I did want to go slow at first, until she put her hand on my lower stomach.  
Ok, if she told me 'no, stop' before when I tried doing those things, why should i take control and try to do them harder?  I thought it meant that she didnt want that.  I dont want to be accused of rape or anything like that.  How aggressive should I be?  There is such a thing as being too aggressive, and it can get you into trouble 
