What's the most f'ed up thing you're parents have ever said to you?

[*MissFit*]

I wasnt around my parents so i dunno.. i basically parented myself so it's hard to say

Do you guys think bad parented kids grow up to be bad parents or not?

is it like a thing that skips a generation? what is it?

my maternal granddad was abused and neglected as a child and became an extremely dedicated husband and father, almost sickly in selflessness.

My paternal granddad was raised mild and friendly but cold and distant. He raised my father the same way, who raised me the same way

 

[Evil_Frisky]

Do you guys think bad parented kids grow up to be bad parents or not?

is it like a thing that skips a generation? what is it?

my maternal granddad was abused and neglected as a child and became an extremely dedicated husband and father, almost sickly in selflessness.

My paternal granddad was raised mild and friendly but cold and distant. He raised my father the same way, who raised me the same way

I believe you can break a cycle. I raise my kids different from what I was raised.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

parents dont think kids remeber stuff but they do

Very true. You have to be careful what you say to them.

My gf once said something she didn't mean and shouldn't of said to her daughter (going off of her frustration and not thinking clearly). The first time she did, I looked at her and said, "get the fuck out of the room..NOW." She started arguing with me and I got extremely pissed off.

I finished the discussion with her daughter, then went to go find my gf, who wanted to start arguing with me. That arguement ended real quick because I wasn't taking any shit. Having been on the recieving end of that stuff growing up, you know what effect it's going to have in the long run and if you're smart, you don't let it happen to your kids.

Her daughter got the one thing I never got - an apology.

 

[Hiatussin]

Very true. You have to be careful what you say to them.

My gf once said something she didn't mean and shouldn't of said to her daughter (going off of her frustration and not thinking clearly). The first time she did, I looked at her and said, "get the fuck out of the room..NOW." She started arguing with me and I got extremely pissed off.

I finished the discussion with her daughter, then went to go find my gf, who wanted to start arguing with me. That arguement ended real quick because I wasn't taking any shit. Having been on the recieving end of that stuff growing up, you know what effect it's going to have in the long run and if you're smart, you don't let it happen to your kids.

Her daughter got the one thing I never got - an apology.

Cool, you did a great thing. Reminds me of Arnold in a movie- "If you hurt that child again, I will hurt YOU"

 

[Buddy_Christ]

Do you guys think bad parented kids grow up to be bad parents or not?

is it like a thing that skips a generation? what is it?

my maternal granddad was abused and neglected as a child and became an extremely dedicated husband and father, almost sickly in selflessness.

My paternal granddad was raised mild and friendly but cold and distant. He raised my father the same way, who raised me the same way

I broke the cycle. I refuse to let my kids be raised like my mother was raising us.

However, that doesn't mean that they get away with murder. I am stern but more than fair. My dad raised us right, and if it wasn't for him, I probably wouldn't of turned out to be as good of a person as I am. The problem was the mother.....

I still don't know what the fuck her problem is. She was adopted and raised by 2 devout catholics. Her parents were very loving and did anything and everything for her. She was always taken care of and was actually spoiled. She turned out to be one of the worst people I've ever had the displeasure of knowing. I actually kind of thank her though, because I know how NOT to raise children thanks to her.

If I never talk to her again, I'll be a happy person. Still waiting for her to call me up to get the last information she needs to settle my grandmother's estate.

 

[Hiatussin]

I broke the cycle. I refuse to let my kids be raised like my mother was raising us.

However, that doesn't mean that they get away with murder. I am stern but more than fair. My dad raised us right, and if it wasn't for him, I probably wouldn't of turned out to be as good of a person as I am. The problem was the mother.....

I still don't know what the fuck her problem is. She was adopted and raised by 2 devout catholics. Her parents were very loving and did anything and everything for her. She was always taken care of and was actually spoiled. She turned out to be one of the worst people I've ever had the displeasure of knowing. I actually kind of thank her though, because I know how NOT to raise children thanks to her.

If I never talk to her again, I'll be a happy person. Still waiting for her to call me up to get the last information she needs to settle my grandmother's estate.

my question is- is there a cycle to be broken in the first place?

 

[Hiatussin]

A dad of a friend once suggested he and my dad trade sons. His kid was there and it was quite serious and hurtful to the kid. We must have been 8 or so.

 

[H_T_]

" i should of had an abortion".

 

[Hiatussin]

Oh man that sucks

luckily my gf has very open and liberal parents herself. her folks apolagise for preventing us a chance to fuck for instance... last time I spent the night with her at her parents place her mom made us breakfast downstairs and as we came down said- you guys must be exhausted! I made you some fresh juice.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

Cool, you did a great thing. Reminds me of Arnold in a movie- "If you hurt that child again, I will hurt YOU"

LOL, yeah, it was kind of like that. No threats were given, but I wasn't taking any shit.

my question is- is there a cycle to be broken in the first place?

Yes, there is a "cycle" to be broken. Some people, all they see growing up is their father abusing their mother, and mom stays, so they think it's okay to do so when they grow up.

Some people are beat for everything they do wrong when they're growing up, so they think it's okay to do the same to their children.

Notice I said "some" and not "all." That's they key thing. Some people are capable of breaking the cycle, others just don't know anything different and they continue to treat their children the way they were treated.