronger than yours) this doesn't mean that we are "defective" or undesirable in any way, just means that we love sex. However, you don't get to find that out because then you lable us as "whores".

NO DUH you ain't gettin' the poo-nanny.

All kidding aside, I think this thread speaks volumes as to my frustration. Here I am - what "all guys dream of" and yet within 10 minutes I have been degraded....

I just want some sex from basically one guy on a somewhat regular basis if it suits us both. What is so hard to believe about that?

Don't want to be a girlfriend or a wife. Ain't gonna bring ya home to meet the family and I sure the shit don't want to meet yours, but I am not into one night stands either.

Why is this so hard?

ok, now I have to be serious for one second. how old are you (if you don't mind saying) and how old are they guys you go after?
 
Werd said:

Don't want to be a girlfriend or a wife. Ain't gonna bring ya home to meet the family and I sure the shit don't want to meet yours, but I am not into one night stands either.

Why is this so hard?


Oh....so you have standards. You didn't explain it that way the first time.
 
The Nature Boy said:


ok, now I have to be serious for one second. how old are you (if you don't mind saying) and how old are they guys you go after?

I am in my mid 30's and ideally I find guys that are late 30's to mid 40's most appealing. I don't like younger men at all. I seem to intimidate them anyways. I have dated much older men, but I generally intimidate them as well. Truth be told I think I intimidate most men. Perhaps that is why I have such a hard time finding a guy that I am attracted to. I am, I guess you can say, "a handfull". LOL
 
HumorMe said:



Oh....so you have standards. You didn't explain it that way the first time.

What is that about?

I just want a steady casual relationship. From your comment, I get the impression that there is something wrong with that. Isn't this what all you guys "dream" of: no strings attached sex?!
 
dont see your problem...if you look good and pick a guy you like, just be a bit forward and youll get him...there arent too many that turn down no strings sex on tap

not to cut too close to the bone but either youre shooting out of your league or youre sitting back waiting for it to happen, which it usually doesnt on its own

get out there and ask a guy on a date, then tell him what you just told us. cant go wrong

and didnt you know its a sin to refuse Dial_tone when he asks for pics? ;)
 
GoldenDelicious said:
dont see your problem...if you look good and pick a guy you like, just be a bit forward and youll get him...there arent too many that turn down no strings sex on tap

not to cut too close to the bone but either youre shooting out of your league or youre sitting back waiting for it to happen, which it usually doesnt on its own

get out there and ask a guy on a date, then tell him what you just told us. cant go wrong

and didnt you know its a sin to refuse Dial_tone when he asks for pics? ;)

Your comments are fair, however, inapplicable. I know that many men are attracted to me, however, it is extremely rare that I find a man equally attractive.

How many good looking guys are there out there that could get laid every night of the week if they so choose but they do not? I am the same. I would have no trouble finding sex. I am having trouble finding quality. I like older men that are buff and funny and smart and kind.

Find me one and I will fuck him till he spits blood. :D
 
Werd said:


What is that about?

I just want a steady casual relationship. From your comment, I get the impression that there is something wrong with that. Isn't this what all you guys "dream" of: no strings attached sex?!


I just thought your description of what you wanted was funny. You want sex but nothing serious but you aren't into one night stands.

You are just looking for a good fuck buddy. Nothing wrong with that if you are into that.
 
Werd said:




Find me one and I will fuck him till he spits blood. :D

Who are you, Linda Blair?

If what you say about yourself is true, then honestly, I cannot see why you're having a hard time finding a fuck toy.
 
Werd said:


I am in my mid 30's and ideally I find guys that are late 30's to mid 40's most appealing. I don't like younger men at all. I seem to intimidate them anyways. I have dated much older men, but I generally intimidate them as well. Truth be told I think I intimidate most men. Perhaps that is why I have such a hard time finding a guy that I am attracted to. I am, I guess you can say, "a handfull". LOL

i see. what is a "regular basis" for you in terms of frequency of sex? once a week? perhaps the guys you meet want to have see you/fuck you more frequently than you do?

do you lay out the ground rules to guys you might be interested in having sexual relations with? perhaps if you tell them where you stand from an early point it'll prevent them from getting too attached.

you sound like you need to find a guy who is extremly busy. like someone who is out of town a lot. guys with free time will most likely call you up and want to hang out or someshit.

also, why is it that you want to only have a physical relationship on a regular basis? you're not looking to date someone? just curious.
 
GoldenDelicious said:

and didnt you know its a sin to refuse Dial_tone when he asks for pics? ;)


did I ask for pics?..........oh.....yeah, I was gonna. Pic please, PM for email addy.
 
The Nature Boy said:


i see. what is a "regular basis" for you in terms of frequency of sex? once a week? perhaps the guys you meet want to have see you/fuck you more frequently than you do?

do you lay out the ground rules to guys you might be interested in having sexual relations with? perhaps if you tell them where you stand from an early point it'll prevent them from getting too attached.

you sound like you need to find a guy who is extremly busy. like someone who is out of town a lot. guys with free time will most likely call you up and want to hang out or someshit.

also, why is it that you want to only have a physical relationship on a regular basis? you're not looking to date someone? just curious.

I have a very high drive - if this were a committed relationship I would require sex no less than 5 nights p/week. However, this is not what I am asking for. I would ideally like 2 nights p/week or even 3 but any more than that and the guy would undoubtedly get on my nerves. My life is very busy and I don't feel the need to go explaining why I don't want to see someone that night. See? The beauty of "no strings attached".

I would LOVE to find a steady SO, but right now that isn't possible for me so I have given up. But I am missing the closeness of good sex - a one night stand is not good for me or remotely satisfying as I have to like or have some affection for a guy for the sex to be good.

I am not asking for love, don't want or need that. Not willing to even try at this point in time - just being honest.

As for ground rules? I haven't met a man that I honestly wanted to tease/provoke for over 2 years and no, I have not been under a rock. It just takes a lot to hold my interest, is all.
 
Werd said:


I have a very high drive - if this were a committed relationship I would require sex no less than 5 nights p/week. However, this is not what I am asking for. I would ideally like 2 nights p/week or even 3 but any more than that and the guy would undoubtedly get on my nerves. My life is very busy and I don't feel the need to go explaining why I don't want to see someone that night. See? The beauty of "no strings attached".

I am not asking for love, don't want or need that. Not willing to even try at this point in time - just being honest.


Damn, why couldn't my ex-wife have said this as her wedding vows?

We'd probably still be together.
 
Werd, what if you have a regular rotation of 1-3 guys that were clean & not sleeping around alot? Not group gropes but assuming you could find what you need in 2-3 men but not all in one....would that work?
 
Part of the reason why marriages break up... and perhaps relationships in general: lack of honesty.

However, everyone is allowed to change their minds, that is when shit gets hairy....

Me, I just want a friend with priviliges. He doesn't have to be drop dead gorgeous and I could give a shit how he earns his dough. If he is buff, shaved, good in the sack, funny, kind and honest - I am there.

Problem is - HE AINT. LOL

Seriously, it takes a very peculiar combination for me to find a man attractive. And even if I do initially, I quickly lose interest.
 
Romo17 said:


Damn, why couldn't my ex-wife have said this as her wedding vows?

We'd probably still be together.


You shouldn't have let her eat the wedding cake. Best birth control food ever. :D
 
Dial_tone said:
Werd, what if you have a regular rotation of 1-3 guys that were clean & not sleeping around alot? Not group gropes but assuming you could find what you need in 2-3 men but not all in one....would that work?

Absolutely, problem is I can't even find ONE.

Dude, we are all going to be protected and I would hope that these guys have standards. If they are what I am looking for, then, of course, they would.

But, guys either lie acting "all into you" (I can NOT tolerate a liar.) just because they think this will get them laid or they actually get scared when I lay the whole "booty call" thing on them - go figure!
 
HumorMe said:



You shouldn't have let her eat the wedding cake. Best birth control food ever. :D

She didn't, she prefered a fat free sponge cake. I prefered a myriad of Tequila poppers.

She was a personal trainer and even during the wedding was anal about the food she was eating.
 
Romo17 said:


She didn't, she prefered a fat free sponge cake. I prefered a myriad of Tequila poppers.

She was a personal trainer and even during the wedding was anal about the food she was eating.

For fuck's sake people need to loosen up. As soon as I hear people preaching shit to me (they live in the gym, blah, blah, blah - as if they were pros or something) I get instantly turned off.

I am all about moderation. :D ... except, of course, when it comes to sex. Then it is all about seeing who can out fuck the other.
 
Werd said:


For fuck's sake people need to loosen up. As soon as I hear people preaching shit to me (they live in the gym, blah, blah, blah - as if they were pros or something) I get instantly turned off.

I am all about moderation. :D ... except, of course, when it comes to sex. Then it is all about seeing who can out fuck the other.

Fuck, you're my ex wife?

Blasted. Give me back my fucking Bad Company CD's!!!
 
Werd said:
I just want some sex from basically one guy on a somewhat regular basis if it suits us both. What is so hard to believe about that?

we need pics.

Werd said:
Isn't this what all you guys "dream" of: no strings attached sex?!

yes.

but we still need pics.

Dial_Tone said:
did I ask for pics?..........oh.....yeah, I was gonna. Pic please

yes you did DT.

We STILL need pics.
 
Werd,

You seem like you're taking the piss here.

Your posts are full of contradictions. You say you just want great sex, yet you then say you would like the guy to cuddle you as you sleep and hang out...........which essentially implies you are looking for some sort of 'boyfriend' experience out of it.

A fuck buddy situation almost always never works, as at some point, one party or both will develop stronger feelings for the other party, which is natural if there is an attraction there that keeps one of both partners coming back. If those feelings don't develop, then either or both parties will simply lose interest very quickly and move on.
 
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yeah, i had a fuck buddy and that situation didn't work out at all.

check out AAP's thread about "worst sex you ever had." that was my fuck buddy. she made me realize just how good masturbation was, but that's cause she was bad in bed.

oh yeah, she was psychotic too.

of course, i'd be willing to have a fuck buddy relationship again. it's always good for a while at least.
 
vinylgroover said:

A fuck buddy situation almost always never works, as at some point, one party or both will develop stronger feelings for the other party, which is natural if there is an attraction there that keeps one of both partners coming back. If those feelings don't develop, then either or both parties will simply lose interest very quickly and move on.
 
Werd said:


For fuck's sake people need to loosen up. As soon as I hear people preaching shit to me (they live in the gym, blah, blah, blah - as if they were pros or something) I get instantly turned off.

I am all about moderation. :D ... except, of course, when it comes to sex. Then it is all about seeing who can out fuck the other.

THis kind of talk is turning me on.
 
Male Escorts. You will have your choice of MANY and when you have sex with him, and if you are as good as you say you are, He`ll keep coming back for free.

Damn I`m good.
 
LOL

VG I see what you are saying, but the "cuddle" part is rare and only "if" both parties want it on occasion. That is not the ultimate goal here.

And I disagree about the fuckbuddy thing. If both people know the dealio before going into it, then what could be the trouble? If the sex is "eh" then both parties will lose interest whether a fuck buddy sitch or one night stand. Heck a real relationship will not go far if the sex is crappy.

Grrrrrrrrrr Biteme. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

And sorry guys, but I do not have a digi cam or a access to a scanner that works. Got that whole Windows XP incompatibility thing going on.
 
Sounds to me like what you need is a married man. Someone who isn't looking to leave his wife, but isn't getting enough sex from his marriage either (due to his wife working INSANE hours). Someone who wouldn't mind some outrageous sex on the side but also doesn't want any strings attached or "relationship" complications (due to his wife of course). Someone who is in his early to mid thirties and works out regularly.

You aren't by any chance in Pennsylvania, are you? :D
 
Finding casual sex is not hard at all. The problem is that there simply are very few women out there like you who are very open and straightforward about what they want. Obviously, 90% of men would love to have the type of relationship you are describing.

A further problem you will encounter is that because men are so conditioned to the games women play and having to essentially 'audition' for their opportunities, they will be very wary of any woman who is not like this. I have known a few women who had attitudes similiar to what yours seems to be and they always complained that men were 'intimidated' by them. Bullshit. We just don't know how to react when a woman is actually up front and honest about wanting sex. We think it's a trick or a joke.
 
bluepeter said:
Finding casual sex is not hard at all. The problem is that there simply are very few women out there like you who are very open and straightforward about what they want. Obviously, 90% of men would love to have the type of relationship you are describing.

A further problem you will encounter is that because men are so conditioned to the games women play and having to essentially 'audition' for their opportunities, they will be very wary of any woman who is not like this. I have known a few women who had attitudes similiar to what yours seems to be and they always complained that men were 'intimidated' by them. Bullshit. We just don't know how to react when a woman is actually up front and honest about wanting sex. We think it's a trick or a joke.

The best response to date!

I appreciate your honesty and never would have thought that guys might be thinking this.

Forge - been there, done that to the married guy thing. It isn't something that I would do again. There were no children involved so I have no moral qualms about it. We are adults and were honest from the getco. However, after a while I lost interest. The guy was older and went to great lengths to protect his wife's feelings. But he said one thing to hurt my feelings and I cut him off accordingly.

The relationship worked well in that the sex was pretty decent. Minimal time investment. No BS. No feelings involved at all. We both knew what we were getting into. But in the back of my head I always did have this unsettling feeling: what if his wife ever decided to go psycho on me.

I don't need drama.
 
So in your ideal scenario, would you call up the guy and have him come over and do you and leave? how long would you guys be hanging out prior and after sex? what about sleeping over? more importantly, what about anal?
 
The Nature Boy said:
So in your ideal scenario, would you call up the guy and have him come over and do you and leave? how long would you guys be hanging out prior and after sex? what about sleeping over? more importantly, what about anal?

NB, your obsession with anal quite possibly surpasses my own but will probably never reach that of OMGBBGEIGH.

Bowelling for concubines? :FRlol:
 
Werd said:

BigDawg - with you it would be waaaaaaaay more. You are too good a guy. Although, knowing what I know now about life, you might just be "the guy" :D



Awww shucks ;) what a nice thing to say, thanks!
 
Ummmm the guy would not be the one "doin the doin" - I would be.

And sorry, I am not into anal. My coochie is extremely tight and it does me just fine. Besides, when I get off the neighbors hold up scorecards, so why would you mess with that?

If he is skilled at lickinz and also knows how to properly wield his cock - we BOTH are attracted to each other but don't want anything that is intense and committed, what is the problem?
 
Werd said:
Ummmm the guy would not be the one "doin the doin" - I would be.

And sorry, I am not into anal. My coochie is extremely tight and it does me just fine. Besides, when I get off the neighbors hold up scorecards, so why would you mess with that?

If he is skilled at lickinz and also knows how to properly wield his cock - we BOTH are attracted to each other but don't want anything that is intense and committed, what is the problem?

Absolutely nothing and if you ever move to Toronto, feel free to give me a ring and we can setup a schedule. I have absolutely no qualms about being a 'booty call' :D
 
Werd said:
Ummmm the guy would not be the one "doin the doin" - I would be.

And sorry, I am not into anal. My coochie is extremely tight and it does me just fine. Besides, when I get off the neighbors hold up scorecards, so why would you mess with that?

If he is skilled at lickinz and also knows how to properly wield his cock - we BOTH are attracted to each other but don't want anything that is intense and committed, what is the problem?

absolutly no problem at all ;)

Now when are you moving up to Canada ;)
 
LOL I have close friends that are Canadian... I have family that would love to move there, but for me it doesn't seem far enough away.

When I move it will be much farther from the US.

God, I absolutely hate looking at that damned avatar. BigDawg, I have a friend that would absolutely swallow you whole. She is coming into NYC sometime next month. Do you think perhaps that I should forward you a pic?
 
Werd said:
LOL I have close friends that are Canadian... I have family that would love to move there, but for me it doesn't seem far enough away.

When I move it will be much farther from the US.

God, I absolutely hate looking at that damned avatar. BigDawg, I have a friend that would absolutely swallow you whole. She is coming into NYC sometime next month. Do you think perhaps that I should forward you a pic?

Hmmmm sounds appealing ;)
 
Werd said:
Ummmm the guy would not be the one "doin the doin" - I would be.

And sorry, I am not into anal. My coochie is extremely tight and it does me just fine. Besides, when I get off the neighbors hold up scorecards, so why would you mess with that?

If he is skilled at lickinz and also knows how to properly wield his cock - we BOTH are attracted to each other but don't want anything that is intense and committed, what is the problem?

ok you're not into anal. but what about if, say, I was doing you from behind. And I was giving it to you pretty good. you're moaning and panting and drooling or whatever else happens. And while I'm doing you I'm holding a rope that goes up to a pulley attached to the ceiling above the bed. the rope is tied to a very heavy, very sexy looking cinderblock. So anyway, I'm hittin it pretty hard (no anal, because I'm respectful like that), smacking your ass, barking and twitching in pleasure, and right when I finish I let go of the rope and the cinderblock lands directly on your head. WHEW. was it good for you baby? Now lets cuddle.

That would be awesome.
 
Werd said:
LOL I have close friends that are Canadian... I have family that would love to move there, but for me it doesn't seem far enough away.

When I move it will be much farther from the US.

God, I absolutely hate looking at that damned avatar. BigDawg, I have a friend that would absolutely swallow you whole. She is coming into NYC sometime next month. Do you think perhaps that I should forward you a pic?

No pics for me :(
 
LOL Mr Peter. I am certain that you are a lovely fellow, I know Bigdawg a bit and I think that perhaps they might be a good match because I have a sense of who they are on the inside... the exterior attraction is just a little "sweetener".

I know she will dig his looks, but I don't know if he will find her appealing. If he is into tall skinny blondes w/little boobies then the answer will be a definite NO.
 
I am bitching about not being able to get casual sex and what the fuck do I do?

PLAY YENTA.

What is wrong with me?! LOL
 
Werd said:
LOL Mr Peter. I am certain that you are a lovely fellow, I know Bigdawg a bit and I think that perhaps they might be a good match because I have a sense of who they are on the inside... the exterior attraction is just a little "sweetener".

I know she will dig his looks, but I don't know if he will find her appealing. If he is into tall skinny blondes w/little boobies then the answer will be a definite NO.

You're description is the exact opposite of what I'm into, can't speak for the Dawg..
 
I am still waiting to hear.... ;)

But she does not fit that description AT ALL.

This may end up being one of those unbelievable but true stories that I seem to get my self all tangled into. If not, it was still fun to imagine it. :D
 
All from some bitching over lack of casual sex! Which is what would make this total irony.

But then again it would be completely fitting because I am involved. There is one word to desribe me to a "T": paradox. I am both ends of the spectrum... at the same time.
 
amazing thread. a woman mentions that she just wants casual sex and there are already five pages of posts. :lmao:
 
Werd said:
This may end up being one of those unbelievable but true stories that I seem to get my self all tangled into. If not, it was still fun to imagine it. :D

Next on the E-Hollywood true story...NYC Pixel sex.

See the sultry vixen Werd toss out the proverbial bone to a crowded dance floor and watch as the patron piranhas (beta males) devour it only to find out that the bone was really a rolled up receipt for a recently purchased George Foreman Lean Mean Grilling Machine.

Next week, we'll walk in on a narrow San Francisco apartment building hallway where contestants are hosed down with a pheromone based scent and forced to stare down Presa Canarios previously raised and sodomized by Pelican Bay inmates. (Think Pamplona's "Running of the Bulls" with a little more bite.)

Enjoy!!!
 
Romo17 said:
See the sultry vixen Werd toss out the proverbial bone to a crowded dance floor and watch as the patron piranhas (beta males) devour it only to find out that the bone was really a rolled up receipt for a recently purchased George Foreman Lean Mean Grilling Machine.

Hah, I bet if someone started a thread giving away a free George Foreman grille that we would have just as many drooling guys as we do in this thread! Free grilles rule.
 
Forge said:


Hah, I bet if someone started a thread giving away a free George Foreman grille that we would have just as many drooling guys as we do in this thread! Free grilles rule.

WERD
 
Forge said:


Hah, I bet if someone started a thread giving away a free George Foreman grille that we would have just as many drooling guys as we do in this thread! Free grilles rule.

Not I. I would indulge in a thread like that only if Ron Popiel was personally giving away one of his pasta makers.
 
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