Okay. Really, first - WELCOME! :wavy:
Next. Your diet is decent. Not great. It definately needs adjusting. It is likely why results are slow coming for you.
I suggest you read through some of the link in this thread for sample diets and further explanations:
http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?t=363631
Also, for further info on AAS and females, I would DEFINATELY read this thread:
http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?t=302279
First, you are not eating enough. You are eating about 3 meals, sometime a little more IF you have snacks. Not acceptable for fat loss and/or muscle gain. Meals should be 3-4 hours apart. There should be a SET 5 meals a day in your diet. None of this "if I am hungry". If you do not eat at consistent intervals, throughout the day, then your metabolism will NOT stay raised and chugging along. The monger you go between meals, the more of a chance for your metabolism to slow down.
Second, your protein is too low. You are getting approx 3 medium servings of protein a day. Again, not acceptable for fat loss or muscle gain. Portein intake should be 1-1.5g per body weight. You are looking at probably just over 100g a day.
Third, you listed foods but no further details. The food choices are good ones (most of them). But we don't know preparation methods, any condiments or marinades used? You need to chart EVERY SINGLE THING that goes in your mouth. This is how you will get a TRUE breakdown of what you are eating.
Fourth, water intake? How much a day? You need to be at minimum 1 gallon a day.
Fifth, where is the fat in your diet? You are taking in virtually NO fat. This is not a good diea. You cannot burn fat without fat in your diet. Your diet should be high protein-moderate carb-moderate fat. Good fat sources are almonds, flax oil, olive oil, fish oil. This needs to be added in.
Sixth, you MUST have a protein shake post weight lifting. None of this "if I am hungry". Your body needs this protein shake after working out.
Seventh, drop the bread in Meal 1. Add oatmeal or cream of wheat made with water. Drop the yogurt and fruit at bedtime - this is all sugar. You can eat it, but do so way earlier in the day and eat it with a protein source. YOU MUST add snacks in mid AM and PM - cottage cheese and almonds are a good one. DO NOT workout and then starve yourselve all night. This is SO counterproductive. You need to have a shake after wroking out, and you need to eat before bed to stave off catabolism. A straight protein souce (3oz chicken) is fine, or protein and fat.