Virginity -religion aside

[Bikini Mod]

For crying out loud, at least fuck a chick in the ass. Save the pussy for the wedding night.

This mindset has always befuddled me: guys and girls who honestly believe that just because they dont have "penis in vagina" contact means they are still virgins? WTF - men think that women who have had intercourse with several other men are "sluts" but think that women who have had anal sex and oral sex with countless men are somehow "better" or more desirable as life partners?

Call me crazy but if I heard that my husband had anal sex or oral sex with another woman I would still kick his ass to the curb for having SEX with another woman.

What is this "penis in pussy" sex being the only REAL definition of sex?

 

[bluepeter]

This mindset has always befuddled me: guys and girls who honestly believe that just because they dont have "penis in vagina" contact means they are still virgins? WTF - men think that women who have had intercourse with several other men are "sluts" but think that women who have had anal sex and oral sex with countless men are somehow "better" or more desirable as life partners?

Call me crazy but if I heard that my husband had anal sex or oral sex with another woman I would still kick his ass to the curb for having SEX with another woman.

What is this "penis in pussy" sex being the only REAL definition of sex?

It was a joke.

 

[Rabid_Goose]

Virgins learning together is like two people that have never driven a car, attempting to drive. But if you think you can find a virgin out there to marry, more power to you man.

 

[Bikini Mod]

It was a joke.

Then let me STFU.

You do realize that there are MANY peeps out there (of both genders) that are of this mindset though?

 

[Tweakle]

I honestly thought this was some sort of exaggeration. I didnt know that MANY young women actually behaved this way as if it was "no big deal".

If I have a daughter you best believe she's getting kept on a 6 inch leash until she's 21.

Fxygel, seriously you will never find the right partner for you unless you date a lot of women. And that usually means sleeping with them. Out of 100, there might be one that's right for you but you'll never know if you end up getting all infatuated and marrying the first one to give it up to you.

you'll learn that you're not missing out on anything by being with that one woman.. but only if you have the experience to know what else is out there.

 

[healother]

UPDATE:
Wow! Its taken me awhile to read and respond to some of these. In my previous post (post #45) I put in all my replies to the people who posted above. that post has been edited and updated to include all the replies.

ill reply to the new posts here:

i wouldnt take dating / relationship advice from anyone on this board.

I've thought about that. I dont know why the heck I post all these threads regarding life decisions. I feel compelled to. And like you are saying i have no idea where this advice is coming from!

The "cool thing" about being a virgin (from my vantage point only) is that you are in total control of whom it is that you share that experience with, nothing more and nothing less.

As I stated before, how many sex partners my husband has had before me is of little consequence to me. (He has had hundreds if not more.) All I am concerned with is who his sex partner is from the time that we voluntarily decided to commit to one another, foresaking all others.

dont you think it may be a little easier though for some partners to stick together and be faithful, if the only ones they had sex with were themselves, or.... if they didnt have tons of partners before hand?

I mean trends are trends. Not to diss Grumpy Old Man or anything. But how can a man who has had sex with hundreds of women, just STOP that behavior and have sex with just 1 woman for the rest of his life? I know it has happened where a man and woman sleep around a lot, get married and stick it out together, but it just seems more unlikely.

For crying out loud, at least fuck a chick in the ass. Save the pussy for the wedding night.

I dont understand the dudes that love to put it in the butt. that just seems gross, of course i know you're kidding, but still.

This mindset has always befuddled me: guys and girls who honestly believe that just because they dont have "penis in vagina" contact means they are still virgins? WTF - men think that women who have had intercourse with several other men are "sluts" but think that women who have had anal sex and oral sex with countless men are somehow "better" or more desirable as life partners?

Call me crazy but if I heard that my husband had anal sex or oral sex with another woman I would still kick his ass to the curb for having SEX with another woman.

What is this "penis in pussy" sex being the only REAL definition of sex?

exactly. as far as im concerned, if there is sexual organ contact in any fashion. with a guy finger fucks a woman, or if the man lets him stick his organ between her tits, or if he humps her thighs, bla bla, its still sex!

Virgins learning together is like two people that have never driven a car, attempting to drive. But if you think you can find a virgin out there to marry, more power to you man.

if 2 virgins have sex in highschool i dont see that being too much different than 2 thirty year old virgins having sex
yeah, finding one is a trick though I'm sure!

If I have a daughter you best believe she's getting kept on a 6 inch leash until she's 21.

Fxygel, seriously you will never find the right partner for you unless you date a lot of women. And that usually means sleeping with them. Out of 100, there might be one that's right for you but you'll never know if you end up getting all infatuated and marrying the first one to give it up to you.

you'll learn that you're not missing out on anything by being with that one woman.. but only if you have the experience to know what else is out there.

why cant one learn about a woman, and discover if she's right for him or not without having sex with her?

 

[bluepeter]

Then let me STFU.

You do realize that there are MANY peeps out there (of both genders) that are of this mindset though?

lol, I've actually been with one. An indian girl who wanted to save her virginity. She would only blow me and allow me to fuck her in the ass. Good times.

 

[-SD-]

I had no idea this was foxygel. Why do you keep changing your name? Be true to yourself, padowan.

The only potential problem I see with you is not that youre a virgin, its that youre a male virgin. Female virgins are respectable and even sought after by some, but male virgins (in the US) are generally looked down upon at your age. This makes it harder for you to get women (if you are holding yourself out as a virgin and not keeping it a secret). I know youre not interested in getting laid right now but the fact you are a virgin will probably hurt your chances with simply dating and getting a little physical.

 

[Bikini Mod]

UPDATE:
dont you think it may be a little easier though for some partners to stick together and be faithful, if the only ones they had sex with were themselves, or.... if they didnt have tons of partners before hand?

I mean trends are trends. Not to diss Grumpy Old Man or anything. But how can a man who has had sex with hundreds of women, just STOP that behavior and have sex with just 1 woman for the rest of his life? I know it has happened where a man and woman sleep around a lot, get married and stick it out together, but it just seems more unlikely.

He wasnt unfaithfull to ANY of them. Matter of fact the women that he was committed to cheated on HIM! (There were 6 that he committed to.) With everybody else it was just sex, no commitment, all consenting adults.

There is a difference between having sex for sex and entering into a committed relationship.

I had been faithfull to my exhusband for 13 years right up until the night HE broke our covenant with violence. After that I did what I wanted with whom I wanted, never lied, all of us consenting adults. Not many people can say they were faithfull to another for 13 months let alone 13 years (I was not a virgin on my wedding night but was relatively sexually inexperienced when I met my first husband. I was with only him my entire adult life but for the last 6 years - I am 39 so you do the math).

For me it was easy to be faithfull as I am true to my word. On the flip side once I separated from my ex I fucked who I wanted when I wanted. So which am I? Slut or Faithfull partner?

Think about that.

 

[Bikini Mod]

lol, I've actually been with one. An indian girl who wanted to save her virginity. She would only blow me and allow me to fuck her in the ass. Good times.

I understand what you are saying but not only does behavior like that not makes any sense to me but it actually nauseates me. But hey, she aint my wife so WTF do I care? LOL