orgasm question....

[Gladiola]

Gladiola - I think what is happening here (and it happens often on this board_ is that when a subject is being debated folks have a tendency to take the things the opposing view says personally.

Oh, that is not really the case with me. I posted about how I USED TO FEEL years ago when OTHER ppl would say that to me. I just feared that oicu (or anyone reading with the same problem) might have been left feeling bad & guilty the way that I had been. That was my concern.

If it ain't working for you then for godsakes change it and if it is working for you then keep doing it until it stops.

Right! Exactly! & try masturbation first & foremost & if it doesn't work for you & continues to not work for you - don't emotionally beat yourself up - try something else in addition!

Hey Starfish - there's a little "Quote" button at the bottom of the post.

 

[starfish]

Oh, that is not really the case with me. I posted about how I USED TO FEEL years ago when OTHER ppl would say that to me. I just feared that oicu (or anyone reading with the same problem) might have been left feeling bad & guilty the way that I had been. That was my concern.


Right! Exactly! & try masturbation first & foremost & if it doesn't work for you & continues to not work for you - don't emotionally beat yourself up - try something else in addition!

Hey Starfish - there's a little "Quote" button at the bottom of the post.

DUH!!! LOL!!! Now you all know I'm a blond

 

[Bikini Mod]

OK OK.... let us just agree to disagree. Me, personally my FIRST Orgasm WAS REACHED WHEN I WAS HAVING INTERCOURSE WITH A BOYFRIEND. I was 18 and still remember it like it was yesterday - LOL! He didn't "TEACH" me or "SHOW" me how to get off... it just happened that way. And I NEVER had a problem reaching orgasm after that. But NOW (a few years later - heheheh) I can honestly say that sex is A GAZILLION TIMES BETTER because I am sooooooo much free-er with my body and my views towards sex in general. If somebody had told me THEN what I KNOW NOW... I would have been like, "Yea right, whatever " So yall see my point? I ASSURE YOU - I DO UNDERSTAND YOURS because I have experienced what you are saying.....

There is no right or wrong here.

As for my question about what an orgasm feels like, it was NOT AT ALL MEANT TO BE CONDESCENDING. I was basing it ON MY OWN EXPERIENCE! Believe it or not - THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE WHO DON'T ACTUALLY KNOW WHAT AN ORGASM IS! I myself, WAS NEAR SHOCK when it DID happen to me! The big "O" was never fully explained to me and sex always felt good before I actually had one, but it WAS NOTHING compared to actually having an orgasm. For men it is so much more obvious, whereas with females.... IT IS NOT! (Beleive it or not, the first boy I was ever with consentually HAD NOT EVER HAD AN ORGASM... either that, or he didn't know what one was! He was 19, I was like 16 - FAR TOO YOUNG IMHO. After we had sex I asked him the clique, "Did you come?".... didn't even know what that meant, but I felt obligated to say it.... needing to be validated I guess... needed to be told that I "did it right". His reply: "I don't know.... did you?")

Now can you see why I asked this question VLC? Not singling you out per se... I just wanted to know if you could describe one. If one had one (even if they DIDN'T know what it was at the time) they would STILL be able to describe it - VERY EASILY. If not, then it can NOT be described as they have never had the physical sensation......

There is NO POPULARITY contest here.... just mature adults openly discussing subjects that are still (VERY SADLY) taboo for many. How can we learn if we do not disagree, debate and openly discuss?

I am THE FIRST to admit that there is STILL SO MUCH that I have and want to learn.... it matters not to me what the source: an older adult, a peer, a teen or a child - I can learn something FROM EVERYONE and I hope that this holds true until the day I die.

 

[VeggieLifterChick]

Bmom,
I'm very familiar with how good an orgasm feels. Don't worry, I really have had the experience. I had it a couple times last night, actually. If I had to describe it I would say it depends, because sometimes you have a big one and sometimes its smaller. Generally, its like a big release to the tension that gets built up, goes all through your body, kind of a tingle, kind of a rush, a little bit like the feeling ecstasy gives you. And the feeling afterwards is lovely. Very soothing. Like ahhhhhhhhhh.

Sex doesn't do it for me, yet. Only I really do it for me (but still, not by myself, only with my bf around to listen).

 

[Bikini Mod]

Heheheheheee no, no you misunderstand the question and that is my fault. I didn't phrase it correctly. Whether you have A REALLLL BIG ONE, a teeny-weeny one - or anything in between - the PHYSICAL SENSATION is STILL THE SAME.

Kind of like throwing up; whether you have dry heaves or vomit gallons of stuff: chunks of undigested food or bile alone or anything in between - WHAT PHYSICALLY HAPPENS IN YOUR BODY IS STILL THE SAME.

So let me ask again. (Not doubting that you have had one or a gazillion of 'em and I would've had one last night too... but I was too damned tired after work to get the old pump in my forearms... heheheheheee)

Please describe clinically or should I say physically what happens in the human female body when an orgasm occurs. No need for big words, it is really very simple.

Whether it is an orgasm or vomitting - good, bad or indifferent.

(Please don't feel that I am singling you out... even though it may seem that way.)

 

[VeggieLifterChick]

I told you I've had an orgasm before. That wasn't good enough for you. So I just answered your question in DETAIL. And that wasn't good enough either. I'm not a doctor so I don't know technical physiological explanations for the process of female orgasm. I'm not going to justify my answers to you again. I'm getting really annoyed with this, Bmom. Why aren't you asking the same of everyone whose boyfriend made them come, or who are within the 18-25 age range?

 

[TEXgrl]

LMFAO lobo!!!

 

[Bikini Mod]

Lobo YOU KILL ME!

VLC - I am sorry that you are getting annoyed, that was not my intention. But I must humbly disagree. You DID NOT tell me what an orgasm was. All you told me was HOW GOOD IT FELT. You don't need to be a doctor to describe vomitting, so you don't NEED to be a doctor to describe the physical mechanincs of an orgasm.

I am not questioning that YOU HAVE HAD ONE or A GAZILLION orgasms. Neither am I questioning how good or bad it felt. I am only asking if you can tell me what happens in one's body when they orgasm. It is very simple. No need for big words or which gland is responsible for releasing which hormone, etc, etc. You could be FIVE THOUSAND YEARS OLD and you would be no MORE OR LESS qualified to be able to describe what happens in one's body.

Please don't feel picked on and I am truly sorry if you feel this to be the case. I was only asking you this because you happened to be the one who said that you are not being harsh or judgemental that you are only honest to the point of being blunt. It is because YOU DESCRIBED YOURSELF in this fashion that I thought it would be ok to approach you in the same fashion.

 

[liltyson19]

oicu812, I never have either: age 21

I have never had an orgasm with a man through intercourse. I think I had one or came close when he went down on me but that is it. Everyone I know has had one and I feel like some thing is wrong with me.

 

[Temple]

I do not think it is uncommon for women in their early 20's to have never had an orgasm with a man - I was 25 before it happened with me. By myself was no problem. Girl's/Women, ahhhh to be that young again (not). I don't think there is anything wrong with you. The problem is that young women tend to sit around yakkin' about having the BIG O with the stud du'jour when the reality is that I'm guessing 90% if not more are wondering what is wrong with them as well.

As some of you know I am old but I remember 20 years ago very clearly and I don't think that damn much has changed. The problem is that most men in their late teens and early 20's don't have a clue as to how to satisfy a woman. Even the ones that try are pretty inept and usually women of that age are not confident enough to tell them what they need and how they need it. Without going into the details of life in my early 20's let's just say that the research I conducted in this area would have made one hell of a gallup poll. I also believe that as a woman ages her physiological responses change or perhaps it is what is between her ears that change. If a man has ever been with a woman that truly has an orgasm I don't know how a woman could fake it with him after that and get away with it.

I think this thread has given alot in the way of ideas to get everyone who it is not happening for on the road to making it happen - everyone is different. Stressing over it will guarantee that it won't happen.

And finally, I want everyone to know that for the FIRST time Lobo has left me speechless. All I want to know baby is - was it as good for her as it was for you?