sex question for people in longer relationships

[Lumberg]

Going into the 6th year and its about once a week ....I want it every nite, but for her its "not about that anymore" spill. First few years, it was like 2x a day/ 5-6 x/wk.... Some reason it started to slow down.....

damn gtr that's backwards. Like she used sex to hook you and now that you're firmly in her clutches she don't have to put out any more.

From what I understand for most girls they wait to get really comfortable to pull out all the stops and fully express their sexuality.

 

[Lumberg]

I like it when she initiates.

Also to me the ultimate sexual experience would be we would both finish, me second, and she would clean up for me so I didn't have to get up immediately afterwards. If she did that for me I could probably deal with only 2x/week.

 

[curling]

over 20 years been with my wife. For the first 15 years 7 times a week. Now down to about 3 maybe for if I am lucky. And I agree being on test sucks because the ole ladys can't keep up.

 

[Ganryu]

Everything changes once you get maried bc she can now be the selfish person she really is since she's got you. Anything that requires effort (like sex) is thrown out the window.

I don't remember the last time I read something here that was as true as this. Karma to you...

 

[flexygrl]

We are married 2 years, together for 7. We have sex mostly weekends only, so that's twice a week. I think it's normal for todays couples. You work so much, you train, the last thing you want to do when you get home is have sex. Atleast for me anyway. My husband generally wants it more than me.


I once read an article about a women who had sex with her husband every night. No matter how tired she was. According to the article they were much happier and closer emotionally. I tried this for a month. We had sex everynight and the above was true for us too. We were happier and closer. I need to start doing that again! Thanks for reminding me.


Go on vacation! When was the last time you guys went away? You'll be having so much sex you wont know what to do with yourselves. Vacation sex is awesome!

 

[PoyeBoy]

We are married 2 years, together for 7. We have sex mostly weekends only, so that's twice a week. I think it's normal for todays couples. You work so much, you train, the last thing you want to do when you get home is have sex. Atleast for me anyway. My husband generally wants it more than me.


I once read an article about a women who had sex with her husband every night. No matter how tired she was. According to the article they were much happier and closer emotionally. I tried this for a month. We had sex everynight and the above was true for us too. We were happier and closer. I need to start doing that again! Thanks for reminding me.


Go on vacation! When was the last time you guys went away? You'll be having so much sex you wont know what to do with yourselves. Vacation sex is awesome!

We just got back, thats kinda why I started this thread...... I thought we would make love like twice a day, but out of 6 days we had sex 3 times, kind of a let down, yeah we basically have good sex on the weekend and quickies during the week

 

[NoDaddyNo]

might as well chemically castrate yourself. Jump on Fina and you won't fucking care one way or the other. Everything changes once you get maried bc she can now be the selfish person she really is since she's got you. Anything that requires effort (like sex) is thrown out the window.

Yeah, that seems to be there I am - chemically castrated to some extent.

As long as you go into a relationship with more interests in the other person than just sex, losing frequent sex is not that big a deal - at least for me.

Then again, were I on heavy test, I would be going nuts.

I think if I pressed it, she would be interested, but I haven't pressed it much and she certainly hasn't been initiating it in a long time.

 

[theoak01]

im 19 and in a 2 year relationship and its every two weeks sometimes,its so unfair,I dont want to get married if its like this

 

[KA-BAR]

I have to hit you up with some karma also. Id say this goes for about 90% of woman out there.

might as well chemically castrate yourself. Jump on Fina and you won't fucking care one way or the other. Everything changes once you get maried bc she can now be the selfish person she really is since she's got you. Anything that requires effort (like sex) is thrown out the window.

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

Poyeboy....Hmmmm.....Sometimes you gotta use the ole noggin to give them a nudge.

***Never get in the rut of no romance or taking her for granted- EVER!!

Hey, it takes a ton of work to keep the fire lit! Sometimes it takes one spouse to blow the amber's when the other is outta wind.

;-)

Wow, as usual, VB has great advice.

Sometimes you have to give a massage and let her go to sleep without making her feel "obligated". It can be breakfast, flowers, or a card... let her know you find her attractive and let her know you appreciate everything she does to please you.

I think if your partner feels attractive and if she feels "appreciated versus obligated" then generally she will be more willing to please you.

When she does make love with you, make effort to communicate and try to satisfy her needs and expectations..don't over do it...don't under do it...
If she is in the mood, but you take 45 minutes of brutal pounding to reach your orgasm and she feels bruised and sore...don't expect a "Yes" next time around.

Hot bath followed by a massage usually works wonders, and I think there is a lot to be said for feeling
"appreciated versus obligated".

SF