So how mad should I be?

[jnevin]

Tonight when I picked my daughter up I knew my ex wouldn't be there. She lives with her sister and her sister was supposed to be watching her. I got there at 11:15 and used my key to get in. I immediately smelled vomit and assumed it was the cat. I got to my daughter's room and knew it was coming from there. She was literally sleeping in a pool of vomit, thank god she was on her stomach (she usually sleeps on her back). Called the ex, went to vw. Texted her, no response. Got the kiddo out and gave her a bath (as she puked all over for a while) and just held her while she cried for a while. Her aunt never came out, BTW. So I was trying to turn the lights on in her room and nothing. Used my phone screen to find clothes to change the kiddo into and nothing. I left texts saying she screwed up and what happened and she has no business being a parent. Nothing back. I wrapped her up, got her home, held her for a while, and she fell asleep. I keep checking on her every 10 minutes.

So the dumb selfish pig finally calls me back an hour later and I kept hitting ignore because I was so livid I didn't want to say anything awful. Until I realized she did something awful to her child and she needed to hear about it. I didn't let her talk, let her know what a fuckup she is, and that she has no business being a parent. She'd speak, I'd hang up. I told her she should focus on her married boyfriend's kids instead of her own since she's more interested in him than her own daughter, she got mad, I hung up. She said she gave her benadryl and that probably caused the vomiting. I said "so you potentially poisoned her, let her fall asleep on a full stomach, and bailed to be with married guy that doesn't let you near his own kids?" She got mad and hung up.

I did make the mistake of saying I'd take it out on him that this happened since she's such a dumb piece of shit to bail on her daughter so she can be with him. I swear to god, when I pick my kid up fron her house she's not there more than she is.

I've never seen a mother like this. And I use the term "mother" loosely.

 

[jackangel]

does she insist on being in the kid's life? can't you get a release from her, so this custody arrangement can be dissolved?

 

[jnevin]

Dude, she thinks she's the best mom in the world. She basically babysits her while I'm at work and half the time she's not there when I pick Q up. The only night she has her overnight is Wednesday and the only day she has her is Thursday. I can actually do something with my life then and *gasp* date? Only, I usually meet girls that like me and then get frustrated and don't want to hang out because of my work and my daughter (I don't let people around her unless I'm serious about dating them). Dude she's seeing bailed on his wife and kids (the youngest was 1 month when he did) and she keeps trying to have my pet human around this loser.

Jngr has stress.

 

[calveless wonder]

Damn.

Where was her sister that entire time?

 

[jnevin]

Damn.

Where was her sister that entire time?

I'm assuming drunk and passed out. I was rattling through the apartment looking for the breaker box so I could turn lights on and she never stirred. I wanted the lights on so I could take pics of the vomit in the bed for my records. I couldn't get shit.

I asked her, "do you even want to be a fucking parent to your child?"

Her response... "you're being irrational and inappropriate".

I think I said something like," god, I wouldn't want to be josh over the next few weeks."

She was silent

-goon

 

[calveless wonder]

The lights were out in the apt? Maybe their electricity got cut off

 

[puddlemonkey]

you can't take it out on him, this is all on her. she's an adult, she makes her own decisions.

 

[jnevin]

The lights were out in the apt? Maybe their electricity got cut off

Negative. When she called and I finally answered she said she took all of the bulbs out of her room because it'd wake her up if Q would wake up and turn the lights on.

I keep seeing neglegence, but I don't know if it's the way a court would define it.

 

[nimbus]

id look into pressing charges

 

[jnevin]

you can't take it out on him, this is all on her. she's an adult, she makes her own decisions.

Yeah, but I can't hit her. Plus, I'd make her suffer through him.