Newbie, need help and ? for the Guys

[angel_eyes]

Big Easy, thank you for being eloquent enough to state how I already feel about myself 99% of the time.

I was feeling uncomfortable after the huge weight gain from medication I was taking. Now that I have worked to get rid of it, I guess there was some lingering doubt left.

This is probably the main reason why I attract so many men naturally. I have been told my intelligence, personality, and natural beauty make men suffer and obsess for me. (I honestly do not know why) I just consider myself an average gal and do not obsess about what can not be fixed.

Again, thank you. Your reply should be framed and kept by all women.

 

[Hannibal]

***question for the guys*** If you are a major hard body, would someone with my "flaws" and everyday body type be a major turnoff??? I get more than my share of male attention, and never have had any complaints. I have never dated someone that was so buff, this is making me insecure. What do you think??

Well angel_eyes...this is just my opinion and probably does not pertain to anyone else. There are so many things to a woman that makes them attractive. And what you see as "flaws", being your own worst critic, might not be seen the same by members of the opposite sex. I personally am more attracted to the way a woman carries herself...and her personality than physical dimensions. Don't get me wrong, the initial attraction is almost always physical...hard to "see" a woman's personality from across the room. But after that...a healthy relationship is based on much more than that...I would hope. If a man cannot accept you for who you are...then find another man. If you change just to please him you will be lyin to yourself. Besides a woman with "angel eyes" is a thing of beauty

 

[Sassy69]

"Stretch marks" - just say your body has had to adjust itself to accomodate your greater than average number of attributes! This would imply that the woman with "perfect skin" probably is a great package, but nuthin but a box of air inside... LOL!

 

[angel_eyes]

I am staying on this board for good now, everyone here is great!!

 

[Flexx]

EAT MORE!!!!!!!! especially protein, enough said about that. I agree with those before me. Yes, I am shallow enough to admit that the initial attraction is physical. I have learned from experience that those who are beautiful on the outside are usually ugly on the inside. I know there are some exceptions (me for example ) But after the initial atrraction if I don't like what you have to offer as a person I have no interest. We guys might actually suprise you by not being completly superficial. Bottom line is do this for yourself not because you want to attract a certain type of person. You omitted one stat, age? Good luck with your goals angel eyes. Learn from these knowledgeable gals around here. Us guys will be more than happy to tell you what we look for in a woman. You already sound like you have one of the most important ingredients, a positive attitude.


ps
Yes I am a moajor hardbody, at least that's the lie I hear when I go out. Like you I tend to see an ordinary person when I look at myself.

 

[angel_eyes]

Thanks again for all the advise everyone has been generous enough to offer. This is really helping me keep motivated.

For the past few days I have tried eating more and finding it extremely difficult. I am eating smaller meals and adding snacks. It is making me feel really like my stomach is really bloated. I have been drinking as much water as possible, more than a gallon a day.

**Any help on what a daily meal plan should consist of would be really helpful for me. I am 30 years old, 5'5 and 125lbs. My goal is to not be "skinny fat" I need to loose body fat and let the muscle I have show.

I am going to get my exact body fat measured sometime next week and will let you know. I hate to say that it is probably 25-28% I really have no clue.

I realize when I look in the mirror, I am being my own worst critic. I receive compliments daily on my overall appearance. Because I can fit in a size 2-4 does not make me overall fit. Try explaining that to your friends. They constantly say I look too thin!!

Thank you for your replies and support.

 

[tripleV]

r u hitting the weights girl? you gotta expend the energy too. and if you're stomach is feeling bloated, don't eat so much at one sitting. break it up, even if it means you eat 8 times or 10 times a day for now...i sometiems think i eat ALL day long!

 

[tripleV]

and i know how you feel about your appearance! we are all our worst critics. but you WILL get there no doubt! Then you will be proud to share your pics. BTW did you take pics to judge your progress. I think it's the best progress monitor.

 

[tripleV]

oh yeah, and i'm a size 10! we are all different sizes and prefer different looks!

 

[angel_eyes]

Thanks again for your advice. It is really appreciated.

I have been hitting the weights harder. I even do small things, such as carry hand weights up and down the stairs. When I get to the bottom, I will do one or two sets of biceps curls, or squats.

When I am at computer, I will focus and sitting up straight and pulling in my abs. I will also take five minute stretch periods here and there to remain flexible.

As far as food intake, I have been breaking it up. Just small portions 4-5 times a day. Still feel like I am eating too much.