The women I meet only want to have sex...

[Robert Jan]

lol

 

[Jimsbbc]

No really though, College is the definition of " High School Girls gone bad"

So true it's almost not funny.

 

[HansNZ]

No really though, College is the definition of " High School Girls gone bad"

I was a virgin right through university.

 

[paradox]

Re: Re: The women I meet only want to have sex...

When you pay money for a hooker, what do you expect. They figure you're not there for the 'get to know you'.

 

[furious]

I think one of the number one problems so many straight guys have in their relationship to the opposite sex is their preoccupation with women as sex objects.

If you want to be a casanova then don't approach women from the first second you meet them as a potential mates. Treat them as people.

I am a gay man. 60% of my friends are straight men, another 35% are straight or lesbian women, and maybe 5% at most are gay. The reason for this is that I am a person to the first 95% of those people. For the gay guys, 90% of them can't seem to get beyond my pecs and arse, so it creates friction in our interactions.

So many of my straight male friends are as jealous as hell about my ability to get on with women. I'll be in a nightclub with a group of straight guys. They'll be in a group together and i'll be off with a group of maybe 5 or more of the sexiest women in the place crowded around me chatting away.

The straight guys tell me that i'd be a legend if I was straight. But they are wrong. The reason the women are crowded around me is because I treat them as people. They don't feel they have to be on guard with me all the time. Most of the time they don't even know I am gay. These women just feel a sense of comfort with me because I don't view them as sex objects, which otherwise would affect my whole demeanour towards them.

It is no coincidence that so many women complain that the best guys are either married or gay. Why don't you strike up an acquaintance with a gay guy (assuming you are secure enough in your own sexuality to do this). Observe the way he behaves towards women. If you learn from this then you may discover a positive transformation in your own relationships.

Just my 2 cents.

Maybe you didn't read my OG post, I'm not the one treating them as sex objest, it's the other way around. I always look women in the eyes, I live in LA, nice bodies are everywhere. When I go out dancing, women approach me, because I'm dancing and having a great time.
I chose the ladies who I think are the 'good girls'. Case in point: my last date is a senior at an Ivy League school, athletic, but in no way a beauty queen. I asked her out because she had a nice smile and liked house music. Her friend tells me, "She is a good girl." So we go out 3 days in a row, day 1, we make out like demons, day two, she tells me she wants to slow down, day 3 she is on my couch asking to go to my room.

Bah! For now I will enjoy the attention and wait till a real woman comes a long.

As far as a gay men and relationships with women, well, that's fine and dandy, but you will still have problems with gay men. Attraction doesn't follow rational thought.

 

[HansNZ]

Maybe you didn't read my OG post, I'm not the one treating them as sex objest, it's the other way around.

What I am saying is be mindful of your demeanour towards them. Some guys lack self-awareness and are oblivious to many of the signals they give out. I am not saying this applies to you, I am saying give some thought to the possibility.

As far as a gay men and relationships with women, well, that's fine and dandy, but you will still have problems with gay men. Attraction doesn't follow rational thought.

Yes, that's my point. They approach me as a potential mate, so it contaminates everything.

 

[HansNZ]

I don't know what you look like. But if you are exceptionally attractive women will want to have sex with you.

I realise that I can't write what I am about to write without sounding like an egomaniac - but here it goes...

Where I live the gay guys are not renowned for their looks. Because people consider me good looking and I have developed my body I am told I stand out when I am in a crowd of gay men, i.e. in our ONLY gay nightclub for instance. If I was in Sydney things would be different because there is a lot of eye candy. But here I get constantly hit on. It drives me CRAZY. I wish people would leave me alone.

If people perceive you as unusually good looking then you're going to get hit on A LOT! Another problem is that people won't like you either - even though you've done nothing to them. You'll arouse their insecurities so they'll project their hang-ups on to you. People will also resent you for not being attracted to them. If you are avarage looking you don't have these issues to face.

But if Mr Furious, you are a HUNK, this is just the price you'll have to pay. No one said it was easy being at the top.

 

[HansNZ]

Everytime an older female friend is flirting with me and getting touchy feely, they get pissed when I don't grab their ass back or flirt back.

THe reasoning: I have respect for them, should I have to justify myself everytime.

Obviously they don't want to just be your "friend", hehe.