Serious Question About Porn and Guys

[randyjones]

I am a regular man and I love to see beautiful sexy women getting nasy.It shows me that some hot ass girls are crazy freaks.I have a girlfriend and she hates porn.She can't understand why I like it.Having a girlfriend for a long time is boring.Atleast when I watch porn I can get excited about sex for a little while.Girls don't understand that guys love you but get bored having sex with you.I don't cheat but I like to look.

 

[PHATchik]

I remember having these same kinds of questions. And I'll admit that I was bothered by it too. I had to analyze the situation every way I knew how and then some before I could finally be slightly okay with it. In my case, I knew it wasn't personal. Of course, I already didn't like porn anyway. Even before I knew he watched it. Just don't take it personally. Your situation is very different from what mine was, but I think it would still be a mistake to let it bother you. I couldn't explain how guys thought then, and I sure as hell can't explain it now.

 

[Taps]

Women make porn out to be more than it is. Just think of porno as a masturbatory tool (which is all it is, really)-- much like hand lotion or an old sock.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

I think he doesn't tell me about it because he thinks I'll get mad. We've never really taked about it, I just know he looks at it, then denies that he does when I ask.

It almost seems like he is embarrassed about it when I ask - like he was 'caught'. But honestly, I don't care that he does - I just hate the not telling the truth. THAT Is what bothers me, not the porn. It's the hiding.

I am trying to make things more open between us though - so he doesn't feel like he has to hide it. I asked if he could take me to a strip club soon, and we went to an Adult Store today together.

(BTW - I am moving my own thread to BTS, since this is turning into more of a BTS thread rather than C&C)

 

[F117A Active Stealth]

You guys are a bunch of sick fucks, it's this type of shit that fucks me up to get a girl, because all girls think guys are like you...

 

[sweetnes11]

Well I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Hubby has been doing it for years , He said it is the challenge to see if he can get free pictures off the internet, He does not even get hard looking at it, he said its just a thrill to get into a pay sight for free. and he likes to look at amiture pictures that people post of there wifes,and girl friends, When he finds somthing interesting he has me look, , The computer is in the living room so I see him when I watch TV or read, He only gets hard when he sees me.. We have been married for 23 years and it is not borring unless you make it that way, Try new things , new toys , Insted of looking at it for your on pleasure They to learn somthing you can try on her to make your sex life more exciting ,, OK that was my 2c

 

[Longhorn85]

Let me start by saying I don't have anything against porn (either videos, magazines or online).

But I wondering WHAT guys fascination is with it. Why do guys look at it so much?

And *should* it bother me that my guy looks at it behind my back? (although he insists that he doesn't) I find that it bothers me a little, but I feel stupid for letting it bother me. Because honestly, I don't think porn is bad, wrong, cheating, etc.

Just wondering what makes it so popular with guys....?

Daisy_Girl, I wouldn't take it personally, I'm sure your man appreciates you. Many men (like me) have a nearly insatiable sexual appetite.

 

[Dial_tone]

I guess I was way off base then......sheesh. Next time I'll save my "deep thoughts" for somewhere else.

 

[newpump]

Daisy, I think the secret here is that men are genetically pre-disposed (in general like all things genetic - you can find some men that don't conform to this "rule") to select multiple partners in order to help propigate our offspring. This is a natural thing that we have (as a society and as a necessity in today's world) changed in order to suit the modern definition of family (through legal bindings/marriage) to bring up children etc etc. Many aspects of our society and of our economy rely on this structure (I won't get into if this is a "good" thing or not - that is an opinion). This structure, no matter how well defined and "old" can not fully change "mother nature" (our genetics) and one of the throwbacks that we as males have is the desire to experience different sexual contexts. It seems that many men express this through porn (mostly innocent, although some religious/social pressure makes this practice "bad") - some express it through cheating (not as cool if you are into monogomy) and some just never "settle down". I wouldn't stress too much about it, or try and "change/confront" your man. Be secure in the fact that he has chosen you and is happy having made that selection . You probably make him SUPER happy!

 

[sweetnes11]

My basic principle re: relationships is "if you can't/won't tell your partner about it you know in your heart you shouldn't be doing it".

I agree 100%