sex question for people in longer relationships

[Puddles]

Our norm is 3-5 times a week, sometimes more, sometimes less. You'll probably find that once she's in her thirties she'll want it more. A woman doesn't reach her sexual peak until she's in her 30's whereas guys get there around 18-20 I think. Try discussing your needs with her and find out what would make it more enticing for her. I remember when I had a young child, I was often tired and not feeling like doing much, so I'd often just give my husband a bj...it was quick and kept him happy.

 

[PoyeBoy]

lol@Lestat!

Bo.. Soooo true! lol

Pod Boy...Have you spoken to her about your needs?Perhaps she thinks YOU are happy with the 2-3 times per week action you're getting.

SPEAK UP!

Funny that you mention that,

she did say that she will "let me have sex" just because it makes me happy, in turn that makes her happy, and that she gets into it once we start, but thats not mutual, id rather like for both of us to want it

I have told her that wemon get there sexual peak later in life when they are in there 30's

plus I might order some viagra and split it with her

I dont know, its just kind of depressing

 

[HUCKLEBERRY FINNaplex]

Just jack-off Poye.

You'll get use to it.

True dat...Sylvia Saint,Jenna,and Rosie have kept me company.

 

[beastboy]

True dat...Sylvia Saint,Jenna,and Rosie have kept me company.

LOL...and sanity!

 

[KA-BAR]

fuck. Try 2-3 a month sometimes! My wife know all i want to do it get it on and I always will. Hell even after comming off a heavty cycle i still want it all the time. Something is wrong with me I think. I would do it every day if i could. My wife knows my needs but says she cant have sex that much. I am like all you have to do is lay there. lol

I agree you are fucked. All down hill bro.

 

[vixenbabe]

Podboy....Hmmmm.....Sometimes you gotta use the ole noggin to give them a nudge.

She work's nights , right? Have a warm bath and breakfast waiting for her some morning. No sex need be involved. You gotta spark her interest by the sounds of it! Make her wonder why you did not lay her that morning...MAKE HER WANT YA!

***Never get in the rut of no romance or taking her for granted- EVER!!

Hey, it takes a ton of work to keep the fire lit! Sometimes it takes one spouse to blow the amber's when the other is outta wind.

;-)

 

[Generic MALE]

We actually have been keeping tally this year.... avg to date = 4.75 per week. 15th year of marraige.

This is down a bit from last year as I am working about 80-90 hours per week and with 4 kids its hard to find time. SO far in 2003 we have not had one week yet of double digits (10 or more in a week). last year we had a fee weeks of 10-15 times per week.

however back around 92 or 1993 I know we went a month without having sex...I did not even notice until my wife sort of mentioned/complained about it. We had a year or two when I started my own businesss that we were probably doing 2-3 times per week. When we first got married we averaged 11 times per week the first year.

So it varies with many things. I also think one reason its down this year is I have considered straying and its sort of fucked with my mind.

 

[KA-BAR]

Join the club!

So it varies with many things. I also think one reason its down this year is I have considered straying and its sort of fucked with my mind. [/B][/QUOTE]

 

[Scarlett33]

varies a lot depending on whats going on in our lives. Like if the baby is sleeping well in a particular week. If we have a lot of nighttime social stuff to do, that interfers with frequency. If everything is going just right 3-4xwk. Never less than once a week.

 

[Jimsbbc]

might as well chemically castrate yourself. Jump on Fina and you won't fucking care one way or the other. Everything changes once you get maried bc she can now be the selfish person she really is since she's got you. Anything that requires effort (like sex) is thrown out the window.