Why do some women get FAT after they been in a relationship for a while?

[*The_West*]

yes, i agree with you actually, especially about the training together, i see that one partner could take inspiration from the other's determination to train and generally look after themself.
also, before i met my last girlfriend, were not together now but started seeing eachother about 2 years ago, i was a bit of a fuck up, even though i ttrained hard (i was a good amatuer fighter) i drank quite a bit, got into a bit of a bad situation with cocaine, but i met her, fancied the arse of her lol, she wasnt having any of it though, me being a bit of a substance abuser, she gave me a reason to clean up my act and that i did, we had a great year together, and if i hadnt have wanted to get with her so bad, who knows where id be now?

 

[*The_West*]

snacks taste GOOD. That's all I'm saying.

yes. yes they do, and competition bb's aside, if you train well you can and should indulge in things you like, life is too short to strive for a great physique but never take time to enjoy yourself.

 

[TC2]

correct me if im wrong tatyana, but i thought people should change because they want to, not because their partner prefers the look of toned,oiled, bikini clad beauties? if he wants to stay with her, my man's got to make her feel special so she wants to look special.

He isnt trying to change her...he wants her to CHANGE BACK to the way she looked when she was trying to "GET" a man.

 

[*The_West*]

He isnt trying to change her...he wants her to CHANGE BACK to the way she looked when she was trying to "GET" a man.

actually, that is a very good point.

 

[Cutiebaby]

That is a good question, seeings that it is some what true.
My mother once said it was because she was comfortable and set I guess that meant that she was comfortable around her hubby and set meaning she did not need to slim to look for another.

 

[heatherrae]

I sometimes find that when I'm dating someone, I pick up some of their habits, whether they are good ones or bad ones. For example, if a guy eats at restaurants every night and orders the appetizers, the meal and a dessert, I tend to go with the flow and fit into that lifestyle. Many men have better metabolisms and can get by eating like that, but most women will pack on the pounds. Likewise, if I date a man who likes to stay home and eat home cooked healthy meals, I may tend to do that, too, along with going to the gym. I think lots of women tend to eat like their men, whether that is good or bad.

 

[Tatyana]

yes, i agree with you actually, especially about the training together, i see that one partner could take inspiration from the other's determination to train and generally look after themself.
also, before i met my last girlfriend, were not together now but started seeing eachother about 2 years ago, i was a bit of a fuck up, even though i ttrained hard (i was a good amatuer fighter) i drank quite a bit, got into a bit of a bad situation with cocaine, but i met her, fancied the arse of her lol, she wasnt having any of it though, me being a bit of a substance abuser, she gave me a reason to clean up my act and that i did, we had a great year together, and if i hadnt have wanted to get with her so bad, who knows where id be now?

My point exactly.

If she had been a wuss and accepted everything you did, then she would have been an enabler, more of a co-dependent relationship thing.

She would have been ok with you abusing drugs as it keeps you down, and more likely to stay with her.

I think the same applies to some relationships and physical appearances, some people purposefully try to make their partners less attractive because of their own insecurities.

Really, in a solid healthy relationship, you would encourage the other person to be the best that they can be in every domain, emotionally, mentally, physically.

 

[nimbus]

just wait till she starts buying you candy and making you meals chock-full of dirty cals to drag you down to her level

 

[GUARDIAN]

i ran into this situation with a few exes. when couples start getting comfortable and share more and more activities they adopt certain habits from their partner, especially eating. so when i would eat every 2 hours they felt obliged to join and eat similar portion sizes. though they were eating healthy they took in way too many calories.

 

[heavy_duty]

Women marry men thinking they can change them.

Men marry women hoping they will never change.

Guys need to know that their womens hair length and color IS going to change AND eventually her physique is going to change. If her body changes a bit because of the babies she had with you then its ALL WORTH IT.