Serious Question About Porn and Guys

[Daisy_Girl]

Let me start by saying I don't have anything against porn (either videos, magazines or online).

But I wondering WHAT guys fascination is with it. Why do guys look at it so much?

And *should* it bother me that my guy looks at it behind my back? (although he insists that he doesn't) I find that it bothers me a little, but I feel stupid for letting it bother me. Because honestly, I don't think porn is bad, wrong, cheating, etc.

Just wondering what makes it so popular with guys....?

 

[ohashi]

I haven't looked at porn for masturbatory purposes for over a year now; I have no need, since I have two girls that I sleep with. On the other hand, my mate has a girlfriend and they have sex for three or so hours each and every night (sharing a motel room with those two is not fun), yet he still looks at porn. In his case, he likes looking at stuff that he doesn't get to do, like fisting and torture, etc.

 

[Apöllo]

I usually use porn to masterbate. Actually I like hunting down good porn on the internet, like an old Indian Hunter! That's part of the score for me.

Actually, you should be worried about him looking at porn. Find out what kinds of women he is specifically looking at and then try to model yourself after them.

 

[Dial_tone]

I think what's most telling about a guy watching porn is the type of porn he watches.
I, myself, really only watch porn when there's a girl in the movie that has physical attributes I like. As everybody in the free world knows I'm crazy about butts, so I watched alot of the Buttman series and Nina Hartley movies. I also liked deepthroat scenes since I rarely get that in real life, and girls with a sexy moaning orgasm (not that they were really cumming).
Ask yourself if the girls in the movies he chooses look different from you or maybe "provide him" with something he's not getting, i.e. what's in the scene? voyeurism? threesomes? young girls/schoolgirl outfits? If you see something in the movie that you two haven't done (and it's acceptable to you) you might want to instigate it. If he's buying them, as opposed to borrowing them, eventually you'll find a common thread in there somewhere.
I'm not gonna pretend to psychoanalyze the relationship but something's preventing him from admitting he likes it. It may be as simple as he doesn't think you'll like it and make him stop which he isn't ready to do, That begs the question of which is more important? The porn or you? Does he know/think you dislike porn?


Just my two cents before inflation.

 

[BileStew]

Because network television and sports magazines have become stagnant.

 

[Gambino]

Porn movies just don't do it for me...I like still photos better.

 

[danielson]

depends on how close you are

i think a woman has no business getting bent out of shape with a man looking at porn if she isnt fulfilling his sexual needs, just my opinion

if she is...i guess its really up to her. depending on what degree of time he spent looking/type of porn i would say should affect her deision

 

[OMGWTFBBQ]

guys are visually stimulated

there is a study that shows men get a dopamine release from looking at a pretty woman, I'm too lazy to look it up now. if that study is right, then it is theoretically addictive.

 

[Dial_tone]

danielson, it's also up to the guy to communicate what his needs are. If he's got some fetish he's never told her about it's not her job to figure out what it is. Maybe she'll like it too but not as much as him. My current knows every significant turnon I have; we haven't done most of them yet but she'll try anything twice.

 

[danielson]

true dial tone. however the girl he;s with might not be around enough or just not sleep wit him enough....i think its a little over the top to demand something like that, shit they arenlt even married

if its a fetish, then yeah sure, i agree.....

 

[lilbob1]

I used to have a woman that though watching porn was cheating that serious she asked why did i have to look at other women? She was nuts. I love to watch the ones where some chick gets a load on her face.

 

[PIGEON-RAT]

i look at porn to beat it

i don't look at it for any other reason

unless it's a funny scene or something

 

[sermon_of_mockery]

guys are visually stimulated

god damn you for posting the answer before me.Don't make me post the pic of you tugging on your pants cause you thought it made you look all *with a lisp*musular.

 

[OMGWTFBBQ]

god damn you for posting the answer before me.Don't make me post the pic of you tugging on your pants cause you thought it made you look all *with a lisp*musular.

LOL

I like pulling on my testicles until I see stars. Two hours ago I saw Bea Arthur.

 

[Dial_tone]

Dude, growing up we named our dog Maude after her.

 

[hardrock]

For me, it don't matter how much I'm gettin laid. I'm still gonna jerk it. And whe I do I'll be watching porn. What am I supposed to do? Stroke it to Monster Garage? Cartoon Network maybe?

 

[Generic MALE]

If you were enough to satisfy all his desires, including visual - he would not be looking at porn - unless you have a website he is going to

 

[sermon_of_mockery]

If you were enough to satisfy all his desires, including visual - he would not be looking at porn - unless you have a website he is going to

theres no way to completelly satisfy all of anyones desires.Monogamy is doomed.

 

[Generic MALE]

I bet Bea Arthur could come damn close to fullfilling all a mans desires

 

[Dial_tone]

My basic principle re: relationships is "if you can't/won't tell your partner about it you know in your heart you shouldn't be doing it".

 

[rushx79]

why do i look at porn?

because i have this really strange naked lady fetish. for some odd reason i am attracted to good looking, naked women.

 

[Smurfy]

Daisy, i hear ya. I myself dont particularly care if my man jerks it while watching porn. I have watched porn with him cuz i find it sexy at times too (but when we watch it together he doesnt jerk it, cuz we have sex LOL). The only thing that would bother me, and i have told him this, is if he were to jerk off to someones pics from the internet like a girl we know or something, you know if a girl were to send him risque pics or something. I would also get mad if he came to Elite and jerked off to your pics LMAO simply because you are an actual person not a porno movie actress or a chick in playboy magazine LOL

 

[KA-BAR]

Yep all men jerk off to porn unless they have really low test levels. I can get laid 3x a day and still have to jack sometimes. And men need to visualize something when they jack. My wife knows jack off to porn all the time. Hell she finds sticky socks all over the place. lol. She gets really pissed off though when women get naked in front of me. Like at a bar that has a live band and I see 5 chicks get all the way fucking naked for some quick pictures to get free stuff from the band. She dont like that at all.

 

[Dial_tone]

Smurfy, you ever caught him spanking it to your pics?

 

[wutangnomo]

I would also get mad if he came to Elite and jerked off to your pics LMAO simply because you are an actual person not a porno movie actress or a chick in playboy magazine LOL

Porn stars and chicks in playboy are actual people as well.

 

[Pamela]

I don't really mind my lover watching it by himself.

When we watch it together, I enjoy it myself!

I use it as a learning tool...

 

[Dial_tone]

I don't really mind my lover watching it by himself.

When we watch it together, I enjoy it myself!

I use it as a learning tool...

The best thing is to make your own!

 

[Pamela]

The best thing is to make your own!

Have you done this?

 

[Dial_tone]

Sorta....I made a video of myself posing, showering and masturbating and gave it to someone special. Otherwise I've just taken still pictures of acts.

 

[chewyxrage]

this thread is going to have about a million responses, give or take 2 million.



and hell no you shouldnt be worried if your guy is watching porn.
to me it just means that he is a horny bastard, and that is good for you l

 

[vinylgroover]

a few reasons.

1. Most chicks (85%) are boring fucks.......why waste my time with a dud root when i can glaze a knuckle by watching porn?

2. I like watching guys with bigger dicks than mine nailing chicks in the ass.

3. Because we can.

 

[perkele]

I don't watch porn, pictures or movies. I use to watch a lot when I was young but not anymore. Boring.

 

[Robert Jan]

LOL @ perk.... weird for a guy with like 3000 posts on between the sheets pictures of women huh


well I think nearly all guys watch porn. my friggin 94 yr old grandpa does

I have a gf now too and i still watch it.

there is so much bad porn out there though.... im not sure if women understand how even while a man can come doesnt mean hes as horny as he can be. some orgasms are nothing special and some you just remember for a good time lol.

 

[BileStew]

The best thing is to make your own!

And then run for political office afterwards.

 

[BileStew]

I don't watch porn, pictures or movies. I use to watch a lot when I was young but not anymore. Boring.

<cough cough> BULLSHIT!! <cough cough>

 

[jenscats5]

We get the Playboy channel (basically a dumb channel) but my hubby watches it. He likes 7 Lives Exposed and amatuer videos -- which I don't get cuz those people are usually ugly & fat.

Some porn is sexy & some is stupid & gross.

I had semi nude & scantily clad pro. shots (boudoir photos) done of myself. That way he's got sexy pics of ME!! LOL

 

[Robert Jan]

like I sayd, there is more bad than good porn.

I like these Dr Fellatio mpegs on kazaa and imesh... lots of women who really know how to suck one.

 

[jenscats5]

like I sayd, there is more bad than good porn.

I like these Dr Fellatio mpegs on kazaa and imesh... lots of women who really know how to suck one.

You know, the one thing I noticed is when you watch some porn shows, the girls aren't really sucking it. They only suck the head or 1/4 - 1/2 the way down. They use their hand on the rest. It's like they aren't even trying......cheaters. LOL

 

[Robert Jan]

Im not sure i know exactly what you mean... i only watch real good bjs lol

 

[jenscats5]

Im not sure i know exactly what you mean... i only watch real good bjs lol

then don't ever watch the Playboy channel cuz that's all you'll ever see.....it's like the girl isn't even trying to take the whole thing in her mouth. But what do you want for a free channel???

 

[Gymgurl]

Daisy....why not try watching it with him and find out what he is interested in and maybe try it with him. I love to watch it with someone....just makes me hotter

 

[biggest_man_in_the_world]

Studies done have shown that women enjoy porn just as much as men, if not more.

Pupil dilation and heart rate were measured and although I'm not sure exactly of the results, i think womens pupil dilation when watching porn was shown to be greater than men's.

So next time a women says something like "I don't know how anyone can get turned on by that, I just find it funny"

....She's lying

 

[Dial_tone]

a few reasons.

2. I like watching guys with bigger dicks than mine nailing chicks in the ass.
.

I'm with you on that. I love watching a giant root disappear into an ass or mouth.

 

[Smurfy]

Smurfy, you ever caught him spanking it to your pics?

No. never caught him. But he does do it regularly, or so he says LOL

 

[perkele]

LOL @ perk.... weird for a guy with like 3000 posts on between the sheets pictures of women huh

I don't watch porn, I only post porn for others. It has been years since last time I jacked off to porn pics or movies. Boring.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

I admit it I like porn not so much to watch alone but more with a partner.
Why guys like it simple they got to jerk it a lot and they need visuals not like woman we fantasize when we take care of ourselves.
I wouldn't worry if you bf is hidding porn it is not a big deal. He has been hidding porn since he was probably like 12 just a habbit for men.

 

[KA-BAR]

Hell I would be happy just to get a BJ. To bad it makes my wife sick. Hell I cant even get sex that much and when i do its boring anymore. Its not looking good.

You know, the one thing I noticed is when you watch some porn shows, the girls aren't really sucking it. They only suck the head or 1/4 - 1/2 the way down. They use their hand on the rest. It's like they aren't even trying......cheaters. LOL

 

[JBRO]

i look at porn just for the hell of it. i dont get off on it, dont beat off to, none of that shit. im just a guy. and guys like to see naked chicks getting the shit banged out of them. would you rather him see it live or otherwise?

 

[The_Ghost]

With my ex GF, I looked at porn with her and without her.

Wasn't a big deal to her at all.

I think it would have been a big deal if we didn't share it together.

Hell she even took some of my tapes home with her for when I wasn't around.

No big deal in my eyes or hers.

 

[tiger88]

watch a bukkake film

funny shit just to watch and get drunk and watch



lol @ thread

 

[randyjones]

I am a regular man and I love to see beautiful sexy women getting nasy.It shows me that some hot ass girls are crazy freaks.I have a girlfriend and she hates porn.She can't understand why I like it.Having a girlfriend for a long time is boring.Atleast when I watch porn I can get excited about sex for a little while.Girls don't understand that guys love you but get bored having sex with you.I don't cheat but I like to look.

 

[PHATchik]

I remember having these same kinds of questions. And I'll admit that I was bothered by it too. I had to analyze the situation every way I knew how and then some before I could finally be slightly okay with it. In my case, I knew it wasn't personal. Of course, I already didn't like porn anyway. Even before I knew he watched it. Just don't take it personally. Your situation is very different from what mine was, but I think it would still be a mistake to let it bother you. I couldn't explain how guys thought then, and I sure as hell can't explain it now.

 

[Taps]

Women make porn out to be more than it is. Just think of porno as a masturbatory tool (which is all it is, really)-- much like hand lotion or an old sock.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

I think he doesn't tell me about it because he thinks I'll get mad. We've never really taked about it, I just know he looks at it, then denies that he does when I ask.

It almost seems like he is embarrassed about it when I ask - like he was 'caught'. But honestly, I don't care that he does - I just hate the not telling the truth. THAT Is what bothers me, not the porn. It's the hiding.

I am trying to make things more open between us though - so he doesn't feel like he has to hide it. I asked if he could take me to a strip club soon, and we went to an Adult Store today together.

(BTW - I am moving my own thread to BTS, since this is turning into more of a BTS thread rather than C&C)

 

[F117A Active Stealth]

You guys are a bunch of sick fucks, it's this type of shit that fucks me up to get a girl, because all girls think guys are like you...

 

[sweetnes11]

Well I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Hubby has been doing it for years , He said it is the challenge to see if he can get free pictures off the internet, He does not even get hard looking at it, he said its just a thrill to get into a pay sight for free. and he likes to look at amiture pictures that people post of there wifes,and girl friends, When he finds somthing interesting he has me look, , The computer is in the living room so I see him when I watch TV or read, He only gets hard when he sees me.. We have been married for 23 years and it is not borring unless you make it that way, Try new things , new toys , Insted of looking at it for your on pleasure They to learn somthing you can try on her to make your sex life more exciting ,, OK that was my 2c

 

[Longhorn85]

Let me start by saying I don't have anything against porn (either videos, magazines or online).

But I wondering WHAT guys fascination is with it. Why do guys look at it so much?

And *should* it bother me that my guy looks at it behind my back? (although he insists that he doesn't) I find that it bothers me a little, but I feel stupid for letting it bother me. Because honestly, I don't think porn is bad, wrong, cheating, etc.

Just wondering what makes it so popular with guys....?

Daisy_Girl, I wouldn't take it personally, I'm sure your man appreciates you. Many men (like me) have a nearly insatiable sexual appetite.

 

[Dial_tone]

I guess I was way off base then......sheesh. Next time I'll save my "deep thoughts" for somewhere else.

 

[newpump]

Daisy, I think the secret here is that men are genetically pre-disposed (in general like all things genetic - you can find some men that don't conform to this "rule") to select multiple partners in order to help propigate our offspring. This is a natural thing that we have (as a society and as a necessity in today's world) changed in order to suit the modern definition of family (through legal bindings/marriage) to bring up children etc etc. Many aspects of our society and of our economy rely on this structure (I won't get into if this is a "good" thing or not - that is an opinion). This structure, no matter how well defined and "old" can not fully change "mother nature" (our genetics) and one of the throwbacks that we as males have is the desire to experience different sexual contexts. It seems that many men express this through porn (mostly innocent, although some religious/social pressure makes this practice "bad") - some express it through cheating (not as cool if you are into monogomy) and some just never "settle down". I wouldn't stress too much about it, or try and "change/confront" your man. Be secure in the fact that he has chosen you and is happy having made that selection . You probably make him SUPER happy!

 

[sweetnes11]

My basic principle re: relationships is "if you can't/won't tell your partner about it you know in your heart you shouldn't be doing it".

I agree 100%

 

[corythosaurus]

My basic principle re: relationships is "if you can't/won't tell your partner about it you know in your heart you shouldn't be doing it".

It could also mean you've got the wrong partner. Finding the right person to be open, honest, and comfortable with is not an easy thing to do. Communication is key to a healthy sexual relationship.

Porn, to me, is an aid. Like toy's or lingerie or naughty talk or erotic fiction, it's all about learning and expanding horizons and exploring things that maybe you wouldn't but definitely should.

And it's fun to watch to help rub one out.

 

[Dial_tone]

It's definitely. I love to rub out 1-2 every day. However I'm usually thinking about my fuck buddy (or Daisy) when I do.

 

[pharmguy]

This is Bullshit. I think porn is part of the reason my ex left me. On days when I got some, I didn't look at porn, On days when i didn't get any, I looked at porn. Its that simple. It wasn't out of spite or anything else, I just needed to relief! Its hard to sleep especially next to her, when I am horny. I understand she doesnt' want to give it up everynight afte 2 yearsl, but she should understand that I still need releif every night. thats it.
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[pharmguy]

I think he doesn't tell me about it because he thinks I'll get mad. We've never really taked about it, I just know he looks at it, then denies that he does when I ask.

It almost seems like he is embarrassed about it when I ask - like he was 'caught'. But honestly, I don't care that he does - I just hate the not telling the truth. THAT Is what bothers me, not the porn. It's the hiding.

I am trying to make things more open between us though - so he doesn't feel like he has to hide it. I asked if he could take me to a strip club soon, and we went to an Adult Store today together.

(BTW - I am moving my own thread to BTS, since this is turning into more of a BTS thread rather than C&C)

DG,

It may not even be that he doen't want to tell you about it out of embarasment, although thats part of it. In my case, I jjust don't want to discuss my autoerotic activities with anyone, its okay if my gf knows it going on, why must we discuss it? He would probably rather have sex with you then watch porn, but your not there 100% of the time. Its just part of being a guy.
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[DJ_UFO]

Let me start by saying I don't have anything against porn (either videos, magazines or online).

But I wondering WHAT guys fascination is with it. Why do guys look at it so much?

And *should* it bother me that my guy looks at it behind my back? (although he insists that he doesn't) I find that it bothers me a little, but I feel stupid for letting it bother me. Because honestly, I don't think porn is bad, wrong, cheating, etc.

Just wondering what makes it so popular with guys....?

The answer in one word. TESTOSTERONE. WE, like animals, have the mission of procreation. That's the only reason for what we were created. That's why we have high levels of this hormone. And that is what make us "animals". That give us that instinct of going close to a woman and feel the impulse of having sex with her (libido). We love dirty sex. We love different positions. We love doing fantasies a reality. Just because that is what animals do in mother nature. They have sex whenever they want with whoever they want 2 times, 3 times per day if they want. Since we have "intelligence" we can't do that. So we invented PORN. to satisfy our eyes and complete that pleasure with masturbation and/or sex with our partners.

 

[bluepeter]

I agree with pharmguy. If I'm totally sexually satisfied by the girl that I'm with, I have zero interest in porn. If I'm not, you know the drill.

I once dated a girl who was crazy into sex (and dirty, nasty stuff too) probably even more then me. We were together for about 3 months and I didn't look at any porn or even masturbate for the entire time. Damn I miss her...

 

[dzulboy]

Let me start by saying I don't have anything against porn (either videos, magazines or online).

But I wondering WHAT guys fascination is with it. Why do guys look at it so much?

And *should* it bother me that my guy looks at it behind my back? (although he insists that he doesn't) I find that it bothers me a little, but I feel stupid for letting it bother me. Because honestly, I don't think porn is bad, wrong, cheating, etc.

Just wondering what makes it so popular with guys....?

you rman is watching girls do things he wish you did but he doesn't cheat cause he does love you

 

[bluepeter]

Exactly

 

[Dial_tone]

It could also mean you've got the wrong partner. Finding the right person to be open, honest, and comfortable with is not an easy thing to do. Communication is key to a healthy sexual relationship.

Porn, to me, is an aid. Like toy's or lingerie or naughty talk or erotic fiction, it's all about learning and expanding horizons and exploring things that maybe you wouldn't but definitely should.

And it's fun to watch to help rub one out.

This is true. My last gf thought I had a porn addiction. I have 2 pornos which I haven't watched in years but I do look at real girl pics (think Daisy_Girl or fitness babe pics) maybe 30 minutes a day tops. I like webcams cuz I'm a voyeur but I don't even do that much.
My new girl likes porn as much as I do. The only thing she asks is that I send her the good stuff.

 

[DJ_UFO]

Re: Re: Serious Question About Porn and Guys

you rman is watching girls do things he wish you did but he doesn't cheat cause he does love you

Damn right man...that's it. If the girls is a nasty freak bitch, it's true..you don't need porn and don't need masturbation. But anyway, I'm pretty sure that after years and years you'll start looking around you for other girls...cause we are men...after years you start thinking in the smell of other women...the taste...the movement...the skin..her eyes...how she scream on the bed...her waist..her bobbies...damn we are fucked up!