Virginity -religion aside

[healother]

some kids i know are some really cool kids and youd never guess they were virgins cause they dont "act like it"

you dont need to have it create a rift, at least over here nobody gives a shit about eachothers personal discisions, its not a big deal and it will only create a rift if u let it, just be urself and quit worrying bro

thanks man. ill try to stay positive. i think i just need to be more assertive and confident about myself and not argue with people or entertain those people who challenge me.

that was a long post quote, LOL

 

[Delinquent]

Didn't we all have this conversation like 3 years ago??

 

[healother]

Didn't we all have this conversation like 3 years ago??

yes, we probably did, lol. i know i can get a bit repetitive on this site.
so you remember me?

 

[Delinquent]

Yea man. I didn't know who you were until I saw your old name mentioned in that other religious thread.

Even though I don't agree with saving yourself, if you wanna do this and can actually find a woman (not girl) that has the same values and beliefs then stay the course. Even though your beliefs may not be the norm in this day and age, they are your beliefs and no one should be able to influence how you intend to live your life.

If you are questioning your beliefs, you need to speak with christians that are more liberal on the matter instead of the bible thumpers who believe that the bible is literal and not metaphorical. Seek those that have had the same dilemma that have chose to lose their virginity before marriage and see how it has impacted their life.

Considering this site is very liberal regarding religion and the members of your church are probably not the best people to talk to about this. I'm not sure what denomination you are but find a nondenominational church and ask their reverend about the matter.

I can't really give anymore advice other than that as I really can't comprehend the concept that you are struggling with.

 

[Wulfgar]

Id think chicks would like it if you were a virgin
cause you dont have Chylamidia...and they KNOW that
that shit is everywhere man

 

[healother]

Yea man. I didn't know who you were until I saw your old name mentioned in that other religious thread.

Even though I don't agree with saving yourself, if you wanna do this and can actually find a woman (not girl) that has the same values and beliefs then stay the course. Even though your beliefs may not be the norm in this day and age, they are your beliefs and no one should be able to influence how you intend to live your life.

If you are questioning your beliefs, you need to speak with christians that are more liberal on the matter instead of the bible thumpers who believe that the bible is literal and not metaphorical. Seek those that have had the same dilemma that have chose to lose their virginity before marriage and see how it has impacted their life.

Considering this site is very liberal regarding religion and the members of your church are probably not the best people to talk to about this. I'm not sure what denomination you are but find a nondenominational church and ask their reverend about the matter.

I can't really give anymore advice other than that as I really can't comprehend the concept that you are struggling with.

yeah, its tough finding a christian circle that openly accepts christians who have premarital sex. its tough finding christian circles that even discuss the issue of premarital sex! It must be a really touchy issue or something.

but yeah, its something that i probably need to talk about more with other Christians. I struggle with it a little, because I dont understand the sense in it. And I think I need to research the issue further. That way if I ever am in such a situation, I can make a sound decision.

 

[-SD-]

for some reason putting in the rear just grosses me out. like when i see it in a porno it just sickens me, and i shut it off and open up another video.

Glad to have you back in rare form here. This stuff is priceless.

 

[velvett]

Lets get real now, I'm 22. I've kept my virginity for this long, if I gave it up now, wouldnt I be a loser, since all my years of remaining a virgin at youth would have gone to waste? I mean I might as well save it so that I can marry another virgin chick, and we can be special for each other right?

I tend to believe in extremes. Either soak up all the sex you can and be completely saturated with hotties in your pants, or be a virgin, like a pure diamond, and the desire of every woman who wants to take your v-card.

If I just pick the middle of the road, and have sex now with a couple chicks, what do I have to gain? I'll have missed out on both the good extremes.

No.
Good Luck with that.
Experience for you and your future wife.


ps. I was nearly 20

 

[healother]

No.
Good Luck with that.
Experience for you and your future wife.


ps. I was nearly 20

Experience for me and my future wife? you mean so that I have skills by the time I'm married?

ps: I'm almost 23

 

[velvett]

Experience for me and my future wife? you mean so that I have skills by the time I'm married?

ps: I'm almost 23

Yes.

You have to figure out what makes you feel good, what makes her feel good and how to get there. You - no one, just knows this - you have to try to figure out what you're doing and what you like.

Add to that not being selfish - you'll be a great lover - and contrary to what some may lead you to believe, it matters.

You don't want to get married to a "technical virgin" that's stuppin' the gardener 3 years into your marriage because you don't know how to get her off and she's bored to tears.

(Sorry for the bluntness - I'm cooking dinner so I'm running back and forth)