What's the most f'ed up thing you're parents have ever said to you?

[Sassy69]

Wow. I'd say the most F'd up thing my parents ever said to me was "We trust you." Goddam does that carry a guilt trip waiting to happen. There have been a few times when I've asked advice & mom is more of a "don't rock the boat" person, and not doign anythign just makes me climb the walls more.

My family is very close and I still call my parents 3-4 x / week. I ask some advice or just use them as a sounding board.

The only other thing I wish they woudl've done is encouraged us (me & my 2 brothers) to pursue say, law, and pick up in my dad's law firm. But according to my mom, that is my dad's way of handling his dad sort of pressuring him into law & following that route from an early age.

Personally I can't think of a nicer pair of people I am sad that i dont' get the chance to introduce to more people. It used to be I was sad that I didnt' get the chance to introduce a special significant other or someone to my grandparents (mom's parents) before they passed. And now I worry that I won't get the chance to do that w/ my own parents. They are in great shape, but both over 65.

 

[Hiatussin]

My parents are born in 1940 and 1950.

they´re older than most parents of 19 yr olds.

They´re all jaded and mellowed out and dont really get angry or excited easily.
Life is very simple to them and problems are silly little things you either just solve, or ignore and forget about. They get very tired of people who dwell on them. They´ve had their share of them in life though

 

[HiDnGoD]

We have to watch, when we raise our kids, that we don't overcompensate. I've chastised my daughter for things, & told her when she's done bad, but I alwways attack the deed & not the person.
However, I've told her so often that she's good, & smart & has a great future that she thinks it's just gonna happen. She doesn't realize she's gonna have to start at the bottom in career & work her way up.
Look how many of us here had bad things happen. When you are out there today walking around, look at all the kids you see & imagine what percentage of them are still going through that.
Whether we deal with it or not, it becomes a part of us & molds our personality.
Remember to hug your kids.

 

[BrothaBill]

you wimps, try growing up with Irish parents and culture. Very heated, but my parents are the best people ever to walk the planet.
My dad when I was young used to love to take potshots at me with his rifles. Id be out in the meadow and "BANG" something would explode right by me scaring the shit out of me. Or a bullet would whizz by my head like a few feet away. I always thought he'd get so drunk he'd just say fuck it and actually shoot me. Which, one day he did, I collapsed into a heap out of nowhere, like my leg just got shocked, it did fucking hurt, not like he said it wouldnt win he got shot in the leg in Korea.
I fell down, it was just a flesh wound though and we were so poor we didnt have insurance so he bandaged it up and told me if I ever told anyone, he'd stopping coming in my room late at night after a fifth of scotch
We were so poor in Northern Michgigan, we'd all sleep next to the stove b/c we couldnt afford heating oil. One time, there was a match burning on the floor, I stepped on it and my Mom said: "who turned out the lights?".
I remember my mom coming around the trails, a bb gun in one hand and a Robin in the other. That was dinner for five that night

 

[chewyxrage]

My parents were amazing. The worst thing I can of is my mom called me "A little shit" when I was like 10. That's nothing.

I would never tell my kids any of the things said in this thread.

 

[TC2]

Put it this way....The only reason that the pieces of shit "mom and dad" I had are still alive to this day is because I allow it.

 

[silverbackn]

It's ok, she's put me through quite alot, her and her husband. I'm definiately not going to get into any of it. It's in the past, and I've dealt with it. They are not a part of my life, and they don't deserve to be.

Although I would not wish my childhood on anyone, I am who I am today because of it, and know that when I have a child I will never treat them the way I was.

"What don't kill you will only make you stronger", this is a quote, I very much believe in.

It sounds like you have a healthy attitude about things! You're right, they don't deserve to be a part of your life. I think a lot of people feel like they owe their parents something or should just put up with their dysfunction, it's just not true. Like I said earlier, I have cut all ties with my father. I made an attempt to mend things after he attacked me. I even apologized for responding back the way I did. He then kicked me in the teeth again. That's it for me. It makes you appreciate those who love you unconditionally even more.

 

[BUBBLES]

you wimps, try growing up with Irish parents and culture. Very heated, but my parents are the best people ever to walk the planet.
My dad when I was young used to love to take potshots at me with his rifles. Id be out in the meadow and "BANG" something would explode right by me scaring the shit out of me. Or a bullet would whizz by my head like a few feet away. I always thought he'd get so drunk he'd just say fuck it and actually shoot me. Which, one day he did, I collapsed into a heap out of nowhere, like my leg just got shocked, it did fucking hurt, not like he said it wouldnt win he got shot in the leg in Korea.
I fell down, it was just a flesh wound though and we were so poor we didnt have insurance so he bandaged it up and told me if I ever told anyone, he'd stopping coming in my room late at night after a fifth of scotch
We were so poor in Northern Michgigan, we'd all sleep next to the stove b/c we couldnt afford heating oil. One time, there was a match burning on the floor, I stepped on it and my Mom said: "who turned out the lights?".
I remember my mom coming around the trails, a bb gun in one hand and a Robin in the other. That was dinner for five that night

Do you walk with a limp now?

 

[Hiatussin]

How about reverse... what did you tell them-

A friend of mine just told his mom who was reportedly talking about suicide to just do it and get it over with

 

[milo hobgoblin]

Mom told me whan I was in 8th grade "Girls just want boys who are really nice and treat them well"

After years of finding out the hard way that the exact opposite is true.

Everything else I could brush off.. but having your own mom lie to you about the nature of women.. thats just fucked up.