Women...Need help

[i am what i am]

WTF...Alright, we all know that guys don't last long in the sack and women get all kinds of pissed off and never get satisfied. But what happens if its reversed. By the time I'm done with foreplay, she only lasts about 3 minutes when I'm in her. I mean, this could be every guys dream. In and out and to bed in under 3 minutes. But I'm 21 and horny as hell and want to go all night. Women, any idea of how to help the g/f last longer in bed?

 

[musclemom]

WTF...Alright, we all know that guys don't last long in the sack and women get all kinds of pissed off and never get satisfied. But what happens if its reversed. By the time I'm done with foreplay, she only lasts about 3 minutes when I'm in her. I mean, this could be every guys dream. In and out and to bed in under 3 minutes. But I'm 21 and horny as hell and want to go all night. Women, any idea of how to help the g/f last longer in bed?

So you're saying she gets her rocks off, then rolls over and wants to go to sleep or basically says, "I got mine now get off," (literally ... figuratively) or what?

I find this a fascinating concept, I'm purely curious here.

Okay, that being said, why don't you negotiate the sex? You can't go ALL night long, every night, that's unreasonable and excessive wear and tear on precious equipment and you guys probably need to be able to get up and go do something in the morning sooo, negotiate things out. There's nothing wrong with a few quickies and a once or twice weekly long session ...

Because her changing her orgasm response is uhh, her problem, kind of, really ...

 

[novamanms]

 

[i am what i am]

Well, its not a "i got mine now get off." Its a holy shit, you got me good, now just bust. Well, we don't live together, so we don't have a lot of alone time. So we take it when we can get it. I'm not that in to quickies. I'd be content with 1 long session a week, but she can't last that long. I get her, like i said, in three minutes, she'll tell me to finish, so i do, and she'll lay there quivering for like 5 minutes and then fall asleep on me. I mean, I feel like a champ, but I want to keep going.

 

[musclemom]

Well, its not a "i got mine now get off." Its a holy shit, you got me good, now just bust. Well, we don't live together, so we don't have a lot of alone time. So we take it when we can get it. I'm not that in to quickies. I'd be content with 1 long session a week, but she can't last that long. I get her, like i said, in three minutes, she'll tell me to finish, so i do, and she'll lay there quivering for like 5 minutes and then fall asleep on me. I mean, I feel like a champ, but I want to keep going.

You need to give her time.

If she's of the "I have one BIG one" school ... yeah, all she'll want to do is lie there and purr for a while and then crash. You can't change that, girls are generally either multiorgasmic or they have one MONSTER orgasm, but we don't mix and match. And when you belong to the One Monster Orgasm school (and this is not choice, it's how you are wired, like how tall you are or what color your eyes are naturally), you get your cookie and you don't wanna be touched no more, that's all there is to it, it's too sensitive to BE touched. You have to go all the way to ground zero and start over again, believe it or not ... you literally need cool down time. It's got to do with how she's built, you see, and you two fit together really well, obviously.

And here's the ironic part, if you KEEP going she's going to dry up on you, guaranteed.

Does it help to know that girls aren't wired the same as men, the orgasm response is different, there is a very strong hormonal/endocrine component? Asking her to try to postpone her orgasm may be a physical impossibility for her. So what you need to do is work around what triggers her orgasm.

Just remember, sex is about blending your needs and wants with your partners needs and wants ...

 

[mrplunkey]

I've been in a very similar situation. Not very difficult to get her off at all, but she was a one-shot sex partner. She didn't even want to try for another orgasm.

It wasn't as much of an "I've got mine now we're done" attitude... it was more of a "let's get this over with. Go ahead."

And some guys, like me, just don't work that way. I normally take 15-30 minutes to build to an orgasm, but it's a monster one. Sad thing is the women often don't see it as a fun challenge but instead get impatient with us. Nothing quite like a mood killer to hear your woman sigh as you're building toward an orgasm.

 

[i am what i am]

Thanks for the advice. Maybe I'll sit her down and talk to her. Gotta work something out.

 

[i am what i am]

I've been in a very similar situation. Not very difficult to get her off at all, but she was a one-shot sex partner. She didn't even want to try for another orgasm.

It wasn't as much of an "I've got mine now we're done" attitude... it was more of a "let's get this over with. Go ahead."

And some guys, like me, just don't work that way. Sad thing is the women often don't see it as a fun challenge but instead get impatient with us. Nothing quite like a mood killer to hear your woman sigh as you're building toward an orgasm.

Tell me about it. Almost makes me not want to finish. Almost.

 

[mrplunkey]

Tell me about it. Almost makes me not want to finish. Almost.

I used to wish I could churn-out a month of solid 2-pump-chump performance and then she'd be more appreciative of a guy with staying power.

 

[musclemom]

I used to wish I could churn-out a month of solid 2-pump-chump performance and then she'd be more appreciative of a guy with staying power.

She wouldn't. Really. She comes the way she comes and it is what it is

Hey, I know what I'm talking about on this issue (as opposed to a lot of shit that I spout off about normally ) and I'm willing to give you insight into it . I am a "one big one" chick. My husband can be a "go all night" man. He's had to change HIS orgasm style, or rather, how he gets there, because I can't change mine (don't think we haven't tried ... he was like, oh, let's keep going ... I'm like GET OFF let go, STOP that! Don't Touch THAT anymore!!!) What makes us both happiest is that we either postpone MY orgasm, or I just skip having one entirely (sometimes I'm not in the mood) but I can't CHANGE my response. If I postpone it, I CAN'T come, I get revved with no release and get oversensitized and annoyed. It is what it is, it is how you're wired, I was this way when I was 19, I was this way when I was 29, I was this way at 39 and I'm still this way ...