Serious Question About Porn and Guys

[Daisy_Girl]

Let me start by saying I don't have anything against porn (either videos, magazines or online).

But I wondering WHAT guys fascination is with it. Why do guys look at it so much?

And *should* it bother me that my guy looks at it behind my back? (although he insists that he doesn't) I find that it bothers me a little, but I feel stupid for letting it bother me. Because honestly, I don't think porn is bad, wrong, cheating, etc.

Just wondering what makes it so popular with guys....?

 

[ohashi]

I haven't looked at porn for masturbatory purposes for over a year now; I have no need, since I have two girls that I sleep with. On the other hand, my mate has a girlfriend and they have sex for three or so hours each and every night (sharing a motel room with those two is not fun), yet he still looks at porn. In his case, he likes looking at stuff that he doesn't get to do, like fisting and torture, etc.

 

[Apöllo]

I usually use porn to masterbate. Actually I like hunting down good porn on the internet, like an old Indian Hunter! That's part of the score for me.

Actually, you should be worried about him looking at porn. Find out what kinds of women he is specifically looking at and then try to model yourself after them.

 

[Dial_tone]

I think what's most telling about a guy watching porn is the type of porn he watches.
I, myself, really only watch porn when there's a girl in the movie that has physical attributes I like. As everybody in the free world knows I'm crazy about butts, so I watched alot of the Buttman series and Nina Hartley movies. I also liked deepthroat scenes since I rarely get that in real life, and girls with a sexy moaning orgasm (not that they were really cumming).
Ask yourself if the girls in the movies he chooses look different from you or maybe "provide him" with something he's not getting, i.e. what's in the scene? voyeurism? threesomes? young girls/schoolgirl outfits? If you see something in the movie that you two haven't done (and it's acceptable to you) you might want to instigate it. If he's buying them, as opposed to borrowing them, eventually you'll find a common thread in there somewhere.
I'm not gonna pretend to psychoanalyze the relationship but something's preventing him from admitting he likes it. It may be as simple as he doesn't think you'll like it and make him stop which he isn't ready to do, That begs the question of which is more important? The porn or you? Does he know/think you dislike porn?


Just my two cents before inflation.

 

[BileStew]

Because network television and sports magazines have become stagnant.

 

[Gambino]

Porn movies just don't do it for me...I like still photos better.

 

[danielson]

depends on how close you are

i think a woman has no business getting bent out of shape with a man looking at porn if she isnt fulfilling his sexual needs, just my opinion

if she is...i guess its really up to her. depending on what degree of time he spent looking/type of porn i would say should affect her deision

 

[OMGWTFBBQ]

guys are visually stimulated

there is a study that shows men get a dopamine release from looking at a pretty woman, I'm too lazy to look it up now. if that study is right, then it is theoretically addictive.

 

[Dial_tone]

danielson, it's also up to the guy to communicate what his needs are. If he's got some fetish he's never told her about it's not her job to figure out what it is. Maybe she'll like it too but not as much as him. My current knows every significant turnon I have; we haven't done most of them yet but she'll try anything twice.

 

[danielson]

true dial tone. however the girl he;s with might not be around enough or just not sleep wit him enough....i think its a little over the top to demand something like that, shit they arenlt even married

if its a fetish, then yeah sure, i agree.....