Virginity -religion aside

[Bikini Mod]

True story: one of the things I like to ask people about in the process of getting to know them is about their "first time"; meaning the loss of their virginity. I generally hear funny stories of two totally nervous and clueless young kids fumbling around in the dark. It makes me feel "more human" to share in that in some way as I was not allowed to decide the privilige of saving myself for anyone special or to just "lose it for the sake of losing it". Any sexual quirks I have are a result of the fact that I was not in control. To this day even though I am in a healthy and very committed, loving marriage and I am more than experienced, I feel more comfortable as the sexual aggressor.

I will reiterate my earlier sentiments. You have to do what feels right for you. You are NOT going to hell if you do not remain chaste until your wedding night. That is plain crazy. But if you feel THAT strongly about saving yourself for your wife then stick to it.

Also, I am pretty sure that you know of the concept of secondary virginity.... right?

 

[billfred]

Take it from an old married guy - you need to get as much of that stuff early on as you can digest.

I am not trying to say you should become a player or something but, though sex may get much better for woman as they get older, it goes down hill for men. You don't want to meet the girl of your dreams, marry her, and 7 years later start thinking what sex is like with someone else.

Get that figured out now......

 

[Bikini Mod]

Take it from an old married guy - you need to get as much of that stuff early on as you can digest.

I am not trying to say you should become a player or something but, though sex may get much better for woman as they get older, it goes down hill for men. You don't want to meet the girl of your dreams, marry her, and 7 years later start thinking what sex is like with someone else.

Get that figured out now......

Listen to this man. He makes A LOT of sense.

 

[p0ink]

well, at least you dont have to sweat it out while you wait for the results from a blood test. even when you know you have been a 'good boy' you still stress for a few days waiting for that phone call.

not just that, but it seems like everything you happen to see on TV, read in the paper, or hear on the radio involves HIV / AIDS. the whole time you are like, 'oh my god, is this a sign? everything else has been going so great lately...is this going to be what balances everything out?...'

then you have a nice conversation with the girls you have slept with in the past few months and tell them if anything happens to you, they better get their ass into the witness protection program, because you would rather die from a bullet than a nasty bitch.

then you get the phone call and realize everything is fine.

repeat this every 6 months.

 

[Bikini Mod]

well, at least you dont have to sweat it out while you wait for the results from a blood test. even when you know you have been a 'good boy' you still stress for a few days waiting for that phone call.

not just that, but it seems like everything you happen to see on TV, read in the paper, or hear on the radio involves HIV / AIDS. the whole time you are like, 'oh my god, is this a sign? everything else has been going so great lately...is this going to be what balances everything out?...'

then you have a nice conversation with the girls you have slept with in the past few months and tell them if anything happens to you, they better get their ass into the witness protection program, because you would rather die from a bullet than a nasty bitch.

then you get the phone call and realize everything is fine.

repeat this every 6 months.

Not to say that STD's are not real and that abstinence isnt THE ONLY form of 100% reliable protection against disease and pregnancy because THEY ARE. However to make statements like those above are sort of alarmist, dont you think?

Good Lord - have you ever heard of condoms?

 

[p0ink]

Not to say that STD's are not real and that abstinence isnt THE ONLY form of 100% reliable protection against disease and pregnancy because THEY ARE. However to make statements like those above are sort of alarmist, dont you think?

Good Lord - have you ever heard of condoms?

as my friend would say, 'condoms? i havent used those since the mid 90's'.

but seriously, i dont stress like i used to. i have been with the same girl now for approaching 2 years. i've never gotten so much as a blip on any of my tests for anything, so unless she goes out and fucks a crack dealing, hemophiliac, intravenous drug-using, bisexual prostitute i should be alright.

 

[Bikini Mod]

as my friend would say, 'condoms? i havent used those since the mid 90's'.

but seriously, i dont stress like i used to. i have been with the same girl now for approaching 2 years. i've never gotten so much as a blip on any of my tests for anything, so unless she goes out and fucks a crack dealing, hemophiliac, intravenous drug-using, bisexual prostitute i should be alright.

Therein lies the problem. Condoms are not "fun" for anyone but they are much better than not using them considering all the shit that can crawl up into someone from the 500 other people they slept with (even if they only slept with one other person once - you have just slept with every other person that has ever had sex with them or their partners before you).

STD's are also spread by oral sex so it is always a gamble.

 

[ponyfitness]

I don't care about being a virgin but I would advise you to not marry somebody you haven't had sex with. Even with your beliefs, physical compatibility is a HUGE part of any relationship even if you have been suppressing it for many years. It's a matter possibly for you of finding someone you feel you could spend your life with and then finding out if the emotional/spiritual compatibility is the same as the physical - then you have your ideal woman. You get married and have that relationship and then find out you don't like them physically? You're screwed and you'll be more tempted to get into other relationships or resent the relationship and have a dysfunctional family.

Good luck finding ANY woman in their 20's who is a virgin though. That's got to be maybe 1% of the population unless they are highly religious or highly unattractive.

 

[OMEGA]

Take it from someone who knows people of success
- you DO NOT 'need' to get as much of that stuff early on as you can digest.

the people of success I know both Professional and Spiritual live lives like you want to live HealOther.......

simple as this:

dont use people as an object for pleasure only
dont lie to them to get a pleasure
dont be "tricked" to living it up or you will be lived up......trust me........

 

[Bikini Mod]

Take it from someone who knows people of success
- you DO NOT 'need' to get as much of that stuff early on as you can digest.

the people of success I know both Professional and Spiritual live lives like you want to live HealOther.......

Really? I didnt know very many successfull men that were virgins when they married or who had been with say 3 women in their lives. If these men that you speak of are say, 22 I might believe it but how professionally succesfull are the majority of 22 y/os?

And no the pope and the dahli lama dont count.