Should a man have a say in whether his wife or girlfriend has an abortion?

[heatherrae]

Here is the thing about mutual decision regarding abortion or having kids once a woman is pregnant.

No person should be able to make the decision to have a woman laid down on a table and strapped down against her will, a canula stuck in her vagina and her baby removed.

Likewise, no one should be allowed to force her carry a baby nine months.

Once the woman is pregnant, it is her choice.

Men had the choice whom to sleep with, to wear a condom, or to get a vasectomy if they are so stingy that they won't want to send a dime to their own children.

 

[Wulfgar]

Here is the thing about mutual decision regarding abortion or having kids once a woman is pregnant.

No person should be able to make the decision to have a woman laid down on a table and strapped down against her will, a canula stuck in her vagina and her baby removed.

Likewise, no one should be allowed to force her carry a baby nine months.

Once the woman is pregnant, it is her choice.

Men had the choice whom to sleep with, to wear a condom, or to get a vasectomy if they are so stingy that they won't want to send a dime to their own children.

and the woman had the choice of who to spread her legs for not to mention all the other forms of birth control.... so really that argument is a moot point

 

[heatherrae]

and the woman had the choice of who to spread her legs for not to mention all the other forms of birth control.... so really that argument is a moot point

So did the man. They are equally responsible for bringing the life into the world, but you somehow think it is a dirty or repulsive thing by your degrading use of language toward me and women in general.

Equally involved in the sex = equally responsible for the child = equal financial and emotional support for the child.

Peter Pan Syndrome is so unbecoming past 15.

 

[foreigngirl]

Here is the thing about mutual decision regarding abortion or having kids once a woman is pregnant.

No person should be able to make the decision to have a woman laid down on a table and strapped down against her will, a canula stuck in her vagina and her baby removed.

Likewise, no one should be allowed to force her carry a baby nine months.

Once the woman is pregnant, it is her choice.

Men had the choice whom to sleep with, to wear a condom, or to get a vasectomy if they are so stingy that they won't want to send a dime to their own children.

agreed with all above, except with:

The orange: if once the woman is pregnant its all her choice, then why worry about the dad, if he wants to send money or not. After all, its the womans choice to abort.

the bold: women usually know what kind of assholes are running around, so its very mature to protect themselves and rely on the guy.


you are talking on the subject looking from a point of view as of what happened to you. Snap out of it. Not all guys are like that. This is "in general" thread, not "what happened to you" thread. I always wanted to ask you if you wanted to get pregnant or not. I already know that he knocked you up on purpose

 

[heatherrae]

I'm speaking in general too.

Could you imagine someone forcing you to kill your fetus because the daddy doesn't want it -- strapping you down on a table and performing a painful medical procedure on you to kill your baby. I would commit suicide afterward. That would be worse than rape.

FG, I wasn't trying to get pregnant, but I am happy that I am now.

 

[FriendlyCanadian]

I agree with heather that no woman should be forced or do these things or have the decision made for her, when it comes to aboprtion or being pregnant for 9 months.

but I also think that based on the situation there should be some discussion between the BF/GF or alot of it, a reality check largely, and ultimately in the end it will be the woman's final decision on what she does with her body.

 

[foreigngirl]

I'm speaking in general too.

Could you imagine someone forcing you to kill your fetus because the daddy doesn't want it -- strapping you down on a table and performing a painful medical procedure on you to kill your baby. I would commit suicide afterward. That would be worse than rape.

FG, I wasn't trying to get pregnant, but I am happy that I am now.

I am against any forcefull attempt to take over the womens decision of her productive organs or robbing her from choosing if she wants to have the baby or not.


HR, why for Gods sake didnt you take matters in your own hands and protect yourself?

 

[heatherrae]

I am against any forcefull attempt to take over the womens decision of her productive organs or robbing her from choosing if she wants to have the baby or not.


HR, why for Gods sake didnt you take matters in your own hands and protect yourself?

I can't take hormonal birth control. Made him wear condoms or witdraw. Starting in October and November, he would mess up on purpose and admitted "I want to get you pregnant to 'settle you down.'" We were engaged, afterall, and I didn't know yet what all he was up to or what he was going to do next.

 

[foreigngirl]

I can't take hormonal birth control. Made him wear condoms or witdraw. Starting in October and November, he would mess up on purpose and admitted "I want to get you pregnant to 'settle you down.'" We were engaged, afterall, and I didn't know yet what all he was up to or what he was going to do next.

the IUD's have no hormons at all. Your Gyno puts it in like a tampon and clamps your eggs.

I know, it didnt turn out it was suppose to. And the worst is that you didnt know if you are prego yet or not. Now he can use the "I dont know if I am the father or not" card

 

[heatherrae]

the IUD's have no hormons at all. Your Gyno puts it in like a tampon and clamps your eggs.

I know, it didnt turn out it was suppose to. And the worst is that you didnt know if you are prego yet or not. Now he can use the "I dont know if I am the father or not" card

Yeah, he already played that card.

It's okay. I'm the one who gets a cute little baby who loves me. He gets his own self-imposed misery. Some karma is immediate.