Virginity -religion aside

[healother]

I had no idea this was foxygel. Why do you keep changing your name? Be true to yourself, padowan.

The only potential problem I see with you is not that youre a virgin, its that youre a male virgin. Female virgins are respectable and even sought after by some, but male virgins (in the US) are generally looked down upon at your age. This makes it harder for you to get women (if you are holding yourself out as a virgin and not keeping it a secret). I know youre not interested in getting laid right now but the fact you are a virgin will probably hurt your chances with simply dating and getting a little physical.

ha sorry, i thought i told you. long story behind the name changes. summary: i didnt know if i was allowed back here, so i was doing it incognito for awhile.

so do you think that even female virgins prefer males who are non virgins?

 

[Deleted member 33117]

If I have a daughter you best believe she's getting kept on a 6 inch leash until she's 21.

Fxygel, seriously you will never find the right partner for you unless you date a lot of women. And that usually means sleeping with them. Out of 100, there might be one that's right for you but you'll never know if you end up getting all infatuated and marrying the first one to give it up to you.

you'll learn that you're not missing out on anything by being with that one woman.. but only if you have the experience to know what else is out there.

Case and point. I slept with over 50 women, and had been on at least one day with at least 40, before ever finding the women I am married too, and I was looking for a serious relationship for 3 years. Even then, her and I fucked like bunnies on our first date, and had agreed to just be fuck buddies after that.

 

[healother]

He wasnt unfaithfull to ANY of them. Matter of fact the women that he was committed to cheated on HIM! (There were 6 that he committed to.) With everybody else it was just sex, no commitment, all consenting adults.

There is a difference between having sex for sex and entering into a committed relationship.

I had been faithfull to my exhusband for 13 years right up until the night HE broke our covenant with violence. After that I did what I wanted with whom I wanted, never lied, all of us consenting adults. Not many people can say they were faithfull to another for 13 months let alone 13 years (I was not a virgin on my wedding night but was relatively sexually inexperienced when I met my first husband. I was with only him my entire adult life but for the last 6 years - I am 39 so you do the math).

For me it was easy to be faithfull as I am true to my word. On the flip side once I separated from my ex I fucked who I wanted when I wanted. So which am I? Slut or Faithfull partner?

Think about that.

sorry, i wasnt trying to say he was unfaithful with them, i just meant that he is used to those short term relationships, and maybe marriage is a difficult adjustment to make from that.

you sound like you were very faithful in your first marriage, but as you said before you were inexperienced before you were married, and that could have made it easier. not to say you would have been unfaithful otherwise, its tough to say. you probably know better than i do.

 

[bluepeter]

But hey, she aint my wife so WTF do I care? LOL

Precisely what I was thinking. Plus, she was smoking hot

 

[healother]

Case and point. I slept with over 50 women, and had been on at least one day with at least 40, before ever finding the women I am married too, and I was looking for a serious relationship for 3 years. Even then, her and I fucked like bunnies on our first date, and had agreed to just be fuck buddies after that.

ok, now your marriage is also a little different though, since you two are both into swinging, right?
also you 2 havent been married that long yet. we dont know what your marriage will be like 5 years from now.

 

[-SD-]

ha sorry, i thought i told you. long story behind the name changes. summary: i didnt know if i was allowed back here, so i was doing it incognito for awhile.

so do you think that even female virgins prefer males who are non virgins?

I would have to say no because even female virgins want to eventually know they have a guy whose knows how to take care of business in bed. Regardless of whether you personally know how to fuck like the wind blows even though you are a virgin doesnt matter to a female virgin, all she knows is that guys with experience are better in bed or and more desireable all around than guys without. You must do what you think is right for yourself of course but there are actions/reactions to all things in life whether good intentions or not.

 

[Bikini Mod]

sorry, i wasnt trying to say he was unfaithful with them, i just meant that he is used to those short term relationships, and maybe marriage is a difficult adjustment to make from that.

you sound like you were very faithful in your first marriage, but as you said before you were inexperienced before you were married, and that could have made it easier. not to say you would have been unfaithful otherwise, its tough to say. you probably know better than i do.

You are sweet. I was not offended at all.

My level of experience (or lack thereof) had nothing to do with my "ability to remain faithfull." I had sex with more than one man but less than 10 LOL before I was married the first time. I met my ex when I was barely 21. Does that make me a slut? I was a dutiful, faithfull life partner to my 1st undeserving husband for 13 years not because "I didnt know any better." It was because in my estimation once you make a commitment, you honor it, or you get out and move on.

You see in my opinion I would not have been cheating on my husband but worse, I would be cheating on my children. I view it this way even now regardless of the fact that my current husband did not father my children. But I did CHOOSE HIM to be the man that will be their father. So what kind of mother would I be if I cheated on my children this way? Dishonored the man that I committed to in front of them? What message would this send my children about me and about men?

Lying and cheating are just not me. I prefer to walk away. But I am not a child. I know that it is all too easy for many to succumb to the temptations that are out there and sex has NOTHING to do with it. If you are choosing to remain chaste because you think that both you and your future wife will have a greater chance of remaining faithfull to each other, you are in for a rude awakening.

Decent people (we are not talking about those that are wired to be unfaithful but lie to themselves and their partners by saying that they are not) do not cheat because of sexual attraction. They cheat because of how they feel about themselves when they are in the company of that other person.

I didnt make this up or discover it for myself. This is a FACT.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Precisely what I was thinking. Plus, she was smoking hot

LFMAO

 

[healother]

Decent people (we are not talking about those that are wired to be unfaithful but lie to themselves and their partners by saying that they are not) do not cheat because of sexual attraction. They cheat because of how they feel about themselves when they are in the company of that other person.

I didnt make this up or discover it for myself. This is a FACT.

really? so most people who cheat in relationships are doing it because they desire another 'partner'? and by partner i mean someone they enjoy in all aspects, not just someone they want to fuck.

hmm, i guess regardless of reasons, if someone cheats, they are not a decent person. i just dont understand why people can at least be honest and break it off first!

 

[Rabid_Goose]

If you honestly think you're going to find a 30 year old virgin, I feel sorry for you. You don't need to hold off having sex to feel better about yourself or to feel superior. That goes with trying to get as much tail as you can get. Don't validate yourself on something like this. Validate yourself on how you make your friends feel, how much happiness you bring into their lifes while maintaining your own.

Not on I went to 30 before I had sex, or I banged 200 hookers in a night and I drive a fast car.