Do I fall for a girl too easily?

[badazzwhitedude]

Don't get so excited yet dude. Always expect the worst. She will end up doing you wrong just like all the others. Things can seem so perfect one minute, and you are all alone the next minute. Females are HIGHLY unstable, and you need to keep that in mind. That's why I am starting to talk with 2 girls right now, as well as having another married chick chasing me down. Always have backup. Revenge is sweet.

 

[brianharper94]

Good heads up on the big gift thing, I was thinking on getting her something, but now I'll hold off for a while. Would a dozen roses be too much? I was thinking on send her some at work. I was thinking 11 red roses and 1 white one, with a card that said, "In every crowd there is one that is special, and you are that one to me." Would this be pushing it? I just thought it would be sweet. I'm so happy right now, I've never been like this before. Thanks everybody, I guess I know where to turn to for all my relationship questions.

 

[Honeynut]

WAY too early! Nice thought, but keep it for a special occasion. NO GIFTS until Christmas or her birthday, and then - keep it small and simple.

 

[badazzwhitedude]

After a few dates, just get her a single rose in a small vase. It's nothing big, but it shows your interest and she will appreciate it. I suggest you take my advice. You are setting yourself up to get burned by letting your hopes get too high way too early. You REALLY need to play it cool dude. Like I said, females are HIGHLY unstable and can't make up their minds about what they want.

They are most lacking in reasonable thought.

 

[Honeynut]

I don't think it's reasonable of you to think that all of us don't think, Badazz... But you're right about keeping it cool to avoid getting hurt.

 

[badazzwhitedude]

I don't think it's reasonable of you to think that all of us don't think, Badazz... But you're right about keeping it cool to avoid getting hurt.

All females will claim to say they are capable of reasonable thought. All will say that they are "good" females. You can be anything you want to be to someone if you lie. Do you think any will actually say they aren't capable of reasonable thought, even if they really aren't? Of course not. It MAY not be ALL females, but around 99% is a very close estimate.

 

[brianharper94]

I feel you on the not getting something big, but flowers wouldn't be that big. I've got her stuff before, as a gift from a friend, and she knows that I have enough money to go around. If I don't get her anything at all until Christmas, then I'd look really cheap and she knows I'm not cheap. When I think of something big that I could get for Christmas, I'm thinking diamonds (not a ring though). It wouldn't be unusual for me to stop by and have like a little $20 something for her just to know that I was thinking about her. I figure since we're going out now that I should pony up a little more dough on the things i get her. Our date the other night was around $150, which was the highest first date that I've ever had, but I think she's worth every bit of it. I was thinking that if we get intimate anytime soon (normally I shoot for the third date, but I'm going to let her lead the way) that I might ask her to go up to this place my family has in the mountains for a little weekend getaway. Is that pushing it? By the way, badazzwhitedude, most of the time when I get crushed by a girl, I probably deserved it, I've never cheated on one, but I'm sure I would have had to of done something wrong. Girls are smart. This girl isn't like anybody else I've ever been with. She's really caring, and makes me feel good about myself (okay, I'll admit, as hot as she is, when walked in the restaurant the other night, and every guy in there was looking, wishing he was me, that was probably the best feeling ever). Since we've known each other for a good while before we ever went out, can't some of the dating rules (like the big gift thing) go out the window?

 

[Honeynut]

A little surprise here and there wouldn't hurt. I think it's sweet. I think diamonds are a bit much... not to say she wouldn't love them! I know I would... (HINTHINT to a certain someone! )

If you treat her on a regular basis, there's no reason to change your pattern. It just sounds like you've got a lot of money, and it would be wise of you not to spoil her.

 

[badazzwhitedude]

By the way, badazzwhitedude, most of the time when I get crushed by a girl, I probably deserved it, I've never cheated on one, but I'm sure I would have had to of done something wrong. Girls are smart.

Why do you say you derserved it? Because you fell for them to fast and makes you appear too, umm, "easy?" I am not saying that all girls are messed up (although the VAST majority are), and I am definitely not saying that all guys are innocent. But when you say girls are "smart," then why do they make these stupid decisions on the spur of the moment without thinking of long-term effects, and then later on they regret it when it's too late and the damage is already done? Everything could have been prevented if they gave it an ounce of fucking thought in the first place. Doesn't sound very smart to me.

No flame here brother, but it seems to me that you have lots to learn. It seems like you fall to fast for females and you fall into the traps that they set up for you. I wish you luck brother. You need it.

 

[68GT350]

Listen man, if you even remotely think you fall for girls too easily...you do!

It's definitely too early for the roses--albiet, a fantastic idea when you are secure (which is not yet). Remember one concrete factor:

Girls never take the most obviously wise choice. I'm not sure but it seems girls almost think things are too good to be true and botch it up so they don't wind up getting hurt first so the "F" you up first. That's way it is pertinent that you feign interest. Don't neglect...just be like Fonzie--be cool!