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sex question for people in longer relationships

PoyeBoy

PoyeBoy

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dont move this to the sex carp board

any way my question for people that have been together for more than a few years and live together is "how often do you have sex"

my girl and I have sex only a few times a week, weve been together for six years, and live together, we have sex at most 2-3 times a week, at least 1, our schedules really dont work great, i work normal 9-5 and she works midnights.

I would like more, of coarse, im a guy but I was just wondering if this is normal

it sux, please dont tell me its like this forever?!

being on test dont help neither
 
Going into the 6th year and its about once a week ....I want it every nite, but for her its "not about that anymore" spill. First few years, it was like 2x a day/ 5-6 x/wk.... Some reason it started to slow down.....
 
On the "good" side - they have shown that natural testosterone levels decrease once you are married - some sort of chemical reaction to the fact that you are now settled down. Or maybe from all the nagging.
Suppose that doesn't matter much if you are taking in supplemental test.

I haven't had sex in months - but I don't even really care that much right now - I'm far more obsessed with money. Engaged and living together. Theoretically in sin.
 
The longer you are married the longer you can go without sex.
 
wow this is depressing... this is why i don't sleep around and make sure my wife is also a virgin when we get married. That way there is so much more exploration to be done D:
 
Unlike Wine, it's doesn't get better with age...

Go for the Marathon events on the weekends.
It makes it bearable.
 
PoyeBoy said:
OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

KILL ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Do you own sex toys? If so.....burn them. They do the job better and faster without all the mess.
 
From Zero said:
Try to spice it up bro. Like, maybe YOU could be on top of your boyfriend once in a while.
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Im a taker not a giver



anyway beastboy what about anal? that might spice some things up
 
I'm getting "it" more than you...And...We've been married for 15 year's.

Normal week- 3-4 times!

GREAT WEEK- 5 times! ( ONLY if he's rested...Cuz my old man ain't what he use to be) :-)

I can recall when we were first married. He wanted it everynight. I would have been happy with twice a week or less sometimes!

Now..the tables have turned... I want it daily and he'd prolly would be happy with 1-2 times per week if I'd let him!

Life stages really are cruel!!!!
 
vixenbabe said:
I'm getting "it" more than you...And...We've been married for 15 year's.

Normal week- 3-4 times!

GREAT WEEK- 5 times! ( ONLY if he's rested...Cuz my old man ain't what he use to be) :-)

I can recall when we were first married. He wanted it everynight. I would have been happy with twice a week or less sometimes!

Now..the tables have turned... I want it daily and he'd prolly would be happy with 1-2 times per week if I'd let him!

Life stages really are cruel!!!!
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you need to have a chat with my girl
 
Glad to see WODIN is stepping up to the plate like a champ there Vixen.
 
beastboy said:


Ick.

You=Gay

I=Straight dude with 30 y/o chasing me.
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beasts life partner eats a lot of taco bell and tons of corn and peanuts

thats all I have to say about that
 
Lestat said:
Glad to see WODIN is stepping up to the plate like a champ there Vixen.
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He he that wodin fucker can't keep up with a woman like vix.
 
lol@Lestat!

Bo.. Soooo true! lol

Pod Boy...Have you spoken to her about your needs?Perhaps she thinks YOU are happy with the 2-3 times per week action you're getting.

SPEAK UP!
 
Our norm is 3-5 times a week, sometimes more, sometimes less. You'll probably find that once she's in her thirties she'll want it more. A woman doesn't reach her sexual peak until she's in her 30's whereas guys get there around 18-20 I think. Try discussing your needs with her and find out what would make it more enticing for her. I remember when I had a young child, I was often tired and not feeling like doing much, so I'd often just give my husband a bj...it was quick and kept him happy. :)
 
vixenbabe said:
lol@Lestat!

Bo.. Soooo true! lol

Pod Boy...Have you spoken to her about your needs?Perhaps she thinks YOU are happy with the 2-3 times per week action you're getting.

SPEAK UP!
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Funny that you mention that,

she did say that she will "let me have sex" just because it makes me happy, in turn that makes her happy, and that she gets into it once we start, but thats not mutual, id rather like for both of us to want it

I have told her that wemon get there sexual peak later in life when they are in there 30's

plus I might order some viagra and split it with her

I dont know, its just kind of depressing
 
fuck. Try 2-3 a month sometimes! My wife know all i want to do it get it on and I always will. Hell even after comming off a heavty cycle i still want it all the time. Something is wrong with me I think. I would do it every day if i could. My wife knows my needs but says she cant have sex that much. I am like all you have to do is lay there. lol

I agree you are fucked. All down hill bro.
 
Podboy....Hmmmm.....Sometimes you gotta use the ole noggin to give them a nudge.

She work's nights , right? Have a warm bath and breakfast waiting for her some morning. No sex need be involved. You gotta spark her interest by the sounds of it! Make her wonder why you did not lay her that morning...MAKE HER WANT YA!

***Never get in the rut of no romance or taking her for granted- EVER!!

Hey, it takes a ton of work to keep the fire lit! Sometimes it takes one spouse to blow the amber's when the other is outta wind.

;-)
 
We actually have been keeping tally this year.... avg to date = 4.75 per week. 15th year of marraige.

This is down a bit from last year as I am working about 80-90 hours per week and with 4 kids its hard to find time. SO far in 2003 we have not had one week yet of double digits (10 or more in a week). last year we had a fee weeks of 10-15 times per week.

however back around 92 or 1993 I know we went a month without having sex...I did not even notice until my wife sort of mentioned/complained about it. We had a year or two when I started my own businesss that we were probably doing 2-3 times per week. When we first got married we averaged 11 times per week the first year.

So it varies with many things. I also think one reason its down this year is I have considered straying and its sort of fucked with my mind.
 
Join the club!

So it varies with many things. I also think one reason its down this year is I have considered straying and its sort of fucked with my mind. [/B][/QUOTE]
 
varies a lot depending on whats going on in our lives. Like if the baby is sleeping well in a particular week. If we have a lot of nighttime social stuff to do, that interfers with frequency. If everything is going just right 3-4xwk. Never less than once a week.
 
might as well chemically castrate yourself. Jump on Fina and you won't fucking care one way or the other. Everything changes once you get maried bc she can now be the selfish person she really is since she's got you. Anything that requires effort (like sex) is thrown out the window.
 
gtrcivic said:
Going into the 6th year and its about once a week ....I want it every nite, but for her its "not about that anymore" spill. First few years, it was like 2x a day/ 5-6 x/wk.... Some reason it started to slow down.....
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damn gtr that's backwards. Like she used sex to hook you and now that you're firmly in her clutches she don't have to put out any more.

From what I understand for most girls they wait to get really comfortable to pull out all the stops and fully express their sexuality.
 
I like it when she initiates.

Also to me the ultimate sexual experience would be we would both finish, me second, and she would clean up for me so I didn't have to get up immediately afterwards. If she did that for me I could probably deal with only 2x/week.
 
over 20 years been with my wife. For the first 15 years 7 times a week. Now down to about 3 maybe for if I am lucky. And I agree being on test sucks because the ole ladys can't keep up.
 
Jimsbbc said:
Everything changes once you get maried bc she can now be the selfish person she really is since she's got you. Anything that requires effort (like sex) is thrown out the window.
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I don't remember the last time I read something here that was as true as this. Karma to you...
 
We are married 2 years, together for 7. We have sex mostly weekends only, so that's twice a week. I think it's normal for todays couples. You work so much, you train, the last thing you want to do when you get home is have sex. Atleast for me anyway. My husband generally wants it more than me.


I once read an article about a women who had sex with her husband every night. No matter how tired she was. According to the article they were much happier and closer emotionally. I tried this for a month. We had sex everynight and the above was true for us too. We were happier and closer. I need to start doing that again! Thanks for reminding me.


Go on vacation! When was the last time you guys went away? You'll be having so much sex you wont know what to do with yourselves. Vacation sex is awesome!
 
flexygrl said:
We are married 2 years, together for 7. We have sex mostly weekends only, so that's twice a week. I think it's normal for todays couples. You work so much, you train, the last thing you want to do when you get home is have sex. Atleast for me anyway. My husband generally wants it more than me.


I once read an article about a women who had sex with her husband every night. No matter how tired she was. According to the article they were much happier and closer emotionally. I tried this for a month. We had sex everynight and the above was true for us too. We were happier and closer. I need to start doing that again! Thanks for reminding me.


Go on vacation! When was the last time you guys went away? You'll be having so much sex you wont know what to do with yourselves. Vacation sex is awesome!
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We just got back, thats kinda why I started this thread...... I thought we would make love like twice a day, but out of 6 days we had sex 3 times, kind of a let down, yeah we basically have good sex on the weekend and quickies during the week
 
Jimsbbc said:
might as well chemically castrate yourself. Jump on Fina and you won't fucking care one way or the other. Everything changes once you get maried bc she can now be the selfish person she really is since she's got you. Anything that requires effort (like sex) is thrown out the window.
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Yeah, that seems to be there I am - chemically castrated to some extent.

As long as you go into a relationship with more interests in the other person than just sex, losing frequent sex is not that big a deal - at least for me.

Then again, were I on heavy test, I would be going nuts.

I think if I pressed it, she would be interested, but I haven't pressed it much and she certainly hasn't been initiating it in a long time.
 
im 19 and in a 2 year relationship and its every two weeks sometimes,its so unfair,I dont want to get married if its like this
 
I have to hit you up with some karma also. Id say this goes for about 90% of woman out there.

Jimsbbc said:
might as well chemically castrate yourself. Jump on Fina and you won't fucking care one way or the other. Everything changes once you get maried bc she can now be the selfish person she really is since she's got you. Anything that requires effort (like sex) is thrown out the window.
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vixenbabe said:
Poyeboy....Hmmmm.....Sometimes you gotta use the ole noggin to give them a nudge.

***Never get in the rut of no romance or taking her for granted- EVER!!

Hey, it takes a ton of work to keep the fire lit! Sometimes it takes one spouse to blow the amber's when the other is outta wind.

;-)
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Wow, as usual, VB has great advice.

Sometimes you have to give a massage and let her go to sleep without making her feel "obligated". It can be breakfast, flowers, or a card... let her know you find her attractive and let her know you appreciate everything she does to please you.

I think if your partner feels attractive and if she feels "appreciated versus obligated" then generally she will be more willing to please you.

When she does make love with you, make effort to communicate and try to satisfy her needs and expectations..don't over do it...don't under do it...
If she is in the mood, but you take 45 minutes of brutal pounding to reach your orgasm and she feels bruised and sore...don't expect a "Yes" next time around.

Hot bath followed by a massage usually works wonders, and I think there is a lot to be said for feeling
"appreciated versus obligated".

SF
 
So sometimes your too busy or too tired from work to have sex?

What the hell are you doing.....

sounds like its time for a fightclub/american beauty style breakout
 
Robert Jan said:
So sometimes your too busy or too tired from work to have sex?

What the hell are you doing.....

sounds like its time for a fightclub/american beauty style breakout
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If this was directed at me, let me say this, I am already in that kinda wierd disillusioned anarchy hat everything becuase everythings fake and the media/govt tries to control your every move and life mindset, so................I really dont know where I was going with that, but take it however you will
 
PoyeBoy said:


If this was directed at me, let me say this, I am already in that kinda wierd disillusioned anarchy hat everything becuase everythings fake and the media/govt tries to control your every move and life mindset, so................I really dont know where I was going with that, but take it however you will
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I used to hat you as much as everyone else.

Now I hat you a little less than most people.

Also, I'm kinda hungry.
 
PoyeBoy said:


Funny that you mention that,

she did say that she will "let me have sex" just because it makes me happy, in turn that makes her happy, and that she gets into it once we start, but thats not mutual, id rather like for both of us to want it

I have told her that wemon get there sexual peak later in life when they are in there 30's

plus I might order some viagra and split it with her

I dont know, its just kind of depressing
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perhaps you should invest in stronger
deodorant and mouthwash???

and foreplay...i hear that chicks really
dig foreplay...:confused:
 
At the recent end of my 5 1/2 year relationship, my gf and I would have sex maybe 2 times a month. I seem to get sick of sex with the same girl really easy now. I think it looses it's excitement after a while and the both of you have to try really hard to spice things up. Maybe I just haven't found the right one.

Also, is it just me or do the rest of you get really horny the day after getting drunk?
 
Ugh, i'm 20, my gf is almost 35, we have been going out for almost a year. We only have sex when she wants to, I stopped even asking. Lately, it's better than before. Whenever we see each other, and if we have a place to do it, we will. A little while ago it was once a month, then once a week or so, but the last week maybe 5times.

This last week was more since my parents were out for the week and my gf was staying at my house. It was sorta like a vacation for her, and we had a lot of fun. Aside from this week, it's 1-2times a week. It might change when I start seeing her more often when I move back to college.

-sk
 
hardrock said:


Also, is it just me or do the rest of you get really horny the day after getting drunk?
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I thought I was the only one. I'm not so horny while I am drunk but when hungover I am also really horny. What gives with that?
 
sk* said:
Ugh, i'm 20, my gf is almost 35, we have been going out for almost a year. We only have sex when she wants to, I stopped even asking. Lately, it's better than before. Whenever we see each other, and if we have a place to do it, we will. A little while ago it was once a month, then once a week or so, but the last week maybe 5times.

This last week was more since my parents were out for the week and my gf was staying at my house. It was sorta like a vacation for her, and we had a lot of fun. Aside from this week, it's 1-2times a week. It might change when I start seeing her more often when I move back to college.

-sk
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lol, does your girl still live with her parents or something?

im sorry but just go to her place mang
 
ZKaudio said:
wow this is depressing... this is why i don't sleep around and make sure my wife is also a virgin when we get married. That way there is so much more exploration to be done D:
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man i had that goin for me up until about 3 months ago. hold on to it. trust me you will regret it if you dont.
 
PoyeBoy said:


lol, does your girl still live with her parents or something?

im sorry but just go to her place mang
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She has 2kids and her brother and his wife live with her too.

-sk
 
My wife and I are slowly stepping back up to the plate......it was twice a day every day, for the first year or so.....and then came Riley......and sex ceased to exist......now my daughter is almost 5 and we have a lot more alone time......back up to 4-5 times a week now.....she got new boobs, a little over a year ago, and man did that spice things up.......both for her and myself....I don't know who likes playing with them more.....her or me......we have been trying for about a year to have another child......so the sex is a must.........:p
 
Oh my God!
Ok, here comes the Sex doc. lol Just kidding.
I have been involved with my boyfriend for almost 6 years too.
Things can get boring when you know how tomake each other cum quickly. And the same great position all the time can make it seem like a chore.
We were having the same problem. Sex like twice a week. We both love to f*** too! So, we decided to take things to another level... I like to do it outside. There is just something about it that gets me off. The risk I guess. lol We watch porn and get into it too. Try making your own porn and watching it after you make it. Then you can f*** twice no matter what in one setting for hours. Toys work very well. No matter what, it may be hard to get her going if she is tired or what ever but if you put a little toy on the outside of her and stimulate her clit she will roll over and be all over you. If you have to you can try when she is sleeping. Trust me it works. And I have found out that my b/f got his way with it. lol Also, if she is bi, have her bring a safe girlfriend home. That makes thigns very fun too! Good luck sweetie! Let me know if you tried any of my tricks!

Sky
 
Playmate Sky said:
Oh my God!
Ok, here comes the Sex doc. lol Just kidding.
I have been involved with my boyfriend for almost 6 years too.
Things can get boring when you know how tomake each other cum quickly. And the same great position all the time can make it seem like a chore.
We were having the same problem. Sex like twice a week. We both love to f*** too! So, we decided to take things to another level... I like to do it outside. There is just something about it that gets me off. The risk I guess. lol We watch porn and get into it too. Try making your own porn and watching it after you make it. Then you can f*** twice no matter what in one setting for hours. Toys work very well. No matter what, it may be hard to get her going if she is tired or what ever but if you put a little toy on the outside of her and stimulate her clit she will roll over and be all over you. If you have to you can try when she is sleeping. Trust me it works. And I have found out that my b/f got his way with it. lol Also, if she is bi, have her bring a safe girlfriend home. That makes thigns very fun too! Good luck sweetie! Let me know if you tried any of my tricks!

Sky
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I might have to try the outside thing
 
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