Think I might want a divorce

[AAP]

???

If it is what I think it is... wait a couple weeks with a clear head and think it over again.

 

[digimon7068]

Anyone here been through a divorce before? I seriously don't know what to do. I'll explain what is going on "after" I see some people reply. I don't want to type my life away and then not have anyone reply. LOL

dude...i thought you were already divorced...from ef! where the hell you been??

 

[mrplunkey]

???

If it is what I think it is... wait a couple weeks with a clear head and think it over again.

^^^ we might be thinking the same thing. If this is some random infatuation, he's making a huge mistake.

If this is a multi-month/multi-year consideration and no one else is involved, it's probably a real mess. That's when you should seek counseling or file.

 

[needtogetarmy]

???

If it is what I think it is... wait a couple weeks with a clear head and think it over again.

fail

 

[javaguru]

Anyone here been through a divorce before? I seriously don't know what to do. I'll explain what is going on "after" I see some people reply. I don't want to type my life away and then not have anyone reply. LOL

Yes...

That being said, do everything you can to make it work and after that...you'll consider it the best decision you've ever made.

 

[cindylou]

^^^ we might be thinking the same thing. If this is some random infatuation, he's making a huge mistake.

If this is a multi-month/multi-year consideration and no one else is involved, it's probably a real mess. That's when you should seek counseling or file.

You have to expect either you, or your spouse is going to fall for someone else at some point. Expect it and prepare for it, back way before it goes too far

 

[nefertiti]

You have to expect either you, or your spouse is going to fall for someone else at some point. Expect it and prepare for it, back way before it goes too far

Maybe I'm naive....

But i expect that whoever I choose to marry someday to not allow themselves to get close enough to anyone to fall for them. Falling in love doesn't just happen....there are a series of choices and situations that lead to it that can be avoided if someone makes that choice (including but not limited to not having one on one time with anyone of the opposite sex, not having any kind of intimate conversation with members of the opposite sex, not confiding in or turning to anyone other than same sex friends, family and spouse for support, etc).

Again...I'm not married and maybe I'm stupid....but I think falling in love with someone else is completely avoidable.

 

[wootoom]

Going through a divorce right now, actually its suppose to be out anniversary today....its been 2 years now, if it wasn't for my divorce i wouldn't have found the girl of my dreams, it took a lot out of me but now i'm fine. Its a little difficult with kids, actually ALOT...Im a happier guy now and thats all the matters is happiness. I'm here to talk anytime bro, i've gotten a lot of advice and its helped me a lot....made me a way stronger person.

 

[javaguru]

Maybe I'm naive....

But i expect that whoever I choose to marry someday to not allow themselves to get close enough to anyone to fall for them. Falling in love doesn't just happen....there are a series of choices and situations that lead to it that can be avoided if someone makes that choice (including but not limited to not having one on one time with anyone of the opposite sex, not having any kind of intimate conversation with members of the opposite sex, not confiding in or turning to anyone other than same sex friends, family and spouse for support, etc).

Again...I'm not married and maybe I'm stupid....but I think falling in love with someone else is completely avoidable.

You don't have to be married to understand something I consider a very basic tenant of the relationship contract. You don't put yourself in situations where you might be tempted to make the wrong decision. My best friend went through the "girls night out" fight with his current wife when they started dating. Tina is a sensible woman and she agreed but he had to agree to no guys nights out either. We would meet to watch games at the sports bar but Tina was ALWAYS invited and she's a cool chick so we encouraged her to come....since we're all business owners or self-employed he could complain about stuff before she arrived from her 9-5 HR job. Guess what, neither has the desire to do any of it... Too many people want to have the proverbial "cake and eat it too." A little mutual respect and genuine love goes a long way...but I might be wrong.

 

[cindylou]

Maybe I'm naive....

But i expect that whoever I choose to marry someday to not allow themselves to get close enough to anyone to fall for them. Falling in love doesn't just happen....there are a series of choices and situations that lead to it that can be avoided if someone makes that choice (including but not limited to not having one on one time with anyone of the opposite sex, not having any kind of intimate conversation with members of the opposite sex, not confiding in or turning to anyone other than same sex friends, family and spouse for support, etc).

Again...I'm not married and maybe I'm stupid....but I think falling in love with someone else is completely avoidable.

You're not stupid. You're just expecting your marriage to always be strong. It's not always going to be strong. When it's weak, women will be there to find chinks in your man's armour.