Think I might want a divorce

[OMEGA]

I was married to my kids' dad for about 7 years, but it was all wrong right from the start. Got married because we had a baby.......our relationship was dysfunctional and one sided from the beginning, and he had addiction issues that I hadn't even realized fully until after we were married. I had my boy a couple of years later, while things were still decent......but it just went downhill from there. As a mom of two young children, I stayed at first for the kids, and for financial reasons, of course. But there came a time when I was OK financially, and I finally figured out that it wasn't better for my kids to grow up thinking that my relationship with their dad was how all relationships and marriages should be (no love, no intimacy, no respect - just coldness and fighting). A happy parent is a GOOD parent. Life is far too short to be miserable and lonely in a marriage.......and my kids needed to see what a real, loving relationship was like. I left.......never looked back. It was absolutely the right decision......but it was hard - emotionally, it was horrible........guilt, second guessing, not knowing the future, dealing with court, the soon-to-be ex, watching the kids learn to adjust....it was definitely NOT easy or painless. But it WAS worth it........

I have been with my current husband for almost 9 years now, and he has been an integral part of my children's lives. We have a normal relationship.....with love....and respect....and my kids got to grow up seeing that THIS is what a relationship is supposed to be like. So......as hard as it was in the beginning........it was absolutely the right choice.

I don't condone divorce......but there are certainly times when it's just better to sever the ties and move onto something better for EVERYONE.



If you are fair, honest, respect your significant other, and are true to yourself......divorce isn't always a negative thing.

Cw801 your a beautiful women and thats neato it really is.

However sharing stuff like this shows who you really are, THANKYOU for sharing. its posts like these that you just made that help alot of people

thankyou

 

[OMEGA]

Going through a divorce right now, actually its suppose to be out anniversary today....its been 2 years now, if it wasn't for my divorce i wouldn't have found the girl of my dreams, it took a lot out of me but now i'm fine. Its a little difficult with kids, actually ALOT...Im a happier guy now and thats all the matters is happiness. I'm here to talk anytime bro, i've gotten a lot of advice and its helped me a lot....made me a way stronger person.

awsome post

 

[OMEGA]

I'm a horndog but in the end I need that emotional attachment. If I cheat and find the right person why not just get divorced.

I am counting down the days.

this will sound druggy like lol

but have you ever done mdma with her?

It has been used with great success in couple therapy

 

[OMEGA]

Maybe I'm naive....

But i expect that whoever I choose to marry someday to not allow themselves to get close enough to anyone to fall for them..

Your not naive

and I tell you that the "good ones" of both sexes have honor and loyalty in their Love.

 

[Lancer55]

if she's built like jay cutler yeah. if she's a tiny little asian chick absolutely not! emotions are for the weak!

live life by the code of cobra kai "sweep the legs, show no mercy"

I dunno where you come up with this stuff lol

 

[jnevin]

Yes...

That being said, do everything you can to make it work and after that...you'll consider it the best decision you've ever made.

Yes. And really truly make sure you've done EVERYTHING you can or you'll have it nagging at you for the rest of your life.

 

[nefertiti]

nefferz, I agree w/ you. However, I don't think it hurts to prepare. If I've learned anything it's that all people are liars and all people will fail you. A-L-L. There is no perfect man or woman out there no matter how perfect they seem when you marry them. It is what it is. That's just my two cents.

No one is perfect, and I'm fully aware that everyone is capable of letting me down....but I just can't live like that, preparing for it. And people not being perfect doesn't mean it isn't still pretty easy to avoid a love kind of situation.

 

[nefertiti]

in teaching scuba, we tell students that you fall in the direction you are looking. I feel like that applies to life. Like if you expect something, you might subconsciously do things to help it along. Doesn't mean an unexpected swell couldn't come along and throw you off the boat, but if you look down when you jump, you are setting yourself up for a belly flop.

 

[cindylou]

No one is perfect, and I'm fully aware that everyone is capable of letting me down....but I just can't live like that, preparing for it. And people not being perfect doesn't mean it isn't still pretty easy to avoid a love kind of situation.

Maybe so. I dunno. :shrug:

 

[amyfetzer]

I am re married now but leaving my ex was the best thing I have ever done! he was a Mentally abusive, controlling, manipulative, psyco! I am me again after 6 years with out that prick and it took about that long to get over the mental abuse and learn how to be me again he even contested the divorce which made it take a year to get rid of him but I would do it a million times over again to save my mental sanity and my daughters as well!