Do I fall for a girl too easily?

[brianharper94]

I can see where everryone is coming from, I really can, and you're all right about somethings. Here's my problem: I've already established the fact that I'm a giving kind of guy to this girl. If I don't give, then it would look like I have lost interest or don't care about her. You guy's say that if I give too much, that it'll scare her off. If the flower idea (which I thought was pretty good) is too much, then what should I get her. I can't get candy because she doesn't touch the stuff. I wouldn't feel right getting clothes because I wouldn't even know where to start or what to get. I thought about a DVD of her favorite movie, but that's more like a gift. Flowers aren't like a gift, they just say, "Hey, I was thinking about you." Any suggestions? I can already see how I've messed up quit a few relationships now, by buying the wrong kind of things at the wrong times.

Badazz....You have something against women don't you bro? If being too nice is doing something wrong that I deserve to get dumped for, then I guess I've deserved to get dumped quite a few times. I can't help it, I just want to show them that I care about them. It never has made since to me why they dump me, but they have to have a reason, right? I mean, looking at myself in the mirror, I'd dump me too, no, I wouldn't go out with me in the first place. Thanks for the input even if it is flamish, I need to hear it.

Honeynut...What kind of surprises? I'm a guy, I need help. When I said diamonds I didn't mean like a $10,000 something, I meant more like $500-600. What can I do not to spoil her, but still treat her? I don't think she'd get spoiled, she's very appreciative of everything. I went to New York about three months ago and brought her back a Yankees cap. She was like, "Oh my god!!! You're so sweet. I can't believe you got me something. You're the best." All that over a little hat (I got a hug too ). She's like that everytime I get her something (which is about every 2-3 weeks).

68GT350....I think you go along with badazz huh? I do fall easily, but I've been falling for this girl ever since I first met her. I think I'll have better luck this time because she is one of my closest friends (at least I hope so). Glad you liked the roses idea, you can steal it if you want. I figured that it would be good for a big kiss from her.

 

[Honeynut]

See, the hat was a nice idea. Cute, shows you were thinking about her while you were away. Flowers would definitely do the trick. I just thought a dozen roses was a bit, well, much. Red roses say "I love you". Each color rose is supposed to mean something - I think yellow is for friendship, for example, so you might not want to send those either.

It's a beautiful thought though. Why not get her a nice bouquet of something else? I love gerbera daisies. Ask your florist for advice.

Clothes are a little too intimate right now, and too much like a gift, as you said for the DVD.

Go with flowers

 

[brianharper94]

Thanks, I never thought about another kind of flower. Good idea. Well, I'm going out the door to pick her up now. I'm letting her pick everything, so this should be fun. I'll send her the flowers tomorrow at work. Thanks again.

 

[brianharper94]

Major update!!! I went out with her tonight. Picked up a pink rose for her(just one). We went to this sushi place (she picked). Then we decided we'd go back to her place to watch wrestling (I told you she was perfect). Well anyway, after wrestling went off we got to talking and she said that she had something that she needed to tell me. (Okay, I'm thinking, oh shit, here comes the you're a great guy, but... ) So I brace myself for the worst, but it wasn't what I expected at all. She said, all the time that I would come to her and ask her female opinion on what I should do about my ex-girlfriend, that all she could think about was how bad she wanted to be in my ex-girlfriend's place. She said that she had never related to someone so much and that there is no one in the world she'd rather be with. (At this point, you couldn't have washed the smile off my face with Clorox) I guess I broke the "Don't let her know how you feel" rule after that, because I just broke out with, "I feel the same way about you, and honestly I've had feelings for you for quite sometime now. This is too good to be true, I LOVE YOU ." As soon as I said it, I just got a mental picture of my computer screen saying "Don't tell her that you love her!!!" Well, she said that she loved me too. So I can't be too screwed can I? We kissed around a little after that, and then i left. If you're wondering why I'm not having sex with her right now, it's because she said she wanted to wait until she was married (which is great, as long as it's me she's marrying. I can hold out, I've got will power...and strong forearms). I don't think the roses would be pushing it now, would they? This is so great, I've finally found someone that really cares about me. I love my life.

 

[68GT350]

It took my FIANCE 8 months to fuck another guy after I gave her the diamond ring. GT350 and whipped do not mix from now on. Life is better and so is the love life. Now I do the whipping.

 

[brianharper94]

68gt350...sorry to hear that bro. Sounds pretty shitty. So, where did you hide the other guy's body at? Since she said she didn't want to have sex until marriage, I think I'm safe from her fucking some other guy. I've just got to make sure that I'm the one who she marries, right? For some reason, that really impressed me when she said that. I figured that I would have been like, "Oh shit, no pussy," but I kind of like the idea. At least this way, if I'm lucky enough to marry her, she won't have anyone else to compare me to. Sorry about your situatuion bro, but remember, not all girls are like that, you just have to wait until the right one comes along.

 

[Honeynut]

WOW...

I still think it might have been a little soon!! Some people get freaked out by this type of early outpouring of affection. Do you really love HER, or just that this is happening between you both? Anyway, even if that's the case, it's too late, you can't take it back. And I think you mean what you say, I just wonder if you've ever truly loved before. Please forgove my questions, I just think you need to be honest with yourself to avoid getting hurt.

Then again, it sounds just wonderful over there on your end. You sound like a perfectly sweet guy who has his heart in the right place. I'm happy things are working out with the object of your affection, and I'm glad you're not letting the negative things that I and others on the board have said squelch your enthusiasm or your faith in the opposite sex.

please, just take it slow for your heart's sake.

 

[HighIntensity]

Bro, keep doing what your doing. I just lost the love of my life(three years). She was so into me, we talked about marrige all the time. The mistake I made was in the beggining I played hard to get, but twords the end she knew I was totally devoted to her. I go to the University of Del. (women everywhere) yet I didn't talk to any of them, because of her.

In the end people are right on this board, be yourself, don't be a dick. But you always have to keep em guessing, a little. I thought I knew it all, roses, working out banging body, poetry, nice dinners, romance and great sex. Yet she still left, for another dude. And has never even called to say goodbye, or even a thanks.

So be yourself, go out and date, be commited if thats you, but always be ready for the shoe to drop. Sounds like you got dough as well, which might attract girls for the wrong reason. You want them to like you for you not your dough.

peace

 

[badazzwhitedude]

But you always have to keep em guessing, a little. I thought I knew it all, roses, working out banging body, poetry, nice dinners, romance and great sex. Yet she still left, for another dude. And has never even called to say goodbye, or even a thanks.

You just described my last situation. I gave that chick everything I had and was very, very good to her. But I was still just a bit cocky and kept myself busy with other things to keep her guessing a little, which all was working perfectly, until she hit a depression and started taking heavy amounts of anti-depressants.

The one rose thing was good. That is what I had suggested earlier. Just don't jump into big things right now. Gradually increase the quality of your gifts, as it gives both you and her something to look forward to. If you start buying her expensive gifts now, what's left? So just start out slow dude. Keep the big gifts for later.

Yes BrianHarper, I DO have issues with females. MOST prove themselves to be of absolutley no worth whatsoever. They are too indecisive and dumb the majority of the time and don't make logical decisions. Just look around you dude. It's not hard to see it. I am not saying all, but the vast majority. But I still know how to show a female a good time and I am usually pretty good with surprises and gifts. The white rose idea is great for later on though.

Dude, you have no self-esteem. You need to do something to think better of yourself, and you act as if you are deserving of having being treated like shit in the past. Also, how old are you? Just curious man.

 

[brianharper94]

High intensity...that's a sad story bro. I'm feeling for you. 3 years, I've never had a relationship go more than 7 months. Can I ask you this? Since she did you wrong, do you regret ever being with her in the first place, or do you think of the time you had together as a good thing? Would you have rather not met her, missed out on the good times you had with her, but not wind up broken-hearted? I don't know how I would feel, but I try to look back on past relationships as favorably as I can. Good luck bro, you'll find someone.

badazz...I'm almost 20. I'll remember to try to take it slow, but it's hard. I just get so excited and want to do something about it. I can promise that not all women are bad, they all have bad spells (but so do we), but they all aren't bad. Thanks for the one rose suggestion, she really liked it. I could use a good self-esteem boost (I just started anavar and sust, I always feel better about my self when I'm on). She makes me feel good about myself too. I think I'm going to be alright now, I was just confused, but know I'm seeing things a little better. I should have been with this girl all along, and not worrying over another girl. To be honest, the reason I didn't ask her out before was because I didn't have any balls, and I was intimidated by her. After the big break-up last week, I was in the "Why the fuck not" mindset, and I figured that if shit got too much worse I could always do my self in, so why not ask her out, what's the worst that could happen. Anyway, thanks for the advice, and good luck to you too man.

Honeynut...Yeah, it was fast, but I really do love this girl. I would do ANYTHING for her. Hell, I'm going to go to church with her next Sunday...and I'm an atheist! You've been a big help, you really should be some kind of counselor. I'll try to keep everything in perspective, and I promise that I won't be "popping" anything anytime soon. At least not before Valentine's Day. This is amazing. She's coming over after work tonight witch means she'll be here in about 10-15 minutes, and my orang ruffy is buzzing (yes, I cook, no I'm not gay). She loves fish and I love her so I figured I'd make us a nice little dinner with candles. I even went and picked up some wine (using my fake i.d. of course). Thanks.