Why do some women get FAT after they been in a relationship for a while?

[heavy_duty]

Prolly the same reason men let themselves go: It's called LAZY!

Yep

 

[cindylou]

I would of used the word 'priorities'. It's a priority that I help my kids with their school work. It's a priority that my wife and I spend a little time each day talking about our day and spending it with each other. Working out (at the present time) is not a priority. We thought of working out together, but we have a hard time getting a babysitter for the kids when we go out and I don't like the 'babysitters' at the gym.

this is exactly right - not always is the gym/fitness top priority. Tell a new mom that she should spend an hour in the gym every single am. she would probably laugh at the idea of putting herself over her child.

but health should be up there in the priority list - just not everyone puts it before everything. as long as the gal is healthy i dont see a problem. hell my hubby gained quite a bit after we got married, he quit using steroids so much and he relaxed his diet alot. lol. lol alot alot

 

[all the whey]

He isnt trying to change her...he wants her to CHANGE BACK to the way she looked when she was trying to "GET" a man.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[all the whey]

Women marry men thinking they can change them.

Men marry women hoping they will never change.

Guys need to know that their womens hair length and color IS going to change AND eventually her physique is going to change. If her body changes a bit because of the babies she had with you then its ALL WORTH IT.

!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Razorguns]

Psychology people, psychology. First off - it's a woman's DESIRE, via nature, to keep a man, who won't leave them. This is instinctual, and creates that "jealous" gene.

With that said - if said woman balloons to 240lbs THE LAST THING SHE WANTS TO SEE when she comes home - is her hubby still at his 18 y/o weight of 150lbs. Quickest way for man to get sick of his fat wife, and start "looking around". And leaving fat wife and 3 kids to fend for herself. Woman, by nature, DO NOT want this (duh!). "If I get fat, either you also get fat, or I lose the fat" : is what the woman wants in her head. Usually "losing fat" is incredibly tough.

So, fortunately Mother Nature helps out these women. Making the hubbies also gain weight in time. So by the time they hit 30,40,50 - they are pretty similar in size & attractiveness level (go to a mall, overweight wife = overweight hubby 95% of the time).

You will NEVER see a GQ looking Brad Pitt guy with 3 kids and a 300lb wife. If you do - she's called a Sister.

r

 

[Raptorex]

Psychology people, psychology. First off - it's a woman's DESIRE, via nature, to keep a man, who won't leave them. This is instinctual, and creates that "jealous" gene.

With that said - if said woman balloons to 240lbs THE LAST THING SHE WANTS TO SEE when she comes home - is her hubby still at his 18 y/o weight of 150lbs. Quickest way for man to get sick of his fat wife, and start "looking around". And leaving fat wife and 3 kids to fend for herself. Woman, by nature, DO NOT want this (duh!). "If I get fat, either you also get fat, or I lose the fat" : is what the woman wants in her head. Usually "losing fat" is incredibly tough.

So, fortunately Mother Nature helps out these women. Making the hubbies also gain weight in time. So by the time they hit 30,40,50 - they are pretty similar in size & attractiveness level (go to a mall, overweight wife = overweight hubby 95% of the time).

You will NEVER see a GQ looking Brad Pitt guy with 3 kids and a 300lb wife. If you do - she's called a Sister.

r

WOW! LOL

 

[musclemom]

Little clue here, NOBODY needs to be told they've gained weight, if she wears clothes, she knows, trust me, she knows. I've said it before, I'll say it again, smokers know cigarettes are lethal and nobody needs to be told they need to lose a few pounds.

And there is NO diplomatic way you can tell her you find her less attractive (well, you do, you used the term "BLUBBER") What you CAN do is ask her if she would like to go for walks, bike rides, go swimming, (i.e., exercise dates). Also, avoid eating around her, avoid tempting her, i.e., don't keep tempting food around the house, avoid taking her to the bar, etc.

A person's weight is one of those personal things. I do not believe it is possible to change to suit another person. It's something you have to want from within, otherwise you lose the motivation to keep it up.

I'll tell you right now, if you find a few pounds on her (how much could she possibly have gained in a month or two, seriously) offensive now, you'd best find another woman and call it a day. She will gain weight some day, she's clearly got a bit of a tendency for it and it apparently is something she has to keep an eye on. Some of us got dealt a shit hand when it comes to metabolism and tendency to gain weight. The only way I can ever achieve/maintain my "ideal" weight is, literally, every day I have to measure my food and log my calories. Every ... Fucking ... Day ... of ... My ... Life. That shit gets old after a few decades, seriously.

 

[Raptorex]

Little clue here, NOBODY needs to be told they've gained weight, if she wears clothes, she knows, trust me, she knows. I've said it before, I'll say it again, smokers know cigarettes are lethal and nobody needs to be told they need to lose a few pounds.

And there is NO diplomatic way you can tell her you find her less attractive (well, you do, you used the term "BLUBBER") What you CAN do is ask her if she would like to go for walks, bike rides, go swimming, (i.e., exercise dates). Also, avoid eating around her, avoid tempting her, i.e., don't keep tempting food around the house, avoid taking her to the bar, etc.

A person's weight is one of those personal things. I do not believe it is possible to change to suit another person. It's something you have to want from within, otherwise you lose the motivation to keep it up.

I'll tell you right now, if you find a few pounds on her (how much could she possibly have gained in a month or two, seriously) offensive now, you'd best find another woman and call it a day. She will gain weight some day, she's clearly got a bit of a tendency for it and it apparently is something she has to keep an eye on. Some of us got dealt a shit hand when it comes to metabolism and tendency to gain weight. The only way I can ever achieve/maintain my "ideal" weight is, literally, every day I have to measure my food and log my calories. Every ... Fucking ... Day ... of ... My ... Life. That shit gets old after a few decades, seriously.

stop complaining and get out that measuring cup!

 

[cindylou]

Little clue here, NOBODY needs to be told they've gained weight, if she wears clothes, she knows, trust me, she knows. I've said it before, I'll say it again, smokers know cigarettes are lethal and nobody needs to be told they need to lose a few pounds.

And there is NO diplomatic way you can tell her you find her less attractive (well, you do, you used the term "BLUBBER") What you CAN do is ask her if she would like to go for walks, bike rides, go swimming, (i.e., exercise dates). Also, avoid eating around her, avoid tempting her, i.e., don't keep tempting food around the house, avoid taking her to the bar, etc.

A person's weight is one of those personal things. I do not believe it is possible to change to suit another person. It's something you have to want from within, otherwise you lose the motivation to keep it up.

I'll tell you right now, if you find a few pounds on her (how much could she possibly have gained in a month or two, seriously) offensive now, you'd best find another woman and call it a day. She will gain weight some day, she's clearly got a bit of a tendency for it and it apparently is something she has to keep an eye on. Some of us got dealt a shit hand when it comes to metabolism and tendency to gain weight. The only way I can ever achieve/maintain my "ideal" weight is, literally, every day I have to measure my food and log my calories. Every ... Fucking ... Day ... of ... My ... Life. That shit gets old after a few decades, seriously.

omg awesome awesome post

 

[BBR100]

Little clue here, NOBODY needs to be told they've gained weight, if she wears clothes, she knows, trust me, she knows. I've said it before, I'll say it again, smokers know cigarettes are lethal and nobody needs to be told they need to lose a few pounds.

And there is NO diplomatic way you can tell her you find her less attractive (well, you do, you used the term "BLUBBER") What you CAN do is ask her if she would like to go for walks, bike rides, go swimming, (i.e., exercise dates). Also, avoid eating around her, avoid tempting her, i.e., don't keep tempting food around the house, avoid taking her to the bar, etc.

A person's weight is one of those personal things. I do not believe it is possible to change to suit another person. It's something you have to want from within, otherwise you lose the motivation to keep it up.
I'll tell you right now, if you find a few pounds on her (how much could she possibly have gained in a month or two, seriously) offensive now, you'd best find another woman and call it a day. She will gain weight some day, she's clearly got a bit of a tendency for it and it apparently is something she has to keep an eye on. Some of us got dealt a shit hand when it comes to metabolism and tendency to gain weight. The only way I can ever achieve/maintain my "ideal" weight is, literally, every day I have to measure my food and log my calories. Every ... Fucking ... Day ... of ... My ... Life. That shit gets old after a few decades, seriously.

Common sense and a great sense of empathy. Another good post MuscleMom.