Think I might want a divorce

[nefertiti]

You're not stupid. You're just expecting your marriage to always be strong. It's not always going to be strong. When it's weak, women will be there to find chinks in your man's armour.

No, I'm actually not. I know marriages have rise and fall. But even in the fall, I expect my eventual husband not to ever turn to another woman for anything, unless it's his mother. I know this probably gets harder to keep up with time, but it's still a choice on my hypothetical spouses part to avoid any kind of emotional closeness to another woman. I know some women are sharks sniffing out blood, but men aren't helpless creatures unable to avoid advances, and while they may not always make the right choice, I EXPECT them to.

Again, who knows, maybe i'm naive, but I'd rather get blindsided than accept that it's going to happen. That's a sustained misery I couldn't live with, personally.

 

[ceo]

Maybe I'm naive....

But i expect that whoever I choose to marry someday to not allow themselves to get close enough to anyone to fall for them. Falling in love doesn't just happen....there are a series of choices and situations that lead to it that can be avoided if someone makes that choice (including but not limited to not having one on one time with anyone of the opposite sex, not having any kind of intimate conversation with members of the opposite sex, not confiding in or turning to anyone other than same sex friends, family and spouse for support, etc).

Again...I'm not married and maybe I'm stupid....but I think falling in love with someone else is completely avoidable.

what about just going balls deep and not falling in love??

 

[javaguru]

No, I'm actually not. I know marriages have rise and fall. But even in the fall, I expect my eventual husband not to ever turn to another woman for anything, unless it's his mother. I know this probably gets harder to keep up with time, but it's still a choice on my hypothetical spouses part to avoid any kind of emotional closeness to another woman. I know some women are sharks sniffing out blood, but men aren't helpless creatures unable to avoid advances, and while they may not always make the right choice, I EXPECT them to.

Again, who knows, maybe i'm naive, but I'd rather get blindsided than accept that it's going to happen. That's a sustained misery I couldn't live with, personally.

As a man, men need to be more responsible for the health of their marriage. I was taught that working hard and taking care of your family while being at home is enough. On the other hand Oprah teaches women their guy needs to be a girlfriend with a penis. IMO, the Oprah effect has caused some problems because men are expected to understand their woman but the values of being a male are minimized.

 

[cindylou]

No, I'm actually not. I know marriages have rise and fall. But even in the fall, I expect my eventual husband not to ever turn to another woman for anything, unless it's his mother. I know this probably gets harder to keep up with time, but it's still a choice on my hypothetical spouses part to avoid any kind of emotional closeness to another woman. I know some women are sharks sniffing out blood, but men aren't helpless creatures unable to avoid advances, and while they may not always make the right choice, I EXPECT them to.

Again, who knows, maybe i'm naive, but I'd rather get blindsided than accept that it's going to happen. That's a sustained misery I couldn't live with, personally.

nefferz, I agree w/ you. However, I don't think it hurts to prepare. If I've learned anything it's that all people are liars and all people will fail you. A-L-L. There is no perfect man or woman out there no matter how perfect they seem when you marry them. It is what it is. That's just my two cents.

 

[miplank]

i'm pretty damn perfect...




just sayin'

 

[miplank]

but i'm married, so ladies....refer to my avacor

 

[OMEGA]

I have seen 2 kinds of falling in Love

1: is the "spark" where a couple just has it... even if on paper they are not perfect.

2: is loving through shared experience and commonalities, kinda almost 'freindy or freindlike"


there just something about 1 that is best though more immature.

I say all this for any man that has a spark with his women and seeks another just cus he can is a grade a Asshole

 

[mustang_00]

Anyone here been through a divorce before? I seriously don't know what to do. I'll explain what is going on "after" I see some people reply. I don't want to type my life away and then not have anyone reply. LOL

with an attitude like that i'd be doing whatever your wife is doing too! i hope she's beating you!

 

[Lancer55]

with an attitude like that i'd be doing whatever your wife is doing too! i hope she's beating you!

lol what if she is wont you feel bad?

 

[mustang_00]

lol what if she is wont you feel bad?

if she's built like jay cutler yeah. if she's a tiny little asian chick absolutely not! emotions are for the weak!

live life by the code of cobra kai "sweep the legs, show no mercy"