it is a typical strategy by the desperate to resist the urge to reach around till they have achieved orgasm, that way even if the date is a man, at least they got their rocks off.
for pick3, its a small price for glory. one minute of stimulation + 10 seconds of orgasm vs one minute of shock. do the sums. he surely has.
pick3, we already know your rule on taste first, ask questions later. so the group want to know, is it a bottom?