I guess I'm no longer a parent

[biteme]

My daughter has rarely been over here in over 2 months since she has turned 13. She says that I'm too strict. All I ask is that she doesn't curse and doesn't play her music where I can hear it. If that's asking too much, too bad. I have to admit, it hurts a little though. I guess she's reached that age. Doesn't need me anymore unless she needs money or a car.

 

[velvett]

Sounds like a normal teenager.

She should have grown up in my house as a kid if she wants to know what STRICT really is for a child.

 

[Cutiebaby]

biteme i am sorry to hear this...but I must say most kids go through this..i lived with my mother and at 13 i stopped going and seeing my father....his way of living differed from mine and i was at the age where i wanted to be in my home town with my friends....give her time she will realize what is more important to her...

 

[KillahBee]

While I know nothing about parenting, I am pretty sure all kids hate their parents at that early teenage stage. can't be easy on the parents

 

[jaded]

Oh biteme... Why don't you call her and invite her to do something with you, just you and her? Something "not embarrassing" (to a 13 year old, LOL), maybe just dinner or renting a movie or playing some football or something now that the weather is nice. Maybe that will allow you two to spend some time together and allow her to realize that while you are her parent you aren't some big bad authoritarian setting out to destroy her life and freedom.

That said, I had SO MANY problems with my parents when I was younger over similar issues and I see my 12 year old sister going through the same "OMG you guys are so strict, so-and-so's parents let them do that!" thing with my parents now. I'm pretty close with my parents now, although even now sometimes I think they worry a bit too much about me (but they're my parents, sadly they're always going to have their parental concerns; no matter how old I am they'll view me as their daughter and look at things from a concerned parents perspective rather than the perspective of a friend)

I know it's easy to feel taken for granted and unappreciated but your daughter isn't making you feel that way on purpose... It's just the age. It will pass...don't give up on your little girl. You are a wonderful father.

 

[buffer1]

almost all teenagers are like that,these days

 

[biteme]

Yes. It just leaves a void because I was so use to taking care of her and doing things for her. I didn't think she really meant it, but it appears she's fine without me. I've heard that they do this and then come around again when they turn 18 or so. Life and relationships are always changing.

 

[buffer1]

Yes. It just leaves a void because I was so use to taking care of her and doing things for her. I didn't think she really meant it, but it appears she's fine without me. I've heard that they do this and then come around again when they turn 18 or so. Life and relationships are always changing.

got that right bro

 

[jaded]

Yes. It just leaves a void because I was so use to taking care of her and doing things for her. I didn't think she really meant it, but it appears she's fine without me. I've heard that they do this and then come around again when they turn 18 or so. Life and relationships are always changing.

Yeah, for sure. Whenever I complain to my mom or get frustrated with her for her worrying she's like, 'When you are a mother and you have your own daughter you will understand.' Maybe she does miss you but doesn't want to be the one to call you...stubbornness/pride/whatever. I'd call her and say hello.

 

[redguru]

Oh biteme... Why don't you call her and invite her to do something with you, just you and her? Something "not embarrassing" (to a 13 year old, LOL), maybe just dinner or renting a movie or playing some football or something now that the weather is nice. Maybe that will allow you two to spend some time together and allow her to realize that while you are her parent you aren't some big bad authoritarian setting out to destroy her life and freedom.

I agree wholeheartedly with Jaded on this, Take her to dinner, or catch a ball game, horseback riding is normally a good choice for a teenage girl.