I'm sick of being broke

[goin on 4T]

I think I'm done with this constant state of moneylessness. This month I can't pay my rent because I had to pay my energy bill.

My son needs underwear and just came back from his dads and guess what? The dick told him to have me buy it. My ex is living in a nice new 5 bedroom house with his parents, working full time, no bills to pay and he won't buy our son some underwear.

You know what he says when I tell him he needs to step up and help out with his kids? That I chose to be independent. If I can't support the boys, then give them to him to raise because he can afford to take care of them.

I really really don't like that man.

V - that really sux. Just to get an understanding of the situaltion did you leave him?
Was he cheating on you? Or did he leave you?
How many children? What ages?
How long have you been seperated/divorced?
Is there a court order to pay?
Does he pay it?
Do you have a job?

 

[callmejay]

If paying child support won't make him homeless he can be forced to pay child support or go to jail.

What does your lawyer say about him dodging payments? Have you tried taking him to court?

It's extremely unfair for you to have to pay for everything and the law can protect you.

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[SpyWizard]

I think I'm done with this constant state of moneylessness. This month I can't pay my rent because I had to pay my energy bill.

My son needs underwear and just came back from his dads and guess what? The dick told him to have me buy it. My ex is living in a nice new 5 bedroom house with his parents, working full time, no bills to pay and he won't buy our son some underwear.

You know what he says when I tell him he needs to step up and help out with his kids? That I chose to be independent. If I can't support the boys, then give them to him to raise because he can afford to take care of them.

I really really don't like that man.

??? i'm confused, if he can afford to care for them why are they with you?? why are they not spending the weekend with you and living with him??

now that sounds short, but it might be a good idea. or should the government take from him to give to you because you can't do for yourself??

On the other hand..

he's letting you sleep in the bed you made for yourself, be independent, why do you need a man to take care of you.. "stepping up" what a crock of crap that is, he's teaching and "stepping up" he's allowing his children to be that tool, but I believe you caused the situation right??

 

[just...v]

How are you going to go about doing that?

Focus on what you can control and change. An asshole ex is not one of them.

How am I gonna go about doing what?

And you're right. I need to stay focused on my plan an on things getting better in the future. But sometimes I get worn down and so do the boys. Their dad can take them to do fun things and I'm always working. They are getting so big so fast. I feel like I'm missing it.

 

[SpyWizard]

If paying child support won't make him homeless he can be forced to pay child support or go to jail.

What does your lawyer say about him dodging payments? Have you tried taking him to court?

It's extremely unfair for you to have to pay for everything and the law can protect you.

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wow, what happened to fair and equitable division of assets.. make him pay child support, send him to jail.. all good things for the children, all we need is more institutionalized children dependent on the government dole.

 

[-SD-]

How am I gonna go about doing what?

And you're right. I need to stay focused on my plan an on things getting better in the future. But sometimes I get worn down and so do the boys. Their dad can take them to do fun things and I'm always working. They are getting so big so fast. I feel like I'm missing it.

Go to your states attorney general for court mandated child support, however uncomfortable that may be to your pride. Its best for your children and sets a good example of accountability.

 

[SpyWizard]

I mean i don't want to sound heartless cause he's being a dick, I on the other hand am generous to the point of making a person feel bad..

He's learned to control his overhead expense by living with his parents?? good for them, that way they get to spend more time with the kids (weekends) hand over the kids to him, he and his support system are better able to care for them..

after all if seeing them only on the weekends is good enough for him.. it's got to be enough for you right??

 

[zwhit]

turn a trick

 

[zwhit]

just kidding, take his ass to court

 

[SpyWizard]

How am I gonna go about doing what?

And you're right. I need to stay focused on my plan an on things getting better in the future. But sometimes I get worn down and so do the boys. Their dad can take them to do fun things and I'm always working. They are getting so big so fast. I feel like I'm missing it.

I hate to keep coming back to this.. do you have a plan??

I was raised by a single mother, she worked all the time, she loved me, married a man to help her and he beat me almost every day.. good times for me, she thought she was doing what was best at the time and she was, she did all she could with what she had.

what would have been best is if she would have been alone and "independent" ..