My GF has ZERO sex drive

[resqguy]

I can tell you this, I've been working out for 8 yrs. I am 40 now. In my first 6 months of working out (I went hard, like 6 days a week for 3 hrs) I was HORNY day and night. Bed posts were turning me on. It went on for years.
Working out may help her.

That's what she's hoping.

 

[txbondsman]

In a different thread the other day, Heather brought up something that made a lot of sense, it had to do with body image, what the GF thinks she looks like. ( I took notes on that one, it's something that I have to deal with at home) Heather wrote something like, she may be too concerned with what she looks like to have an orgasm, that was the other thread. My thinking, it may have something to do here also... with feeling sexy enough to want sex. OK, that's a mans mind at work, I hope that it wasn't too big of a stretch.
Heather, sorry if I screwed that up, you were spot on on the other thread, and I hope I came close to the gist of what you had said.

 

[resqguy]

That's something I've mentioned to her before. My GF is absolutely freakin' gorgeous. Actually, she's been on a couple TV shows, so she might be recognizable to a few people. Unfortunately, out here in SoCal, everyone is so unbelieveably self-conscious and insecure...my GF included.

 

[all the whey]

You're an idiot. At no time did I write that my GF and I were "having trouble." My girlfriend is simply concerned about her life-long lack of libido. Bro, how old are you anyway??? Please...go away...

Most people would classify one partner having a lower sex drive than the other as a problem.

I made no attack on you I was simply answering mine and my friends past experiances. I am pushing 40 and have had several long term relationships.

If you didn't notice. I did "go away" until you blacked me out.

 

[all the whey]

Man, R U F'ng kidding!? your so far out from reality that you really don't need to give advise at all to this young man. You need to go back to the village that you came from, somebodys missing their idiot.

young man, you have some good advise on here already, GG is a good gurl and the others will help too. The girls are solid people and they won't give bull shit advise to somebody whose asking a serious question. If a question about sex isn't serious, ask the one who isn't getting satisfied.

You pay attention to what their posting and answer the questions to the best of your knowledge, you'll find answers here.
Tx

the only thing that I was going add, GG covered, antidepressants, but you answered that one. Ladies? check with a doc, possible hormone inballance?

Bro, I attacked no one. If you want to call me an idiot fine.

I did make a JOKE about asking women for relationship advice. (although there is a lot of truth to it.) Yes, the advice about anti-depressants etc. was great advice. But, since it was ruled out out I offer some real world advice. He doesn't have to take it.

I also agree sex is a very important part of a relationship. That is why I thought I would share. I didn't bring up ALL the experiences I had, because I didn't want to hurt his feelings. I would have told him about how I had gone out with a girl who said she had a low sex drive, and only had sex with her exhusband once a week. But, our chemistry was so good that we had sex daily for yrs, and she had orgasms for the first time in her life. Honestly, the same thing has happened that the girl I was with didn't have sex often until she met someone she had better chemistry or attraction. If I would have lashed out like you both did. I would have said that she is just not attracted to him sexually, or the chemistry just isn't right. But, I would not say that, because he seemed upset. Even though it is possible that is the case.

 

[all the whey]

 

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[heatherrae]

She's been on the pill since high school, but she doesn't take any anti-depressants. Her job definitely stresses her out...

Stress is a BIG reason for many women's low sex drives. Try getting her relaxed and being loving and romantic to her. It may work and it may not.

Worst case scenario would be that she just is not a very sexual person. If that is the case, just way whether the status quo is sufficient to stay in the relationship.

One question though, is she just slow to start and then gets into it and has orgasms, or does she just seem to be tolerating the sex just for you?

 

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