The women I meet only want to have sex...

[Kali]

Thank you HansNZ. You should really write a book.

 

[Needhelp]

Thank you HansNZ. You should really write a book.

Call it, "The Gay Man's Guide to Getting Women".

 

[Lumbuss]

I rest my case.

What the hell are you talking about? So its wrong for me to like nice sweet girls my age over dirty sluts who fuck every guy they see? I would never want to go out with a girl who was so dirty she fucks tons of guys, i have no respect for those girls. I might fuck them, but as far as giving a shit about a slut why should I? Im not talking about prude, ugly or fat girls, but i dont like sluts as girlfriends. If a girl fucks every guy at college she is a dirty slut and she probably has STDs that are no ones fault but hers.

 

[-SD-]

Man, I really know what you mean, heres my problem: Any woman who has graced a magazine cover or had top billing in a major motion picture just wont quit demanding that I fuck her six ways from Sunday. I mean Im a pretty good guy, but this is getting rediculious! All Im looking for is one woman who I can connect with all of my heart and soul, but whenever I meet someone they start telling me they posed in this magazine, or this swimsuit issue, or this pin up calendar, or starred in this movie, blah blah blah. The next thing to come up in the conversation is how she really likes to give head or her favorite sex positions or something stupid and immature like that. All I wanted to do was have a good conversation and really get to know her on a spiritual level, but then she had to ruin it all by acting like her drinking straw was a phallic symbol, or start rubbing my crotch with her foot from underneath the table, or whatever. They usually always bring the magazines they posed in or the calendars they were in and show it off to me, but I tell ya, Im just not interested in a woman that gives me strong sexual innuendos right off the bat. What I strongly desire is a perfect little princess whom I can put on a pedestal and shower with love, affection, gifts, and simply become each others soulmate. But nooooo, they have to start in with the lustful actions and things like "after this why dont we go to my place", talk like that puts my red flag up and tells me she only wants to fuck. Or theres always "my neck is tight from the photo shoot, would you give me a rubdown?" I cant stand it when they want to get physical like that, Im trying to get to know you better! Movie stars are the worst though, usually after our date she wants to wisk me away to some fancy hotel in an exotic city for God knows what. I just cant win

 

[HansNZ]

Call it, "The Gay Man's Guide to Getting Women".

I think someone has already written something like that. Or was that the gay man's guide to oral sex for women, hhhmmmm?

 

[magdelana]

Furious i hope you havent left the board permamently. I know what you are talking about. I actually want to find a true girlfriend to share myself with and be close with but i seem to only find girls who want to "throw down". I know it is a bit my fault because i am very flirtatous, but i am also becoming rather lonely and want someone special.

I do hope you find someone! Perhaps try one of those date phone line services where there are catagories for long-term relationships. There are 2 or 3 big ones like this here in Atlanta. Perhaps there are some where you live as well?

 

[Gubernatorial Goosefish]

I think one of the number one problems so many straight guys have in their relationship to the opposite sex is their preoccupation with women as sex objects.

If you want to be a casanova then don't approach women from the first second you meet them as a potential mates. Treat them as people.

I am a gay man. 60% of my friends are straight men, another 35% are straight or lesbian women, and maybe 5% at most are gay. The reason for this is that I am a person to the first 95% of those people. For the gay guys, 90% of them can't seem to get beyond my pecs and arse, so it creates friction in our interactions.

So many of my straight male friends are as jealous as hell about my ability to get on with women. I'll be in a nightclub with a group of straight guys. They'll be in a group together and i'll be off with a group of maybe 5 or more of the sexiest women in the place crowded around me chatting away.

The straight guys tell me that i'd be a legend if I was straight. But they are wrong. The reason the women are crowded around me is because I treat them as people. They don't feel they have to be on guard with me all the time. Most of the time they don't even know I am gay. These women just feel a sense of comfort with me because I don't view them as sex objects, which otherwise would affect my whole demeanour towards them.

It is no coincidence that so many women complain that the best guys are either married or gay. Why don't you strike up an acquaintance with a gay guy (assuming you are secure enough in your own sexuality to do this). Observe the way he behaves towards women. If you learn from this then you may discover a positive transformation in your own relationships.

Just my 2 cents.

Good advice, but don't you think that the same could be applied to gay men? You should pay careful attention next time your straight male friends strike up a friendly conversation with an attractive gay man. I'm sure you will learn how to handle hot, sexually appealing gay men by watching your straight male friends treat them as people.

 

[greek by injection]

Good advice, but don't you think that the same could be applied to gay men? You should pay careful attention next time your straight male friends strike up a friendly conversation with an attractive gay man. I'm sure you will learn how to handle hot, sexually appealing gay men by watching your straight male friends treat them as people.

Yeah literally! it could be called "The Straight Man's guide for gays guys who want the extra edge when meeting new boyfriends"


No really though, College is the definition of " High School Girls gone bad"

Everytime an older female friend is flirting with me and getting touchy feely, they get pissed when I don't grab their ass back or flirt back.

THe reasoning: I have respect for them, should I have to justify myself everytime.

 

[-SD-]

L fucking O L

 

[HansNZ]

Good advice, but don't you think that the same could be applied to gay men? You should pay careful attention next time your straight male friends strike up a friendly conversation with an attractive gay man. I'm sure you will learn how to handle hot, sexually appealing gay men by watching your straight male friends treat them as people.

But I do treat gay men as people and that's why I run into trouble. They think that because I am being friendly that I want to have sex with them. Women tend not to jump to such conclusions to nearly the same extent, and even if they do, there isn't the same social conditioning telling them they have to score all the time. Guys - be they gay or straight tend to view women/other gays as potential mates and interpret things in these terms.

btw, there are no hot, sexually appealing gay men where I live, just waif queens and slob queens, lol.

When an attractive gay man comes out of the closet here, he usually takes one look at what's on the local market and sprints onto the first airplane to Sydney. If not, he usually thinks "if I am going to have sex with people I find completely and totally unattractive, I may as well go back to my girlfriend/wife".